Do you and your partner talk about race?

We do it terms of how it impacts us as a couple. Can't pretend that the entire world is opne minded.

 

Well I'm not quite in a relationship.

But yes I've discussed it with any man I've dated. I have white and black children (not mixed)....it's something that impacts me every day. It's not something that I really think about every day. But for me, it's important that I end up with someone who is secure with it all. That's also one of the reasons why I don't know that I could be with someone who has not been in a relationship with a ww.

While I've never had any blatant negative incident....I also know reality and I have traveled enough to know that things can be very different in different areas.

I think it's important to talk about this, just like any part of a relationship. It only helps strengthen the unity.

 

well, yes. I tend to end up discussing politics (no shit), so it's bound to come up sooner or later.
Also, dating some of the guys here will inevitably force you to listen to someone badmouthing the whole african continent except for their own country, lol..

It comes up more in terms of language, I have a hard time bridging that issue since it's so important to me to be understood and to understand.

 

Same. Co-sign

 

Sounds familiar.

 

Hmm, are you implying that I'm badmouthing the whole european continent except for my own country? For the records: My country is shit, I don't think there is any place I badmouth more then this one..

 

I'm talking about Africans badmouthing the entire African continent except their country.

 

All of us who date interracially realize that there will be those who disapprove of it. We must not let their biases impact our relationships :smt023

 

Come to think about it, nope, we don't. I don't remember the last time we talked about anything race related or about our races. Hmm.

 

That's a good thing too. It's good to see it as what it is: A relationship just like any other

 

I think once you have an established relationship it's probably not really something that would come up ...unless there was some issue/incident or something.

 

Ah ok, wait, I'm just gonna lower the defences again.. *climbing down from barricades*.
I never got that by the way, whats so horribly wrong with being honest about your own countries problem..

 

It doesn't make you attractive to a potential romantic interest?

 

Eh, yeah, because insight and honesty are such dealbreakers, aren't they..

 

Seduction's mostly sleight-of-hand, smoke and mirrors.

 

yeah, and sex is just a social construction. pain is just an illusion. It's just electro-impulses and patterns of habit.

 

Your word-fu is strong.

 

hiiya! *makes weird fighting pose*

 

There is nothing more to teach you, young padawan.

 

hmmm I'm sortof thinking it should be my place to say....my work here is done.