Flirting differences

Lol yea my friends and I always do that when we go to the mall and pick up clothes. I mean you gotta admit if you saw a group of proper English speaking moderately tight pant wear'n black guys in American Eagle you might wonder.
If you saw one of these guys pick up a shirt walk over to the other one and say "Damn son you should try this it matches your diesels"...if you leave off the "no homosexual" it looks even worse LOL

 

LOL. Guys are too funny with that! You all should be secure enough in your masculinity to know what he meant.

 

Well that's my story, and you told me to say it.

You know, I've actually contemplated that, and it doesn't scare me. I might decide to do so once more.....

Ahhh, but I did miss you, I got hit pretty hard around here last weekend and you (my knight in shining armor) never appeared.

(ME :smt021) Under the hammer!!

But it's OK, I learned a couple of lessons, and decided to stick around, you all are too fun.

 

The thing is they also tease each other relentlessly about being gay, I have 3 grown sons and I watch them interact, they do it constantly.

Ladies never tease each other like that.

 

We do it all in jest. It's not a real homophobia. We have gay friends we kick it with on occasion some of us even have close gay friends. It's a bit of a contradiction we are all inclusive. However it is important to note we make fun of stereotypes of gays blacks yellow people(light skinned brothers) etc... we spare no one. Except George bush. He's had a rough time.

 

Kind of like "The 40-Year Old Virgin"? You know how I know you're gay...

:lol:

 

That's mighty kind of you.

 

I don't think I flirt. I never try to flirt because I've had a man since before I knew how to flirt. Yet, guys have told me I was flirting with them. I'm just like, "WTF?" I don't know what they are talking about. It's like they think if you look at them and smile then you're flirting. Um, it was in my job description that I'm supposed to smile at customers and greet them. Or maybe I just think you're funny looking! And IRL, I am a very shy person and I blush easy. But I smile very easily. So they think if I smile bashfully then I'm flirting. They think if you look at them a certain way then you're flirting. I had a BM co-worker once who thought I was flirting with him because I laughed at his jokes, so he thought one day he could grab my ass and I got him fired for it. I think guys need to research what flirting is and what it isn't.

 

DITTO!!

We have been taught to smile and be friendly in the professional world, so if you want to do a good job/ have a successful business, you need to be confident, greet people warmly and have a friendly smile.

So now we are "flirts"! I don't want to be unfriendly but I don't like men I don't know thinking I'm flirting with them. (Unless of course I really am.)

So maybe some more men would like to give us some more advise.

 

Yep, I got in trouble once because I didn't want to smile at people (guys) because I didn't want them to think I was flirting. So I started smiling and being all nice and sweet, and what very awkward moments that brought me! :smt013

I guess a woman can only be a flirt, or a stuck up snobby bitch?

 

I find sometimes flirting comes out instinctually. Once when I was still married, I was once at my favorite restaurant and they took an obscenely long time to take my order. I was starved and not happy. Then I finally saw my waiter, and it was the hottest guy who works there. So I gave him this look which was a glare and a smile at the same time. A glare because I was mad and a smile because he was so hot. I made a puppy face and said, "You wanna help me? Yeah?" He looked kinda shocked, but figured all he could do was walk over to me and take my order. When he walked away, I kicked myself so hard. I said to myself, "B***h you're married. You were smiling at that guy like you were about to jump on him right then and there."

But - I swear! - it just happened, I didn't mean it. I was so embarassed. The manager himself was staring. And I still catch the guy check me out when I go there.

 

Yea, I'm sure that can happen sometimes too...

 

I have something like that happen, but I called it chemistry, and it was entirely unintentional. So I understand, but the thing is you didn't follow through with anything so you may have flirted but a one time thing shouldn't be enough to end up with a stocker.

I had a guy text me just last week, and he wouldn't identify himself, said he new me and I had to know who he was, he liked me and was just nervous about approaching me. He never did say who he was, I don't know if it was legit or just a prankster, because I see guys I know and don't know acting like they want to talk to me and I try very hard not to encourage them, because I'm not interested. But I don't want to be rude so I still smile sometimes rather shyly because I'm not looking to hook up.

 

I find that Russian people are much more flirtatious and direct than canadians/americans...when i moved to Canada and met a few people i could give hugs to guys, touch their arms and would never even think in my mind that im flirting i thought im just simply being friendly with people, but than i started to get in troubles cause of that with my exs haha....


now i changed and trying to behave !!!!!!!!!!!!lol :smt081

 

I had a guy chat me up yesterday.. But one of the first things he said was "my wife" and you know I figured he was just friendly. Since he was married. But nooo. We were talking and talking and he kept, you know, touching my arm, smiling, telling other people "I like this girl" and so on. And from time to time dropping "my wife" into the convo. A tad bit confusing.
I even told him "shouldn't you go home to the wife?" but he just laughed it away.
I still thought he was just nice to me, that I must have missunderstood the situation, but then when we got to a club and started dancing, me and my friends, and he was all over me, I realized no.

And then I realized that he thought I was ok with him having a wife. That he thought that since I had been nice to him all night, I wanted to have sex with him. I fled the club instantly and went home, feeling horrible. I didn't flirt with him! I just talked and missunderstood the signals!
Also I was quite angry that he just assumed that I was some sort of homewrecker.

And this is probably the problem for me. I come across as really flirty when I'm just being nice, for guys who are used to girl being non-flirty. Some of them probably think I'm just easy meat, since I smile and talk and make jokes... But I'm not (no actually), and it always hurts when someone assumes you gonna have sex with them just because you are polite and use eye contact during convo.

 

That guy was a BIG jerk! Plain, and simple. This is why us men get a bad wrap for being dawgs. It's two different things, if a woman is being flirtatious, or extra friendly, versus being a woman who wants to have sex, but many men get that confused. Some guys should excersize a little more patience, and allow a woman a chance to reveal her true intentions, before they ass-u-me anything, because you know what they say about assuming, it makes an ass out of you, and me.

 

Good saying. Very true that. And yes. Big jerk.
And I really really don't understand people who think that I'd be ok with them already being married.. ? How can anyone think thats ok? argh.

And you are right, that you should always wait before you assume anything, just like I didn't go assuming that he was a jerk before he proved it by trying to kiss me. INFRONT OF HIS FRIENDS WHO KNOWS HIS WIFE. omg. I just can't believe some people.

 

Glad we agree, but I also think a LOT of men have some sort of dilusion of grandeur, when it comes to them thinking every woman wants to be with them. I, for one always try, and see what's really going on in a woman's heart, and practically make her ring the cow bells, before I make further advancements towards her. Guess it's age, and maturity, that makes the difference there, and sometimes I may miss out on an opportunity, because of my lack of aggression, but most of the time, I win hearts over, by being subtly interested, and following her lead graciously.

 

I sure did, now didn't I. Maybe I should learn when to keep my trap shut. lol.

You Did??? Ahh, how sweet, but I missed you more...

Don't know how I didn't get that memo, what happened??? Now you know I'd have come to your rescue, had I known you my friend, a damsel was in distress. I'll never let that happen again. Promise.

Yes, please do stay, if you go, then we go, we'll leave together.

 

Quite a lot of women seem to think too that every man that looks at her will be willing to sleep with her.
I really hope it will go away with age as you say, but I'm not sure. Some men never seem to grow out of it. Same goes for some women..