My Best Friend's Girlfriend Likes Me

So, my best friend just bought a new house and his g/f of 5 year has been casually flirting with me.

The first couple of nights that I came over his place, I noticed his g/f was touching my arms and shoulders. Not to mention, we're all drinking whenever I come over so that probably doesn't help things.

So, prior to hooking up w/ him, she was seeing this black guy but I guess things never went very far.

Furthermore, the past few times I've gone to their place she's casually been touching me.

The other day my buddy called me up to come over for drinks and he was saying how she likes when I come over.

He then proceeds to say, "Yeah, she doesn't really care for anyone else coming over here but she likes when you come over. Yeah, she likes you a lot. In a joking voice he says, "I hope she doesn't like you too much. So much that she wants to replace me with you."

I reply in the same joking voice, "Oh no! That would never happen. That's definitely never gonna happen!"

So, we casually laugh it off and meanwhile his g/f is sitting next to him while we're having this conversation.

I was just at his place the other day for Superbowl and while we were sitting on the couch she pulls out her camera, grabs me and pulls me close to her and starts snapping pics. After so many pics, she then shows some attention to my buddy, takes a few with him, and then goes back to getting some more w/ me.

At that point I felt kind of akward but didnt make a scene or anything.

Now, yes I do think she's attractive and she and I have both made the 'eye contact' a few times but I don't want to backstab my buddy in any way. Yes, I have had sexual thoughts about her but that's it. I don't dwell on it or continuously do it.

Anyone else had similar experiences w/ their friends and their partners flirting or hitting on you? Even while they're with their partners?

And for the record, yes he's a WM and she's a WW.

 

What you're telling me indicates light flirting. She may be interested but also unwilling to act on it. Either way if you value your friendship, walk away and cut down on your visits.

 

Its definitely just light flirting but I don't want anything more to happen.

Yeah, I think I'm going to go to his house less often.

 

oh god, what a horrible situation...
O___o

Be sneaky and tell your mate that you wanna hang out with just him for a change, so you can change the hangin out to something you do with just him and not both.

What sort of a girl is this anyway.. who flirts with their partners friend?

 

I say clear the air with her and tell her how you feel about the situtation. if you were wrong on the intentions then apologize. However if you were right then just tell her she is cool and all but you dont feel right with all the flirting :smt024

 

I disagree. Bringing it up may cause unnecessary grief. Just distance yourself a little, and if she was at all into you, maybe she'll then get the hint.

 

there is a huge risk with telling her about your suspicions, if you were right but she doesn't want to admit it, she might get hurt and act all psychobitchy (it happens) and tell your friend that YOU are hitting on HER.

 

agree 100% with Scylly

 

me too im with the both of u

 

Don't say anything to yours friend....

 

You're right. I'm not going to say anything.

Hey, that might not be a bad idea.

 

Some WM are fucked ( ops excuse me ) lol...He probably wants to see you @@@@@@ his gf...it might be one of her fantasies and your buddy knows about it ...they might both just test you

 

I really don't think that's the case and if it is, I'm not going back.

 

I would take charge of any interaction with you and her.
Be blunt and make it clear that you are totally not into her.
so, if she grabs your arm, pull away
if she takes a photo, tell her to stop after one (or whatever is reasonable to take of people at a friendly gathering, etc).
ignore her if you have to.

And, I agree also that you should just limit contact in general. try to see your friend by himself if you can. Invite him to yours instead of you to theirs.

Either way, if your friend thinks that she's in any way into you, you will get tarnished anyway, so it's best to make every effort to not care about her at all.

And, unless she becomes so obvious, too invasive or verbalises any feelings, don't confront her about it.

My 2c worth.

 

I agree with the rest, limit all contact with her. If she gets bolder and more touchy feely make it clear that you're not into her.

 

Going off of the topic alone, I can say that I had a similar situation, when I was sharing an apartment with a few guys at college. One of the guys had an attractive looking girlfriend, with blond hair and hazel eyes, who would always play around with me and give me funny looks. Maybe it was because she never seen a black man before, or maybe it was because she wanted to jump on a bone. I never made a move because she was my roommate's girl, and I would not screw one of my boys over like that.

A few years ago online, she admitted that she really liked me (wanting to be my girlfriend), but was not sure if I felt the same way about her. I guess she wanted me to step in and steal her away from my boy.

:smt115

 

Don't do any of this, you are not a woman so you don't have "pull away" or be catty. Keep it cordial and diplomatic, but also subtly let her know through your body language you will not proceed in a sexual manner with her. Women are far better students of body language than men and it should be enough to convince her to chill out.

 

But many women see what they want to see.
So, if he doesn't make any change to their interaction the way it is now, it's unlikely that she will change. And unless he's totally rude, or obviously not into her, she make interpret this as being "she has a chance"...so, IMO, better to make it totally obvious to all.
The comments I made were as much about protecting his ass as it was about making sure he's comfortable.
If his mate senses anything at least it will be obvious that SoCal wasn't encouraging it in any way.

 

I agree with you on this.

They may be trying to get you into a 3some or whatever.

just be cautious. something fishy is going on if she is flirting with you out in the open in plain sight of her boyfriend.