Ok I have a really life situation...need some feed back

But she's a wee hair's breath from 20, Doc.:smt108

And, according to moms, she wants some o' dat Nephrologist!:smt047

 

If you are interested then fantastic >> go for it! I just supplied my first gut instinct about the situation. There's cultures where arranged relationships are the norm (I'm not suggesting that's what this is) and the Mom probably has an excellent view of your compatibility through working with you and knowing her daughter. She might be on to something.

 

In the most meticulous manner. . proceed with caution my brother. This scenario could unfold gloriously for you or it can become a catastrophic disaster for a man in your professional position . . . the actions of this mother are very unusual and very questionable. The bait has been put before you . . . examine every angle before you bite.

 

Kill yourself.

 

That's no useful advice, Sat...

 

I gave you rep for this one.

 

i didn't read all the thread (it's damn long!) but I think it's odd too. I mean, untill the mother thought u were like 25 it's ok, she just wanted to hook u up with her daughter... but now that she knows that u r 35.... uhm. Don't know, I smell some pervertion... lol. Anyways u can meet the girl and see what happens.

 

Sounds like a potential mother/daughter tandem engagement.

 

I agree with this totally, dont mess with people connected with your work, it gets messy and believe me ive done it! so i know

Also i do think its a little odd her Mother is setting her up, very unusual in my opinion, wait to meet her before you committ to a date it may turn out she has turrets, or some kind of Mother and Daughter thing going on ICK!

 

I have not finished reading the thread, but CS and Francie have given sound advice. From a BM's perspective, I would simply tell you to avoid this situation totally. It seems very strange to me, particularly due to the age of the daughter and the mom's actions. As a nurse, her mom should have had some idea of your age just based on your role in the hospital and the type of doc you are. There will be many other chances for you to meet and date attractive, appealing WW. Let this one go.

 

don't shit where you eat , even indirectly
Trust me, I tried it.

 

Its not really odd that a mother would want to fix her daughter up with someone she may think is a "good catch" or that her daughter would like. The odd thing is the age, because of the big age difference.

I'm guessing the girl has seen you and would like to go out with you ?

 

I'm guessing the girl has seen you and would like to go out with you ?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]



yeah apparently she showed the daughter my pic off the hospital website

 

I don't think it's odd for a 19 year old to be interested in an older, attractive doctor.In this situation it's mom who is giving me the creeps. I have daughters and I wouldn't be pushing to hook my 19 year old up with a 35 year old under any circumstances.

 

I'm a mother, I have only one daughter, I would never, ever, ever set her up with someone 15 years her senior, I would never, ever, ever give any man her phone number, especially when she was 19. I believe in older men being healthy for girls of that age, it's just that I would never do it. If a loving mother was really trying to be a match maker, she would introduce you two, (Christmas Party at work, etc.) not go around showing off pics, and giving out phone numbers.

The only reason I can think of that a loving mother may do such a thing is that she is trying to get her daughter distracted from some disaster situation she's in or looking toward going into. So that the daughter would then not care about her other issues. You are a great distraction to rebellion.

My bet is the daughter is in trouble with her love life and mom thinks you would out shine whomever she's currently looking at.

So I say, absolutely leave it alone, you are a doctor, with presumably some social status, and a nasty problem with a 19 year old could look real bad if it ever got out.

I honestly believe this is a case of mom trying to hook her daughter up with someone she thinks the daughter would be attracted to, so as to distract her from someone else. If she hasn't tried to introduce you two, then the daughter probably wouldn't go out with you anyway, it's probably just mom's wish. Or like others have said, it's mom who likes you.

 

Meal ticket?