Missed opportunities?

Have any of you ever had the chance to go back to a seemingly missed opportunity at the "love of your life" only to find out that the opportunity was missed for a reason?? :smt081

Like you meet this amazing person and then life experiences happen that won't allow you to get together with that person. Then you do nothing but think about this person and have regret for never getting the chance to be with him/her. However, at some point in the future, you meet up with this person again, only to find out that they aren't as "amazing" as you originally thought? And then you think, maybe that opportunity was missed for a reason....

I find this kind of thing interesting...so stories if you have them, please!

 

I have a short story, there was this guy I liked when I was a teenager, I thought he was gorgeous, and just about perfect, but he didn't notice me much.

Then we did get together, it lasted only a couple of months, and didn't go anywhere. I stayed in touch with mutual friends, and about 6 years later after I was married and had a kid, I bumped into his parents, the gave me his contact information and told me he was in jail. Evidently he has spent most of his adult life in jail, and when he is scheduled to get out he usually does something stupid that makes them give him more time. I did contact him, just touch bases, my husband actually went with me to visit him in jail.

That was weird. He had become a very different person, very hateful, and angry, and nothing like he used to be.

Yeah, I think the opportunity may have been missed for a good reason.

 

Wow, what a blessing that you two went your separate ways.

 

Yeah there was this smoking hot girl I knew in high school I wanted to be with her so bad but when I wanted to ask her to junior prom I choked that Friday and didn't ask until Monday when I finally built up the courage by then it was too late she had a date.

Met her later when I returned home from college and she was a mess dating the same guy I might add and totally not the woman I remember a big druggie.

 

Well I liked many guys that I'm glad I didn't end up with. Especially one who totally broke my heart when I was 21. Then years later he got in touch with me when I was married and tried to sleep with me. A man of much integrity! :smt078

 

Wow that is so sad.

 

What a shame. It doesn't take much to get some people addicted to drugs. My brother has been a drug addict for most of his adult life. It's a sad state of affairs to watch someone self-destruct and there's not a damn thing you can do about it.

 

Sounds like a keeper! Why didn't you go for it? HA HA. Guys like him make it harder for the good guys....some things happen for a reason, for sure.

 

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Sorry my post would not delete. So you get pictures instead.

 

Why did you delete what you wrote?

 

Yes, it just happened to me recently.

Someone I knew in college, smoking hot back then. First time we met in our second year at college, instant attraction. Couldn't keep our hands off each other. We had sex almost daily. She didn't return to college her third year because of a family crisis.

Fast forward 15 years and she has 3 kids from 3 different fathers and weights close to 400 lbs. This is a white girl mind you. I got down on my knees and thanked GOD for looking out for me on that one.

 

I have had a few of the opposite happen. I have ran into a few guys from high school that my mom wanted me to go out with-but I thought they were way to nerdy at that time!!!! One of them is an anesthesiologists and another a brain surgeon!!! Oh mercy-sometimes mom does know best!!! and the ironic part-is that now I am attracted to intellectual men!!!!I was good friends with these guys-but just not interested in them romantically at that time!!! Of course we have all ran into some that we thanked God he spared us from!!!!Some I have ran into that were good looking and cool in school- and then became drug addicts or just a general loser.:smt021 My mom should have hit me over the head! But I didn't do too badly in the men department!! I did have to learn a few lessons the hard way though!!!

 

Ain't that some shit. I now reinstate my faith in christianity.

 

yeah sorry to hear that about your brother man

 

Thanks.

 

Last fall, before I started dating my boyfriend, I reconnected with my first love. It was great and we were together daily for a couple months, then I got a phone call from his girlfriend the day before Tahnksgiving and kicked his lying cheating ass to the curb(this is the Reader's Digest condensed version). Started dating my man in March and have not looked back

 

Good for you!!

A guy I used to work with at the Field Museum (8 years ago) came back into my life briefly this year. I had such a crush on him when I worked with him, and we flirted with each other very heavily, but he had a girlfriend. I wanted him very badly back then. He quit the museum, and we lost touch. A couple of years after we lost touch, I heard through the grapevine that he got married. We reconnected this year and he wanted to start something up......but he was still married. :smt013

I said, no way, and kicked his butt to the curb. And all I can think about now is, what if I was his wife, he'd be doing this to me! I thanked God for that missed opportunity. :smt023

What is wrong with some men?? :lol: