Honestly can a guy be close friends with a women?

yeah, it does make sense. okay

 

u 2 are just tooo cute

 

You guys honestly, seriously don't think a man and woman can just be friends? All sarcasm and shit aside?

 

I do think men and women could be friends. But at one point or another, there is going to be some sexual implication or advancement, imo. I love male company. I have a friend that I have known for a decade now, and we have never fucked. We have gone out to eat, gone bowling, gone shopping together, and many other things. We are there for eachother on a real level. If I was hurt or in need, I know that he would be there for me, and vice versa. But, despite our love for eachother as friends, I think there is still a natural curiosity between us. Nothing we would act on, but it's there.

Lola's conclusion- Yes. Men and women can be friends, but, your probably going to think about boning at one point or another.

 

I have gay and straight male friends that I've known for years. So for this woman, it is possible to be friends with a guy.

 

hmm...interesting

A single guy and a single girl cannot be freinds. UNLESS...the girl is HOT, and might introduce you to her HOT circle of friends

But i do have "some" close female friends though. Most are African women that share something in common with me. Childhood memories for example, we understand the same jokes and laughter, I dont see myself befriending a white women, "just to be friends"....its either i have it all, or i dont want nothing at all...

So can a man really be "close friends" with a woman?......Basically..... NO

Male friends are like vultures patiently awaiting the death of a relationship. If you are HOT and single (sometimes hotness is no prerequisite) they will simply wait a while for an opportunity(while simultaneously warning you and keeping you away from other men)

I think it is possible to start off as "just friends" and eventually become "close friends", but if the man is not involved at the time youre "close freinds"...he will eventually start falling for you(or at least hitting on you)

The only exceptions are if:
1. The man does not find you attractive, in which case he might not even continue the relationship
2. The man is happily taken
3. The man is gay

There may also be some other extraordinary reasons that I am not aware of (after all miracles do happen), but this unfortunately is how things are. The only "close" female freinds I have to this day are African women that share something in common with me. We share a joke or two, and reminisce "the good old days", but these are not just female friends to me, as I see them as being more like "sistas" for the most part.......white women on the other hand, i dont see myself being "close friends" with one, as we likely wont have anything in common, unless said white women is African.

peace

 

Yes as friends but NO as best friends.

 

Dishonestly, yes...

...honestly, not by choice.

This reminds me of the movie Love & Basketball. Actually, it reminds me of Brown Sugar, too.

Personally, I can only be true friends with a woman in the sense that we are talking about here under one condition. That condition is the same as I hold all of my friendships. My friends and I look out for each other. This includes introducing each other to girls that we think would be compatible. (Well, when the fellas were single, this is how we did it.) If she can honestly do that without catching feelings, then we can be friends. That's just one off the cuff example.

A guy can be close friends with his lover (at least I would hope so).

But, since the OP was probably speaking of close platonic friends, HONESTLY, I would say no. That HONESTLY part is what kills it. If a man is honest with himself, his emotions and his attraction towards her, he is going to have to express that at some point. The suppression of that honesty could lead to bitterness and resentment.

Basically (I know this doesn't sound nice), but if we're you're friend and we think you're attractive, we want to sleep with you.

But don't take my word for it, though. If you'd like to test this, send a text message to all of your guy friends asking them if they would sleep with you if they had a chance. I almost willing to bet that even the gay guys would say that if they were straight, they'd do it.

 

Co-sign.I do think it depends...a woman that is considered "attractive" might not really be what her male friend is interested in. An athletic blonde with a pretty face and large boobs sounds nice to many...and if I have a friend like that...I'd have no problem looking at her...but that doesn't mean we can't be friends because she's not really my natural "type"....you can be attracted to a person but not interested in any thing more

 

I've been best friends with a guy for 11 years. At first, I'd say there was a crush, but as we got to know one another, it became strictly platonic. He got married about 4 years ago, and it was a tough adjustment for his wife in the beginning. But now we are ALL great friends. It can happen, but I would agree that it is very rare.

 

I've heard that from many men. And it's been very sad sometimes. But I'm sticking to the statement that I made above: it is possible for me to be friends with men. Just not with ALL men.

 

Of course.I have fremale friends,and I have a ready ear when I need a "woman`s perspective" on a given situation.We found out that we get along great and have fun together,but it didn`t work out romantically.The plus side to having a platonic friendship with women,is they have PLENTY of girlfriends,sisters,cousins,coworkers etc and it`s good to have someone put in a good word for you

 

I can have close guy friends, but my man can't have close girl friends.

 

I don't want to sound rude but i think thats not fair at all

 

First, I should have worded this much better:

I can understand why you'd be sad if the friendship was simply based on the guy wanting to get with you by using the old fake friends first method. To me, that's not very friend-like at all.

I'm still curious about the outcome of this.

I think the point of all this is that if the man and the woman are not attracted to each other, it can work. There is a distinction to be made between simply finding someone attractive and being attracted to that person.

Here's my question, though: is being sexually attracted to someone and close friendship mutually exclusive?

 

Are men & women only capable of interacting with each other on a sexual basis whether openly or in a secret lusting manner? Based on the majority of posts, that seems to be the case. That is disconcerting. Why is it possible for some (ok me specifically) to be friends with an attractive male and have no desire to get into his pants? Are most interactions in a man's life sex based or is there the potential for something beyond? Is the same for most women?

To answer your question drklvr4u, I think it is possible to be attracted to someone and still be their friend. It's a matter of controlling oneself so that one isn't confused with a dog in heat with uncontrollable urges. We can rise above dogs in heat n'est pas?

 

I have close gay male friends, and that is all. Most of the men I've become close with have fallen into two categories:

1. We eventually ended up dating or sleeping together
2. We are co-workers and/or they are married

I don't know if I would generalize and say that men and women can't be friends, but I know I can't be friends with a man. I usually only closely associate with men I am attracted to.

I've tried to be friends with two different men on two different occasions; 6 months apart. After going on 1-2 dates with each man I told him I wasn't interested in pursuing a romantic relationship, but would be open to a friendship. In both cases the friendships didn't go over well. Both men claimed they were okay with only being friends but their behavior and comments showed me they were hoping I would change my mind. I thought it would be cruel to continue being friends since they both obviously liked me so I ended each friendship. Strangely enough, BOTH men subjected me to the whiny, "Nice guys can't win" speech after I ended it.

 

I agree except for one thing. It's semantics, really. I'm not attracted to my friends. Seeing as how many of my friends are guys, this makes sense. I generally don't call women that I am friendly with my friends because of what you stated above.

When I say attracted to someone, I am speaking of that visceral urge to want to do something with them. Finding someone attractive, to me, is simply my way of acknowledging their general aesthetic appeal i.e. "Yeah, she's cute". To me, that's a huge difference.

Controlling my base urges is something that I am capable of doing only for a limited amount of time. In the States, many men have pretty much been raised to do that all of our lives anyway. In my opinion, that's one of the reasons being friends with a woman doesn't work. Because when we do find ourselves face to face with a woman that we are genuinely attracted to, we don't even know how we are supposed to act, so what do we do? We befriend her.

 

Men don't have female friends....they're just women they haven't fucked yet. They might have a few female friends, but it was just someone they were trying to fuck, took a wrong turn, and ended up in the friend zone.

Women have male friends....it's called a dick in a glass case....break open in case of emergency.

-Chris Rock, paraphrased a bit, because I don't have it memorized...-