Flirting differences

So I've read on more than one occasion, and by different posters here, that there seems to be a difference between the way white women flirt and they way black women flirt.

I don't understand what is being talked about, and maybe there really is no difference. Does anyone care to elaborate?

Is that maybe why some of you guys don't know if a white lady is really attracted to you or not?

Maybe some of us ladies don't know how to get the message across to a brother.

I sometimes am very direct and confident, and I tend to look people in the eyes when I meet them, and it is many times thought to be a flirt. I never had a problem while I was married but lately it's happening all the time. I get guys trying to flirt with me, and I'm thinking, "When did I show any interest?"

So maybe someone wants to talk about mistaken gestures too.

 

Wait a minute...black women flirt?

 

I have to say I find it a lot easier to flirt with bm then wm.. Thats probably because in my beloved country most wm are so used to gals doing all the work with chatting them up that if you don't bring out the heavy artillery on them, they don't bother. With the bm I know it works with the good old shy smile and some eye contact.
It's nice not having to be so obvious to get the message across.

 

I too don't believe black women are all too flirtatious. Many behave generally like the white men, that another poster talked about. But white women seem to be pretty obvious flirters. Well, at least they are to me, often with friendly smiles, playing/tossing their hair, serious eye contact, and often a stare that just screams, come talk to me, if not outright just approach a guy, and open up a friendly conversation out of nowhere. I love y'all... :smt038

 

^^What I was going to say^^

 

haha-they do flirt, just not as openly (and apparently) as white women do.

White women literally make fool of themselves in public at the site of a good looking man. Blcak women on the other hand have better control about this regard..

 

for real? never experienced this

 

I shall tell you the truth sweety.

White women on average, are scared senseless of black men (on average).With that being said, i think a mere smile would come across as a personal (or even sexual) invitation of some sort, because black men are used to having white women fearin them..

does that make sense??

 

I've never noticed any flirting differences between black women and white women

 

buddy you live in tdot??>..im sure these scandalous white broads are showing love.......hahahaha

I was on the subway a few days ago.....this white chick with a bubble ass comes up and sits beside me. Obviously she wasnt as old as she looked because she wore one of those catholic school girl skirts (or mini skrts these days)//////////as she tossed her hair tro the side to show me a better view of her face, she kept looking in my direction, trying to catch a my eyes, which kept escaping hers.....eventually she got pissed that i was clearly ignoring her dumb ass and began playing with her make up collection (fixing her face---adding lip gloss)......you know the drill.....

meh,,,,,i got off on yonge/bloor and as the sub way moved along,,,i could see poor baby girl still watching me.....haha

 

I kind of agree with you there (omg), but it doesn't apply to me.
I've seen some of my friends act like total jackasses when they are attracted to a guy and I just like put my head in my hands. I can't even listen to what they're saying. They continue even when the guy is blatently not interested in them. This girl I know Keren is bad like that... man she makes such a fool of herself and looks so desperate.

This is a generalisation though so of course some black women are probs overly flirtatious and some white women don't flirt at all.

 

I find that hard to believe sweety.....im a proud believer of the saying "birds of a feather flock together"

 

Good for you.

 

You're not one of those unattentive brothas are you? I'm sure it's happening all around you, and you're just not noticing.

 

All women flirt, it just depends on who captures their eyes, eye candy. You also have to get in a woman's head, to make her remove her inhibitions, seduce that sexual nature, that's always dying to come out. Then again maybe it's me, I love to flirt, like I once said I was vote flirt of the year in my senior yearbook, my girl friend was to fond of that title, but hey, I am what I am, " now let me see what you have in that skirt sweety" Likeness do attract.

 

All that could just be confidence, and not flirting at all. I often toss my hair, it doesn't mean anything accept that maybe it blew in my face and I need to adjust it, I always make eye contact when I meet people and try to give a friendly smile. (Men often think I'm flirting) Truth is I am a very happy person and very confident.

I don't stare nor do I open up conversations normally, unless I have another reason to, then I'm not intimidated at all, I just take care of business in a friendly manner. I've realized men tend to mistake that for flirting so I have thought about toning it down, you know, less eye contact, less smiles, but I don't want to change me. So I have been dealing with it. Any suggestions?

 

Wow, I guess then if that's your perception of white women a smile would be a flirt. I don't fear men of any color, although some are disgusting. But I do try to smile at anyone I make eye contact with in general.

I guess if I'm trying to flirt I would most likely give the lingering stare, longer lasting eye contact, and most likely a rather shy smile when discovered staring.

 

Yah,

Wear a potato sack, from head, to toe!

But really, a woman with your "naturally" flirtatious ways, which I do believe are completely unintended, will always be taken as an indirect come on, for some guys. Why? Because it usually is, and my own experience proves it. So if I ever see you somewhere, do expect to be approached, ok sweetie.

 

OK, I'll expect to be approached. So now the question is, how do I make it clear I'm not interested without being rude?

I used to give a killer, "you're the scum of the earth" look to men who tried when I was married. But I've mellowed now and can't muster up such a look anymore.

 

Now why would I ever want to give you the ammunition to shoot me down when I approach you? lol.

Actually, the best way for any woman to politely get rid of an unwanted attempt from a possible suiter, would be the ole "I have a boyfriend" line. You may be telling a lie, but it can be very effective, because if the guy persists, even after you say that, you always can elaborate on top of it, with, "and we're engaged", or "we're having our first child" etc, etc, etc...