race and family

I'm spending a week in my hometown, a suburb of Cleveland, Ohio, for the holidays. I saw my father's family yesterday (my father is deceased.) My father has six brothers and sisters who range in socio-economic status from trailer park resident to island owner. The island-owner uncle made several horribly racist remarks and I was absolutely mortified.

It is very likely that one day, I will marry a bm and have children. I can handle my immediate family, but I don't know what I'm going to do with the rest of them.

Do any of you have racist family members? How do you deal with them?

 

Find a well-off and educated BM. That way you can say "yes, he's black, but he has a master's and his own house." They won't argue... they want you to get hitched already, woman.

 

I do CSbean, and I have made it clear to them that racist remarks are best kept to themselves and that it's completely inappropriate to voice those when I am around. I don't care who it is, their age or status, the racist comments are off limits. I'm fortunate in that they respect that request. Good luck.

 

I have one Uncle on my dads side like this also, when it actually came down to him meeting my husband at a family function, i did not hear a peep of any racial comments then or after, his demeanor will probably change when face to face with your man of choice

 

What did Mr island-owner say?

 

Yeah, what DID he say?

 

dont let the hate get to you thats what they want

 

You don't want to know; it was idiotic.

Ain't that the truth. Since I've turned 27, it's all anyone ever asks me anymore. :roll:

 

If daddy or uncle have anything to say...I will open the door and lead the way outside so we can brawl like gentleman...and if they want to play dirty...you might find out how handy a certain ChosenOne can be with a knife! That's how I see it...we either fight and bust your head in...or you hush and keep the racist comments inside your brain.

 

curious

 

WE'LL FUCK DEM UPPPP, DAWG!

 

i love that sesame street badass pic

 

Fortunately my and my wife's side don't have any like that. If I were you I would float at the next family gathering the idea that you many marry a black guy. Let mr. island owner start venting now and get it out of his system.

 

I hear that. My family has been on my case since I turned 27 last year. Now, my mother's sisters keep asking if I'm gay every time I see them. It's going to get worse because unless I meet someone spectacular, I'm not getting married anytime in the foreseeable future.

 

That never gets old.

 

And that spectacular someone will be a very lucky lady, Raocha!:smt058

 

Thanks Mosk.

 

Some of my family are kinda racist. Not the "I won't sit in the same restaurant as you", but the kinda "I don't have any problem being your friend, but I will still occasionally talk negatively about your race". I just ignore it.

Back in like 8th though grade I was in LA and my cousin and I were visiting one of our other cousins, and she was annoying the hell out of me saying shit like "Oh you go to a white school with all those white kids", without her dumbass knowing that I'm coming from the most racially diverse city in the country, which I explained to her. It pissed me off because she kept repeating it over and over, and there was no getting through to her hard-headed ass.

 

The majority of my family members are at least passively racist; some are more open about it than others. Some are racist because they're stupid, others because they're ignorant.

I deal with it by not dealing with it. The great thing about living nearly on the other side of the country is that the people I date don't have to deal with my family. I generally get a lot of negative comments when I come home to visit (not so much this time,thankfully, but I think that's because it's Christmas) about the guys I date. I just tell them to shut up, that I don't want to be hearing that shit, and if they want to act like that then I guess I'll just have to talk to everyone but them. I don't tolerate racism, and my family knows this. who I date is my own business, not theirs.

the good news is that my family is slowly coming to accept that yes, I date black men, and there's nothing wrong with it, but it still makes them uncomfortable. I worry more about the people in the community reacting badly than my family, honestly, because there are a lot of dangerous, ignorant, retarded rednecks around here. But it's all good, because I don't live here and I never plan on moving back unless I have no other choice.

Tell your uncle to sod off. Unless you want to try and inherit his money. Then tell him to sod off nicely.

 

my family aren't they loved my ex like a daughter, my uncles, aunts cousins never said anything but even if they were racist ditto no one can tell me who to marry I don't care if when I get married no one from my family shows.

And if anyone had a problem in my family about who I date i'd cut them off and never speak to them again