Who has the worst time - ww&bm or wm&bw?

Porcelain, we can always count on you to uplift.

 

That type of savagery was as foul as it gets! The same goes for those three Oregon State University football players who attacked a white man for enjoying an evening of dining/dancing with his own black wife.

 

As a black man I've encountered ridicule for dating white women, mostly from black women who felt that I should've "stayed within my own race" or "given some sister a chance". While I think ANY sort of "heat" is ridiculous, I can only speak on what I've seen.

I've got some black male friends, however, that won't even watch porn if there's a white guy fucking a black woman. Never mind that it's just porn (and not a relationship) They are quick to get on the "I love my sisters" rant that usually ends up with them looking hypocritical (or gay) in some way.

 

Its kind of funny some people are cool with mixed race couples and some are not. When I have dated a white woman I get more lookes and stares from other white guys than anybody else, at least thats my experience. With me I date who I want to date. I look more at the person than the color. I mean if the person is nice and we click and have things in common that is more important in the long run.

Some people just have a problem with interracial couples to begin with and then when they see it they go all crazy. To me its just stupid. I just don't understand why some people hate on other people so much with relationships sometimes. With all that hate they put on others they could have found somebody to make them happy instead of trying make other people have a bad day.

 

Agree, strange when I was with my ex, more white people complimented me on wow what a cute couple etc., than blacks did, but I guess in canada we're more liberal with IR than in the states.

 

There's probably more of an issue with it here in the US than in other countries, but I haven't seen anyone giving my girl and I looks because of our relationship. Maybe they do and I just don't pay much attention to it. If there are others who don't approve, that's their problem

 

I think that bm/ww couples as a whole have it worse due to the double standards. It has always been socially unacceptable for bm/ww to hook up, date or marry (she's loose/he hates himself/both are race traitors) as opposed to wm/bw couples (she's exploring her options/true love sees no color/you can't help who you fall in love with).

 

SuperChic73
Last week, the New York Times reported that a recent poll found that 83% of our population approve of B-W dating. It is my experience that attitudes have changed significantly in this regard in recent years and this bears that out. Things are not as dire as many of you portray it.

 

exactly most people approve or don't care, its just the minority the 17 percent the bad apples that make it seem worse than it seems.

Funny thing my gf at the moment lives in probably the whitest town ever, population is 5,000 and there are no minorities at all I felt out of place as hell, but no one stared at us, hurled insults nothin

 

Yeah, whenever I've dated a black guy we've never really had any problems, no nasty looks or anything like that.
My ex actually did get a couple of black guys coming up to him when we were out once, telling him that he wasn't 'black enough' for me (my ex is quite light skinned) which I just found weird, and he got really angry about, haha.

 

I find it amusing, how asian-european couples or other african/black- european couples or people with mixed kids start smiling at us when they see us in the tube or taking a walk.

 

Me and my Husband used to get that alot when we were out together, also when we had our son alot of mixed couples would stop us and comment how beautiful our son was.

 

Haha, that's sweet! Although my ex and I don't have kids, when we saw other IR couples with children (or without), they'd give us this kind of 'knowing look' and smile, lol.

 

This may be a dumb question but where is "in the tube"? Here that would mean on TV! So I figure maybe that's your word for a subway station?

 

oh yes, that is what I meant. In the subway waggon or at the subway station.
I am not seen on TV, nor is my man. ;-)

 

LOL, thanks, I guess I'm still learning English! Languages are so fun!!

 

I find myself smiling when I see other IR couples...IR makes me happy.

 

ah I used to do the same and receive it as well.

 

lol thats pretty cool..

 

Again another great thread. theres so many factors, i think that BM/WW have a harder time because of the dominance of the white race, now and throughout history, remember the times when black men could have been killed for even glancing at a white woman? the whole BW/WM dichotomy is less frequent in my opinion but I'm beginning to see a lot more couples out there. there are two distinct differences at play when we talk about white/black relationships. in our country, urbanization and suburbanization, and which which do you relate to. ever seen a ghetto ass black dude with Marsha Brady? not gonna happen. 9 times out of ten the white girl he's with is just as ghetto as he is. are you gonna see a white male ivy league grad with shaniqua. not gonna happen.(oh no he didn't lol) theres a book called By the Color of Our Skin: The Illusion of Integration and the Reality of Race by Leonard Steinhorn and Barbara Diggs-Brown, New York: Dutton, 299 pages, $23.95 very enlightening read which helps us understand things about our two distinct cultures, here in America anyway, just thought I'd share.8)