Have you ever been rejected by a WW because you were Black?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by V777, Nov 16, 2008.

  1. Persephone

    Persephone New Member


    I'm not offended. I'm appalled at your reactions in the situation in the initial post, but if I were offended you'd know it. I'm just trying to show you a different view. It's one of my pet peeves when people instantly start crying racism at the drop of a hat (mainly because people loooove assuming I'm a racist. Whether it's the accent or because I don't date white guys, both black and white people tend to think I'm racist) especially when they don't consider different perspectives.

    There are way too many misconceptions about racism, and too many behaviours are classified as racism when they're really not. At least in my opinion.
     
  2. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    When you punched her in the FACE!!!
    Did she have you nicked by the Police?
    Because she should have if she didnt thats an F**king gift she gave you and your calling her a racist.

    If that was me i would have played dirty kicked your arse and called the police.

    Surely this post of yours is not serious ? i actually thought you sounded sensible up till now! :shock:
     
  3. V777

    V777 New Member

    sorry to offend you but this was the old me many years ago. I was not mature enough to handle the situation. But I have changed and don't do that anymore. Thanks for your input!
     
  4. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    Not offended just shocked mate !
    Good to hear your not into battery anymore i doubt it would go down well as a potential doctor.

    Serious though she should have kicked your arse back, knocked some sense into you. I know if a man smacks me hes definitely getting something back x10 lol
     
  5. V777

    V777 New Member

    she did call the police but the police and school officials decided not to pursure the case. School principal said she should not base who she dates on race but on personality and charactor.
     
  6. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    Ok right, well thats a bit shitty of them when she's been punched in the face and ends up with a lecture, im assuming that you didnt mark her as im sure then it would have been a different story.

    Look just because people have preferences it does not make them a racist its just preferences, you say that she is now a member of an anti black org maybe and im only saying maybe! you sent her down that path.

    I know you said your different now, but next time a woman refuses you for your colour just remember you have preferences so why cant she, if some white woman came upto you and you weren't keen on her because of any reason its the same thing just wrapped up nicer.
     
  7. V777

    V777 New Member

    I do think i sent her over the edge to join a anti-black group. I didn't know she wil go that far in joining a group like that. I don't even ask women out anymore because i have a finacee. I not allowed to look at another women. That's what my finacee told me. lol :rolleyes:
     
  8. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    Nah you probably didnt send her over the edge that bad, should take alot more than one smack in the chops from one black man to get her going to exstremes lol.

    And you best do as your Fiancee tells you, as im sure if she caught you looking you would have your eyes pecked out something akin to an Alfred Hitchcock movie lol.:smt079
     
  9. Dex216

    Dex216 New Member

    It's not cool to hit a woman. I got in fights with girls in junior high. When I look back at it, I feel ashamed about it. It wasn't cool. No matter who started it, I should have walked away. My ex punched me in the face after an argument, knocked my glasses off. But I just picked them back up and left. I felt bad for her. I still can't believe she was that mad that she had to hit me. Some people are like that
     
  10. V777

    V777 New Member

    i agree 100%.
     
  11. gladiator423

    gladiator423 New Member

    Damn...can't argue with that one.
     
  12. kuntrygirl30

    kuntrygirl30 New Member

    I've never punched anything or anyone. :smt059 I'm a lover not a fighter!
     
  13. Elklodge

    Elklodge Well-Known Member

    I can't really say for sure but I have a sneaking suspicion because I'm black she was hesitant to date me. I don't know how to describe it, it's just a feeling.
     
  14. artbunker

    artbunker New Member

    I have ahd a few ladies in their college days that would not want to date me or even ahng out with me. But now when I run into them again, they told me that at frist they would not date me because I was black but ahve matured in life and arent afraid of what folks would think about it .
     
  15. SirNice

    SirNice New Member

    isnt this the most ignorant post....I am surprised you didnt get a lawsuite...haha

    I dont date antartic eskimoes, so is that grounds for having my azz kicked???
     
  16. Bug

    Bug Well-Known Member

    Ha Ha Ha lol
    Aparently it must be where V777 lives, thank god we dont live there hey! otherwise we would all be walking round with smacked up faces (simply lovely):yawinkle:
     
  17. FEHG

    FEHG Well-Known Member

    I would guess there has to be some understanding of why they don't want to date you because you're black.

    Obviously black men/people have certain features that some people might not find attractive. They might not want to date you because of your black features, or because they don't like (appreciate) black skin....or something like that.....Or, they might want to date you but won't because of all the bullsh*t that goes on in the world....

    I think it's important to make the destinction, because the former is, in my mind, ok...the latter is not really.

    Did that make any sense?
     
  18. Tinkerbell

    Tinkerbell New Member

    The later would be OK, IMO, if they just didn't feel they wanted to deal with the prejudices, or thought they weren't strong enough to do so long term. Not everybody can deal with that sort of thing in real life. It doesn't mean that they are themselves prejudiced. And if they are, then they certainly shouldn't be dating someone they are prejudiced against.

    Wouldn't it be better for them to date where they feel socially comfortable, if they don't want to stretch themselves? Personally there are a number of social situations that might preclude me not wanting to date a person involved. I may just not want to put in all the work that relationship would require.
     
  19. FEHG

    FEHG Well-Known Member

    Hi Tinkerbell, yeah, I agree to a point. I was meaning more, that if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. If it's because he's black and you're just not into black men physically or whatever, then it's ok...If you're into them and like the guy, but aren't dating because of social pressure, I think that's a bit harsh. You're doing a diservice to yourself and everything. But, on the flip side...if the chick is too weak to deal with the thought of social pressure, she's probably not up to it anyway. Maybe best for everyone.

    I was making the distinction between not liking bm because just not into the features generally, or because of fear of social consequences...I think there's a difference.
     
  20. Tinkerbell

    Tinkerbell New Member

    Right you are! However we are both in agreement that no matter the reason our dear friend V777 should never have hit the poor gal.

    At least he seems to admit he was quite immature, and would never do it now. At least that's what I'm understanding. I hope?
     

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