White boyfriends wanting to share you

so i used to date this white guy... and one day he started asking me if i ever been with black men before. i told him no. then a few times later he would bring stuff up about whites dating blacks and asking me questions like if i ever been attracted to black. i've been to shy to say i was but said that i would date one if i liked him. so my white ex-bf then said he'd like so see me with a black man and share me. did any of you other ladies have white boyfriends who were interested in seeing you with a black man?

 

No, I date normal men: territorial, jealous and possessive.

 

Mosk you're ok with territorial, jealous and possessive men? I know RW can be like this...

 

As long as he's not out of control... there should be some healthy jealousy in a relationship.

 

So is it ok for your man to tell you are not going to lunch with your male co-worker? Are you a jealous woman?

 

I think it's enjoyable for both the man and the woman to make their parther feel a teeny bit jealous, as if inadvertently. For a woman, it's looking like a knockout, making men's heads turn... For a man, it's being so chivalrous with all women that they can't help being impressed... yet it's all completely innocent, right? Just enough to make you feel that you got the catch of a lifetime. But going beyond that is disrespectful and not recommended if you want to keep your partner.

Regarding lunch with a co-worker... I wouldn't do it. Yeah yeah you can always say it's just a coworker and what's the big deal, but if you know it will make your partner feel uncomfortable (and a lot of men will), why not honor him. Hurting your partner's feelings for the sake of having lunch with a random person from work? not worth it. Some women fight with their boyfriend because they want to go out to lunch with an ex-boyfriend. "Oh he's just a friend!" Why would you do it if you know it hurts and bothers the man you supposedly love, for very understandable reasons.

 

One of my recent exs( black guy) was super jelouse type of person. He did hide it really well at the beginning..i cant handle jelousy, ..the type of guy i like who DOESNT SHARE ME WITH OTHER MEN but ..at the same time respect my idependence..


a little playful kinda jealousy in a relationship can be cute because it shows we really care but don't go overboard( lunch with a co-worker ia a big no no ?..common now, my job involves sometimes on daily basis to have those kinda lunches with co-workers,clients etc.-- ) that is why you need to communicate your feelings.

Let's just say that there is nothing worse than being accused of something that you are not doing which in turn was the #1 factor for ending that relationship

 

I agree that lunches with coworkers are nothing to worry about, but... I myself once asked a co-worker, a married black guy, and I was married myself at the time, that why don't we go to Panera together for lunch that day, since we both like to pick up lunch there. He got kind of embarassed and said "well, we're both married people..." and I was mortified! Of course I wasn't hitting on him! I was the most faithful wife in the world! So all I'm saying is that if I felt that my man was uncomfortable with me being out one on one with another man - even if he didn't say anything, but I could sense his discomfort - I would not do it. Just to be nice to him. But of course if my workplace culture required such lunches, I would want him to be understanding and not make a big deal out of it. That's all.

 

The lunch thing Mosk, you summed it up so perfectly! And the slight edge as well about jealously, well put.

I wouldn't do it either just off the bat. I think some women are (at times) more interested in scoring a point with their partner and that is important to them more than the actual issue. Some men do this too. And it's a bad way to run a relationship.

As far as a white man wanting to share me (or anyone)

Umm... NO can't say that has ever happened to me, ever..

The idea is so wrong that I can't even fathom a response. I guess it would be, sorry but I'm not a family pizza to share.

The cuckold thing, eugh.


that said, I did once try a threesome with another female and just one guy but not when I was in a relationship. It may be a double standard but that is somehow different. Got that out of the system and wouldn't go there again, and definately not with a man I really love.

 

I hope you ladies don't mind a brotha responding to this topic. I have two stories on this topic.

1) I used to play basball with a guy in college and after college. A white guy with whom I got along with very well. He called me one and asked me to meet him and his girl for a drink at a bar. After a few drinks, the conversation went to a 'strange' place. He told me that she was attracted to black men and that he wanted to watch her first experience. He knew that I was a freak, so he 'offered' her to me. He merely wanted to watch. We went back to his place and the session began. She gave great head and was very receptive to my pole in every hole. One night turned into multiple tiimes and he merely watched everytime. It was a bit strange, but the sex was EXCELLENT ! The story didn't end well, of course. She began to call and wanted to fuck me without his eyes on us. He found out and I wanted out. We all parted ways, but I still love the memories of this torrid affair.


