Do You Always Take the High Road?

Ok so I really don't go looking for trouble and most of the time I don't pay any attention to the garbage out there. I may have a few stock silly comments for those who might ask me stupid questions about my daughter, but for the most part when I come across ignorance I take the high road.

I've tried some online dating sites. I was on one that is not an IR site and a white man approached me who lives rather close to me and he seemed really interested and I was trying to be open. On my profile the heading said something with SBM in it and there was a comment in the text about my having a multi-racial family and interracial blah blah blah. I did that because some on here have advised that...saying that it helps black men to know when it's ok to approach.

So I figure ok this guy read my profile and maybe I should give him a chance and we chatted. At one point I asked him (because I tend to be overly curious) about his choosing to approach a woman with the information I had in my profile. Well turned out he didn't know what SBM was and didn't pay any attention to any of it. He did say he had seen a photo that I had with my kids. When I let him know what it meant his whole demeanor changed. He said I was of no use and so on. So I wished him well and shut down the IM and deleted him. That was some weeks back.

Today I get an IM popping up from him and he starts calling me all sorts of really nasty names....I figured out how to put him on the ignore list so he can't send me any more messages.

But for a moment I really felt like going off on him. I thought - you know...why do I always have to take the high road? I mean some people out there are just so completely obnoxious and should really be put in their place.

I know I'll probably always try to be civil about it all.

I was just wondering though what others have done when approached by morons?

 

Im so sorry you had to exsperience that kind of shite, especially when you were up front and posted your previous afilliations, im not sure what i would have done in your situation, i hope i would have taken the high road you did but somehow i cant see myself doing that.
I probably would have got a damn sight nastier on his ass than you did, but im a person who can pitch a fight without it upsetting me long term, it sounds like you chose the wisest path, but aint it a damn shame that this man didn't get a bit of what hes giving out straight back at him:smt084

If you have an opportunity, tell him to kiss your ass :butthead:
or not

 

sorry to hear that. take the high road.

 

You know taking the high road is more for oneself I think than it is for others.

In this case getting upset and telling him off may have helped you to feel better for now, but is it really worth it to let that peice of scum steal a day from you?

Because when I let go on someone, I usually stew about it all day, it really isn't worth it to me. There is very little I get upset about anymore, and I live a very peaceful life really.

You did the right thing!!

 

KNCA... when somebody calls you nasty names, you put them on the ignore list. You take the high road with family... friends... not some asshole on the internet.

Talking about being approached by morons, a man wrote to me today "Is it okay if I'm married with one child?" :smt043:smt043:smt043

 

Sorry to hear about your experience.

I don't usually get approached by morons. But those times I have, how I react deepens on how tired I am. If I'm tired I just want to be left alone, then I'll ignore it. Otherwise I'll take up a "fight". Then at least I know I stood up for myself.

 

Did you tell him to ask his wife?

And yah good point...I tend to be too kind to those who don't matter sometimes. I have all that mental stuff about karma in life.

 

Unfortunately some people don't show their true feelings until after they've wasted your time for a bit. I don't think I'm really cut out for dating sites. Somehow I've kept trying though.

 

No but I'll do it right now.:smt058

Ignoring him is good for your karma! Removing a negative energy from your life.

 

Sometimes people need to be put in their place. I've gotten all kinds of nasty IMs since I got with my ex boyfriend and people found out I was dating a black guy. My favorites are the ones from nerdy white guys who try to date me and get pissed and call me racist when I point out that I'm not really attracted to white guys.

I take the high road a lot more in real life than I do online. Online I don't care, because ignorance and rudeness do not deserve politeness from me. Away from the computer I tell people off in nicer ways. Usually.

I just don't take shit from people. If someone wants to say something rude to me then they're an idiot if they expect me to not respond in kind. I earn my karma points by being a fucking nice person And by telling people off when my friends can't.

 

I'm famous for taking the high road. Mostly because when I've tried to tell someone off I don't end up feeling any better. I usually end up feeling negative even longer. So why devote any more time to negative feelings? No, I'd rather just move on. Oh, or maybe get a laugh out of it. Morons often present great opportunities to experience laughter.

 

no point in arguing with ppl over the internet. it wont help.
I had a huuuuge discussion with a guy this spring over some site.. He was into BDSM and called himself "natural dominant" (translation: total wanker) and I politely explained that I had no interest in having any sort of relationship with a man that expected me to call him sir and walk around naked in a leash all day. His reply? "yes you do" more or less, although it took him about one page to tell me that. I started to rant about the stupidness of assuming that the pseudo-rules of BDSM actually applied to normal humans and that he should just stfu and disappear. It didn't work.
He wanted to "tame" me. WANKER. The last mail I wrote was "I'm sorry, SIR, but you and your penis isn't allowed in the same postcode area as me anymore, since the idea of you traumatizes my sexuallity so bad that I had to become a nun and cut of my own clitoris to prevent myself from ever risking sleeping with someone who was even remotely like you. Now go away". He STILL thought he would get me, but I just gave up answering him after that. There is no helping some. It took two months before he gave up.

But as for people who go for the name calling, just block them. Or call them wankers and then block them. I always get really upset if people gives me shit even over the internet, but theres no point.
Remember:

 

I always take the high road, screw the ingorance of someone else, as God says vengeance is his