Who has the worst time - ww&bm or wm&bw?

I have an African American girlfriend who is engaged to a white American, and they get their share of stares (and sometimes comments) from white girls as well as black men, although not so much black men. And this couple is upper middle class from NJ suburbs. She told me how a black thug-looking guy called her a bitch when she was out with her fiance, almost causing a fight right there. But it's probably true that BM/WW have a tougher time...

 

I talk to a wide cross section of people about this issue and white and asian men have told me of problems they've encountered with bm and almost had physical confrontations. The asian guy said he pretended to know martial arts to fend them off. I know of instances where bw have criticized other bw for dating IR too. Many white couples do not appreciate IR one bit but for some reason people don't want to accept ww being racist. A bm told me many of them are now angry with asian women too...even complaining about the size of their waitressing tips from wm that they are missing out on. I once read an article where they detailed how much the white community is losing financially over these relationships. Les Moonves dumped his wife for Julie Chen and I understand she won't allow her children to even eat chinese food now.

 

This is 2007 isnt it?

 

It is always the former.

 

Must co-sign with you beauty.

White women have just as much as a problem with it when it comes to BW/WM, AW/WM and even BM/WW. However, I believe they are just more P.C. with it. Also, they do not seem to express their disgust with it in their media outlets as Black Women. Black women are very vocal with their disgust compared to WW. Thus, WW are perceived to not have an issue with these kind of relationships.

Also, there are a lot of Black men that are not very fond of these relationships between BM/WW or BW/WM and many are the main perps that spread the negative stereotypes about the relationships between BM/WW. However, they are covert in their attacks. They talk behind the backs of their friends and family members who engage in these relationships (speaking about BM/WW relationships) to their Black mothers, sisters, wives, and girlfriends and/or they slam their male friends and family members to their face more in private conversations when they are by themselves, or "hanging with the boys", or with close family around. Also, they do not slam BW or BM through media outlets about their choice to date outside of the race. Thus, for the most part, from my experience, Black men, on average, tend to be more "discreet" with their disdain for other BM/WW IR's. As for BW/WM relationships, many BM will verbally attack and physically assault BW/WM IR's in the streets--person to person--again, this is not through the venue of the media.

In short, BW get the wrap for attacking BM/WW relationships b/c we are the least P.C. about it and we blast it over the media. That doesn't necessarily mean that we are worst when it comes to our disdain, but just more brutally "honest" and "in the open" with it than other groups.

Peace.

 

this is well put...my boyfriend's mom had a problem with him dating black women when he first started doing it...

basically all groups suffer from this equally....some are just more discreet about their dislike of interracial couples than others. but body language and changes in attitude once they find out you're in an interracial relationship says it all. also whenever people try to use the excuse that others will look down on you for being in an interracial relationship and tell you the children will be treated badly to try to convince you agaisnt them then you know they're bullshitting you. they're simply expressing their own discontent with interracial relationships but not really coming out and saying how they feel.

 

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Yes, negative sterotyping. The stereotype that all black women disapprove of ww and bm being together... and yes, we all know that old chestnut about ww being the most accessible and praised in society. That's been obvious for centuries lol.. The world is changing. There are thousands of white men wanting to have relationships with black women. However, many are wary of being rejected by a bw and as a result, do not approach them. Hordes of black women in England are educated individuals who are actually dating and marrying white men and living in middle-class suburbs. There are many bw/wm couples in Oxford and London and the numbers are growing rapidly. There are also hordes of bw/bm couples too. I believe it is only a small minority of bm and bw who object to interracial relationships. Many black women in relationships with white men have complained about being given the most appalling, hostile looks by white women and a few black men.. I have witnessed these looks. Many white women have openly objected to relationships between bw and wm. However, the majority of these ww appear to be working class and poorly educated. Many, intelligent white women though don't have a problem with this because they are secure in themselves.

Last of all, most black women actually like themsleves and do not wish to be white. There are actually white men out there who believe in the superiority of a black woman's beauty. Many websites prove this e'. Afroromance, Afrointroductions, Black and White Singles... So what about society's views of them and black men for that matter. I think the real issue is when people arrogantly assume that blacks feel inferior. I most certainly do not feel inferior and I am not inferior. Yes, everyone is entitled to their preferences but we are all individuals and do not think alike. What is good for me might not be good for you. Simple.[/i][/b]

 

Yes, you're right. WW DO have as much disdain for BW/WM relationships as WM do for BM/WW liasons, however WM are clearly the ones to watch out for when it comes to aggressive behavior as a result of their disapproval. Mind you, the Uk is more tolerant of such matters. Interracial relationships are very common here and not regarded as a novelty (spend the afternoon in Oxford city centre during the summer and then get to know the community) and such debates as the ones we are having on this forum would be regarded as pointless and negative. Mo

 

There was a personal on Craigslist yesterday by a Ukrainian Jew who was looking to meet an Afro-Russian girl. :lol: There's someone out there for everyone.

 

Agreed....


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All interracial relationships leads to racism.

When a White man sees a White woman with a Black man = He probably thinks of "stealing our women". For the womans part, he probably pulls the "no-self-confidence-card"
When a Black man sees a Black woman with a White man = He wonders if it's money or that they "have lost a sister".
When a White man sees a White man with an Asian woman = He thinks of either "low self-confidence" or that he has bought her.
When a Black woman sees a Black man with a White woman = Do I really have to answer this?
When a White woman sees a White man with a Black woman = Thinks exactly the same thing as Black women, although they might be a little more silent about it

I can go on as long as you'd like. But this is the sad world.

 

GO AWAY.

 

There would be no racism towards interracial couples if ignorant people left them alone. I dont see or understand how two people of different color being together can have so much impact on someone else's life that they actually have to insult them, attack, or degrade them in some way.

 

yup, i agree....it makes no sense.

but, welcome to BoredMale's and other select members' lives...or lack thereof.

 

Please say how you really feel. I don't like cryptic posts.

Thanks.

 

Yeah.....touchy subject for sure. I heard the 'w' word from one of my cousins when my ex and I were together, and all kinds of comments from the rest of my family, and rejection from most of them that still continues even though he and I no longer date. My sister is a sweetie though - her son is biracial.

Darn independent females...

:wink:

 

BM/WW most definitely.

My girlfriend had a black roommate who had been dating her white boyfriend for a while. My girlfriend didn't have a problem with it. When we started dating, all of a sudden her roommate gets an attitude with her.

The straw that broke the camels back was when she walked in her roomates bedroom and caugth us having sex. My girlfriend and I didn't even know she was there but she says she was.

My girlfriend eventually moved out.

 

IR in Califormia

I have found that when I went out in public with my black BF here in California everyone could careless.The are so many IR couples here, of all kinds.

 

I dont care who has it worse. More power and support to everyone.
Do i sound like dear Doussou already?

 

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