Why is it such a turn off when white girls "act black"?

There are black movies that are more worse than Tyler Perry. I wished some German women can act German and a bit Black.

 

It is a turn off. but at the same time if that white girl has grown up in an all black neighborhood all her life, then she is what she is. Thats acceptable..But it just doesn't look right because the majority of white women come from suburban areas. I have white guy friends that act black..because they were born and raised in the hood. Black girls love them..Its strange how its all backwards..Now If someone is just obsessed with a particular race style and try to impersonate it then thats definitely a no no. Majority of white women are not viewed as tough or hard like ghetto black girls..Not saying that they are not though!!I know some white girls that will kick ass. Okay,,so when a black man see's a white woman of that character..some of them think that she is fake. or not what she pretends to be.

 

People should just relax, and be who they truly are. It is not something I observe so much now- I think it is something young women do.

It comes across as an affectation and any type of affectation can be unattractive. If you walk, talk, gesture in a very contrived manner- no matter what that is- you quickly become boring and frustrating to be around, I think.

If it comes naturally, the difference is very apparent.

 

I like hip hop/rap, Tupac (yes, I'm still holding a torch for him as well as Bone Thugs N Harmony), Eminem (and D12), Twizted, La Coka Nostra (and all the guys in that group), and more. Besides Tupac and BTNH, the rest of the rap I listen to is more underground white rappers and white rappers. Lil Wyte, Menacide, Tightest Whitest (he's funny, his skits on his cds crack me up), White Dawg (why do so many white rappers have "white" in their name like we can't tell? Although it is hard sometimes.) LoL. And I did have a friend who LOVED to put my hair in corn rows. And I liked it too (it felt pretty cool after, when I'd run my hand over my head, heh, and I didn't have to brush it, just get up and go.) But, I certainly don't act or talk the part. But if I want to do something different with my hair or listen to what they refer to as "black music" (though the actual first rapper ever, even before NWA, was a white female known as Heather B. By God, I will. I listen to other music too, but not so much. Anywho...

 

Yay, I'm not the only one with a problem with the loud, obnoxious, and very pushy attitude, head swaying, eye rolling, finger waving, black women. ( Of course not all black women do that ). It drives me out of my mind!!!! The "Oh no you didn't!" I've been in a lot of altercations with other women, who were black, (mostly at my job) who had that attitude. I don't get along with them at all whatsoever. I can't stand it!!! I think because it's so opposite my own attitude and demeanor/disposition, I don't know. Thanks for letting me vent. I hope I didn't offend anyone...

 

actually even if you are black and you are "acting black" I am not impressed...usually "acting black" is representative of stereotypical behavior...I am from the hood and no one will confuse me with "acting black" because I am a confident black man and by being me I am performing as a black man...so to say someone is acting black is sort of incorrect to begin with...now as black people I think we have an understanding with each other, regardless of social/economic class...I can talk to a black inmate, a black neurosurgeon, a black teacher and have a level of innate understanding of each other that I think it is super difficult for a white person to achieve with us...now there might be some differences and not complete understanding but you will have some...

ok let me ask this....when did this person start acting black??? did this occur in junior high school?? did it occur at birth?? if it occurred at birth, then maybe that person is not acting black...that person is performing how he/she meant to perform...if this "acting black" occurred sometime around high school then acting is probably what this person is doing...I wonder if this person was in a room with alot of white people , would he /she continue to "act black"

So bottom line if you are 'acting black' you are probably not that attractive to anyone regardless of what race you are...the only other people you will probably attract are other people 'acting black'

 

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Acting black = going to work or school everyday and putting forth great effort, abiding by the law, treating others with respect and dignity, treating yourself with respect and dignity, never succumbing in the face of great challenges, having a love for people regardless of differences, being proud of your history and culture and the valiant sacrifices made by your forefathers...be it in the sugarcane fields, foreign battlefields or anywhere else, fighting against injustices done to your people as well as injustices done to others, practicing self-reliance but also recognizing situations when you need a helping hand and not being too proud to ask


Acting ghetto = acting trailer park = acting trashy = not caring about your responsibilities, having no regard for rules or the laws of the land, treating no one with respect, mistreating and abusing your own body, cowering in the face of obstacles, hating and mistrusting those that don't look like you, caring little about your history and culture or the sacrifices made for you to even exist, standing up for nothing except a good rap/country/pop song, being too stubborn to ask for help or abusing the kindness of others


Let's keep this stuff straight

 

Is there some kind of gateway into your dimension? It sounds like a beautiful place.