2) There was woman I flirted with in my office. She was ten years older than me and somewhat attractive. She was always very horny which made her more attractive. Well, for her 40th birthday, she wanted her first interracial experience. I met her and her husband at a hotel for drinks and fun. The threessome thing with two guys and one chick was my first. I had two girls at once on a few occasions, so, I thought it would be similar. WRONG !!! She was way into the newness of me. My size didn't hurt, either. I could tell she had fun, but hubby was left feeling a bit inadequate. After an awkward exit, I thought that was it. Well it was, as far as the three of us getting together. But, she had to suck me off after happy hours occasionally. This ended well. I still chat with the women, no hanky-panky though.

The first guy LOVED watching me pound his girl. The second guy thought he would like, but didn't. Go figure.

I hope I wasn't too boring...

 

no. you werent too boring ))

 

^^^GLAD TO HEAR IT ! I didn't wanna be too graphic, either. I can be raunchy !

 

Wow... the things that people do.:smt107

 

I can't disagree with this article...

Male Traits That Secretly Turn Her On

She may pretend to dislike it when you act like a Neanderthal, but the fact is that secretly; underneath her feminine bluster is a woman that is getting turned on. Women's liberation may mean that she isn't supposed to like certain things that you do, but they actually get her hotter than a June bride on her wedding night. What are these secret traits that you should continue to do?

Women universally admire men that act like men. It does not turn her on if you spend more time on your hair than she does, or if you are pickier than she is about shoes, clothes and accessories. There is nothing wrong with being a well-coifed man, but the fact remains that women like men to be men.

It is your very masculinity that attracted her in the first place, and even if you exude testosterone when you watch football with your buddies, drink beer and let go with the occasional belch, she is not going to be turned off. The fact that you are a man who can rescue her if she ever needs it, fix stuff and quote sports statistics forever will always turn her on in some strange way she may not fully understand.

If you display a little jealousy, it is also going to turn her on. However, there is a line here, and a little jealousy over a colleague complimenting her dress at the office Christmas party and going totally crazy and accusing her of having an affair with him are two completely different things.

She will be flattered by the first, angered by the second. Getting a little jealous lets her know you are a bit possessive and territorial about her being your girlfriend and it makes you a bit uncomfortable to have other men eyeing her. She will think it is cute, and it will invariably turn her on.
She may occasionally complain about the fact that you want sex all the time and that sex is always on your mind, but if it wasn't she would miss it. A lot! Secretly, she likes it that you desire her so much. It makes her feel good about herself. It also shows her that no matter how many other attractive women you see during the day, you are coming home to her. It is a great feeling for her.

Today's woman also appreciates a man who can think for himself. She likes it when you are independent, and can even say no to her on occasion. It may anger her, but she will also respect it. Plus, a little anger can be very good for bedroom fireworks. Women do not generally care for men that let them direct their every move and thought.

If you are independent, she can see that you are your own person, and that is attractive. However, you should always try to make time for her, because if you are too busy and independent, she will be gone. What it boils down to is that she will love you for your inherent male traits if you don't take them to the extreme.

 

Fortunately that has never happened to me

 

What I would like to know is what is it about this particular fantasy that turns on the man making the request. I've had several people make unsolicited offers to me concerning this. Please explain why a MWM or SWM would want to watch his partner screw me, an SBM. It mystifies me.

 

Ok this has gone on long enough....
WTF is with this cuckold shit? I mean really, are they any normal folk left?
I have principles, I can't fuck another man's girl. And I am a man , I will not stand to see anyone fuck my girl. I to old fashioned to have an open relationship like that. Open relationships simply are not commitment.

 

Now, now Mosk you know damn well you've had your moments too.
You like many choose not to reveal much all almost crumbs to nothing...

Male Traits That Secretly Turn Her On

The Caveman comment is so dead on. Nice guys don't usually get the hot chick. You got to have some grit and grime in you, cuss a little, be a little crass. Rarely do I agree with articles like this, but the shit's on point...

 

:smt058

 

Thank you Sonny! I have read many of your posts and agree with you most of the time and couldn't agree with you more in this case. I would never want to be with a man who was ok with sharing me with someone else. I can't understand someone wanting to watch the person they say they love have sex with another. Go figure. If only you were a little closer to my age ...