How can you tell if a women is interested in you?

I was with my ex for nearly 3 years, so i never noticed or cared or looked at other women etc., so now being single even though im only 23 I feel so washed up and out of the loop.

 

There are a lot of different views on this site as to what a lady does to show whether she's interested or not. I personally tend to smile and make eye contact a lot, just to be friendly even when I'm not flirting. But it gets miss-understood.

Even if I'm interested in a guy chances are I won't let him know right away. Eventually I do let him know, but that's usually something I say that is rather direct. It isn't suttle.

So you may just want to get to know girls you like on a personal level, then once you are good friends see if there's potential to take it to the next step. I don't really know what else to tell you but I'm sure you'll get plenty of suggestions.

 

You're not ready. I, for one, wouldn't want to go on a date with you. You'd sit there with a sour face and complain about your ex the whole damn time instead of focusing on ME.

Give it some time dude, you'll get over it. You'll be surprised when you do.

 

I agree with Mosk here. You really need to get yourself to a place where you have healed and aren't bitter about women and relationships.

Then you'll know because she'll tell you to bring her flowers! (ok I'm kidding.....that's just how Mosk does it :smt043)

 

Aww sweetie, don't feel that way at all.

I've seen your pics- cute, cute! You could melt or break hearts with those eyes if you wanted.

If someone is interested, she will probably do the following
play with hair
mimic your gestures
laugh at whatever you say, even if it's not that funny
etc

Some are very closed lipped/faced though (myself included when I first meet someone) so don't be so sure.

Don't spend so long thinking about how you are down on your game, or whether she is interested. Just ask her for a coffee, a dance at the club, a drink, whatever, and see what happens. She'll either say yes, or no, and there's your answer.

Though women might not admit it at first, in most situations we all pretty much know whether they wanna freak you or get to know you more within about two minutes of meeting you. If she is already interested, you can only blow it by saying something really stupid.

 

I haven't seen my ex since February, but still on tonight's date I was complaining about him so much that my date asked me to please cut it out.

You literally have to watch yourself and not bring up the ex. The date doesn't want to hear it.

 

First of all, you are not washed up! For heaven sakes! Before I was 23, I had three guys break up with me in the SHITTIEST WAYS POSSIBLE. We are talking cheating, lying and flat out just STOPPED TALKING TO ME. And I had basically just started dating in my 20s. This was not a good intro to relationships.

I must be part duck or something though b/c that shit just rolled right off my back. Its not like I didn't have trust issues, but during my single time I just tried to really focus on myself and my own thing. Then the next two guys I dated- for 1.5 and 2.5 years respectively, were amazing. I don't have an unkind word to say about them, and I didn't bring any of that past into my new relationships because those guys didn't deserve to be burdened with the fact I made a few bad choices or trusted the wrong people. I still love these to guys to pieces and I consider them two of my best friends.

Honestly, if you let one bad relationship from the past ruin a good one in the future than you prob don't deserve one of those good people. I love all your posts on this site, they are FUCKING HILARIOUS. You are a hot, hilarious 23 year old, I am confused where the washed up part comes from? But if you see yourself that way so will everyone else.

Second of all, every woman is different, but if she seems to be paying special attention to you, she likes you. I make serious eye contact and will find reasons to touch a guys forearm, back etc. Plus I am always finding excuses to talk, text, hang out, whatever. And as I said, you are funny, so my guess is if you find yourself laughing an inordinate amount with someone that is probably a good sign she is into you. A good laugh with a cute boy is like a mini-orgasm for the mind and body.

 

Yes! Yes! Yes!

 

Ha ha! I know. I just came up with that and I was like, damn. That is so true.

 

Toronto, you are not washed up!

I do understand where you are coming from as I felt (briefly) that I'd thrown away the best years of my life with my ex-husband. Felt like I was coming out of a cave to emerge into a dating scene and I had no idea what I was doing. lol

Now, to let a man know I am interested I am completely honest and tell him "I find you fascinating and I want to see you again. Let's have lunch together on Tuesday..." etc. I just flat out lay it on the line. I cannot speak for other women, but I will literally tell someone I like them/I'm interested/get nakked now --- you know that kinda thing, lol. I guess the cave rubbed off some of the finesse of "hinting" and other such wiley ways...

Good luck!

 

MOsk.... u r damn right about it.... Toronto... she didn't even spend hours on messenger with u and she knows the truth! lol.

 

nah I think im healed i guess, maybe I'm bitter but if anyone knew my full story they would be bitter as well, i just can't take being alone it sucks.

damn i sound depressed.

 

awww babyboy :smt056

 

Toronto - for every story someone has there are many more out there that are much worse. People often think they are the only ones or that they had it worse than anyone else.

You aren't ready to be with someone until you have gotten past the bitter stuff and are at a point where it's about what you are going to bring to someone else.

Usually once you become really ok with being alone then that shifts.

 

It does get better, Really It Does! people do shitty things its just the way things are, when you are ready you will feel better and move on, there is no defined timeframe different people have different lengths.
You just need to prep for the time off letting go but in the meantime being depressed and bitching is part of the course when you have been wounded.

 

I think I'm in love

WhiterShadeOfPale - I've read several of your posts and I totally dig you! Are you in CA by any chance?:wink: