Looks or Personality?

Discussion in 'The Attraction Between White Women and Black Men' started by untitled1985, Dec 12, 2008.

  1. untitled1985

    untitled1985 Member

    and why?
     
  2. jaisee

    jaisee Well-Known Member

    Both.

    Doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous, but attractive enough to make me want to initiate contact. From there, personality takes over. Looks do fade, after all.
     
  3. Liquid Swords

    Liquid Swords New Member

    I would have said looks a while back but I've realised that looks sure as hell aren't much.

    Like Big Daddy said, the person has to be attractive enough for me to want to speak to them initially, as we all know there has to be some sort of physical attraction as superficial as it is.

    After that though the person has to have a good personality, or at least compatible with mine. I've met some amazing looking guys but their personality has been so dull. Absolutely nothing in common and we just haven't been able to connect on a personal, emotional level.

    So as great as guys that look like Tyson Beckford are if they haven't got an equally as beautiful personality to match then they aren't much.

    So, I'm going to say personality because if it came down to it, there's more chance I'd have a better relationship with a less attractive person with a nice personality.

    We all get tired of bad boys after a while.
     
  4. FEHG

    FEHG Well-Known Member

    Personality. Always.

    If the person has a good personality, they can keep me entertained forever. A pretty face will get boring eventually.

    As long as the person isn't quasimodo, then looks don't count for a whole heap. :)
     
  5. GrecoJones84

    GrecoJones84 Active Member

    Fine I'll be that guy... Looks! *collective gasp from audience*
     
  6. FEHG

    FEHG Well-Known Member

    Hey! whatever floats your boat! :) haha.
    But - you didn't tell us why?
     
  7. GrecoJones84

    GrecoJones84 Active Member

    Spite I guess :p ;)
     
  8. Tinkerbell

    Tinkerbell New Member

    Looks have never been important to me, as long as there isn't something really repulsive about the guy, like to much hair on his face, or pimples coming out of his nose, or sloppy overweight (I'm not talking teddy bears, their cute) I mean like 400 lbs or so and not caring to do anything about it. Or worse, smells bad, or wears all worn out clothes that area stained because they are "comfortable".

    I honestly think most ladies don't care near as much about looks as guys do. IMO.

    Since looks don't matter, now I'll say personality is not that important either, as long as he doesn't have a completely rude since of humor, or is constantly depressed.

    What matters to me is character, you know, that he can handle a crisis without losing it, or that he has what it takes for the long haul. I want a man who doesn't get easily offended, a man who knows his limitations and works on them, a man who knows when to put down a drink and when it's totally appropriate to pick one up. I want a man who can love life, have fun, and still stick to business when he needs to. Someone who knows how to take a hit for someone he loves, you know self sacrificing when necessary. Someone who knows how to stand up for what he believes in. These are things that take maturity, and development of character, inside these things you will find many different personalities, and anyone of them would do fine for me.

    If he has these character traits and is flamboyant, cool, if he's quiet, that's awesome, if he's funny, great, if he's serious, that's fine to, just as long as he can have fun sometimes. In fact I really enjoy getting to know a person of great character, it's just fun to see how they are, even a perfectionist doesn't bother me if he has these character traits.
     
  9. Bookworm616

    Bookworm616 Well-Known Member

    I fully agree! :D
     
  10. Brittney

    Brittney Well-Known Member

    Me too! :D
     
  11. satyricon

    satyricon Guest

    I offer both: I'm witty, full of ideas, and fucking beautiful.
     
  12. Brittney

    Brittney Well-Known Member

    Where's your pic Saty??? :(
     
  13. Amazonka

    Amazonka Active Member

    I have to be attracted to him , so yes looks are still important but personality is WAY MORE important.So i say both.
     
  14. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    Well i would have to say personality is definitely more important, i mean if they are great looking but bore you to tears that beautiful face is only gonna keep you entertained for so long................

    I knew a boy back as a teenager everyone fancied him, he was as beautiful as Michelangelo's David, but in all honesty when you got to know Richard it was a disapointment, he looked like a cream cake all tempting and lovely but when you took a bite it turned out the cream was synthetic cream uckkkk;)
     
  15. FEHG

    FEHG Well-Known Member

    Fair enough. Good answer :D
     
  16. kuntrygirl30

    kuntrygirl30 New Member

    Like Jaisee said...
     
  17. Bookworm616

    Bookworm616 Well-Known Member

    We won't know that until we see a picture. :D
     
  18. WhiterShadeOfPale

    WhiterShadeOfPale New Member

    Personality. To me, personality IS there looks, and IS there attraction. I never understood how you could have a crush on a celeb you don't know personally. You could meet them and they way the talk to you could be off-putting, or they are boring, or you just don't have an chemistry.

    I've dated all kinds of guys, ALL kinds, completely different "types." The one thing they all have in common was I felt they had a great personality, usually they were all passionate about something and really hilarious and treated people well. Those three things in a person can drive me straight up a wall no matter what they look like.

    And in fact, I like really strange looking people (men or women) who carry themselves like they are a movie star. You just know they have something going on inside that you want to be a part of.
     
  19. Arwen

    Arwen New Member

    co-sign. But my last experience was different. I didn't really like him phisically at our first date, I started likeing him after I knew his personality better. A good brain makes things sexy :D. Have u ever been seriously turned on by someone's smartness? I have and it's ... WOW! lol :smt050
     
  20. Serendipity

    Serendipity New Member

    Looks to catch my eye but personality takes over from there and a great sense of humor.
     

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