 

I'd say that about sums it up! Well said.

 

I know he didn't!

I don't necessarily agree with your explanation there. You can be ghetto, or trailer park, without being a bad person. I'm gutta, baby, and I ain't afraid to admit it, but I don't think you'd say I do any of that stuff. You can be ghetto and still be a respectable person, live a good life, and treat others with respect all while remembering where you came from.

I'd not really call the people you described "ghetto", I'd call them "shitty". You can have people like that from all walks of life. I've met more people from suburbia who act like that than people from the hood, honestly. Some of the biggest idiots I know came from a 2 story house with a white picket fence. I know it's harder to become a good person if you come from a life like the one you'll get if you grow up in the trailer park, but you can be "ghetto" and not be all that. We just have a little more grasp on keeping it real, is all.

There are a lot of respectable people from the gutta who just made bad choices. But a bad choice doesn't mean a person is cowering in the face of obstacles, or has no respect for themselves or anyone else. It doesn't always mean you've no regard for the law, either. Sometimes laws have to be bended to survive. We've discussed my stance on this stuff at length already, I'm quite sure. You've got your bad apples from everywhere, but associating all that with being ghetto...I don't agree. Perhaps it could be the perception, but even if it is, it's not true.

 

Very Well said!

I do however see the point DH is making, and it does make a lot of sense. You will not however that Chosen said, Acting Black/Acting ghetto-trailer park -trash, not that this is where these people came from.

 

There is no shame in being from the ghetto or from a trailer park...but there is a big difference in being FROM THE HOOD as opposed to OF THE HOOD. You can't change the circumstances that you were born into but you don't have to succumb to all of the vices and negativity of those places. I don't speak of people from the trailer park...I'm talking about having the trailer park mentality.

 

What TC1 said. I'm from the hood. I remember many nights sleeping on the floor for fear of a stray bullet, because the knuckleheads knocked out the power which is usually followed by gunshots. Having your apartment robbed on THE DAY we move into a newer, safer place. Driving to church and having people knock on your car and attempt to reach in if your windows are down in an attempt to sell you drugs. Riding the CTA bus and leaning away from the windows because hoods will reach in and snatch your chain. At 12, having detectives hold your face down on the hood of a hot car. Shit, I had to sell weed in high school because the 'friends' that I made to avoid getting my ass whipped every day did it.

I lived in the hood and as I said in an earlier thread, it is shit. For the life of me, I cannot understand where the pride in all of that is. The pride is getting out and leaving that shit behind. Seriously, the hood can suck my balls.

EDIT: That is, of course just my opinion.
EDIT #2: Except for the ball sucking part, that's fact.

 

Wow, you really had it rough. Can't imagine what that was like, makes me thankful for the conditions I grew up in. Glad you managed to leave it behind

 

I prefer a white woman to be herself.​

 

Best post I've read all day.

 

That's what I was thinking,to. In the US some women may have really grown up like that but seeing women here in Germany trying to act urban/down/black is ridiculous because there is no way they can have picked that up in their childhood here

 

My mother is a black woman and she doesn't act like that, so I don't think it's a question of race. I am not going to date a woman who doesn't set the same standards of dignity, education and self-respect that my mother exhibits on a daily basis. When I meet white women who talk more "blackly" than my mother, my first response is usually to burst out laughing...unless, of course, she just had her gold fronts put in, in which case she might actually be behaving authentically! LOL

 

This.

I have a co-worker who was raised to speak and act a certain way but she also grew up in an urban inner city neighborhood so she can become hood at certain moments. I fucking love it. When she gets angry, she gets this sassy twang in her voice, gets loud, with the neck bobbin and everything...Not to mention she has a huge bubble butt ass to go along with it. :shock: