How is your luck

Wouldn't you like to know

 

Absolutely!! Do tell! Do tell!

Please??? :smt043

 

LOL - I've had to do the same thing...dumb down just to have a convo, but I'll never settle...I'd rather be alone. I'd rather go to museums by myself than to have someone without a clue....

 

Too bad there are no PMs or I might.

 

If you women actually dated black men with brains you wouldn't have to dumb down for them.

 

Yeah, ChosenOne is quite the imbecile. Never any stimulating conversation there. *rme*

We're talking about random people, not dates. I specifically mentioned I don't dumb down for dates. I dumb down for average people when I get bored and wanna talk to someone and can't locate a PhD anywhere.

Normal people are generally quite stupid in this country. Or at least ignorant. And most of them only see what they want to see when they read message boards.

 

LOL - Mr. Karma, I dont' date those. Those are just the one's that I met in Bar's....those that take up lonely time. Most of the intellegent ones, I met online. So there...:smt058 I tried to find a smiley that was sticking my tonge out, but I'll just kiss you instead.

Oh, and btw...that's men in general, not black men.

 

Hmmm...well, you could always email me.

 

I'm too much of a social butterfly. Quite extroverted, I am. I can't stand being alone too much. *L* It's probably why I'm constantly on my phone, talking to someone.

The little silly conversations can be entertaining sometimes, at least. And sometimes people surprise me! I had a fantastic conversation about religion once at my favorite bar, and I never expected the guy to be so open minded, and the conversation started on music...somehow. I don't really remember how that came about. *L* I'm used to dealing with Christians who condemn everything different (that's how they are where I'm from) so it was refreshing.

Lately I've had some great political conversations with Africans. *L* But I don't generally count them in with regular people, because I tend to enjoy conversation with people who aren't from America much more. Most American's just don't seem to have a grasp on the world at large, and it makes me sad. I like discussing global politics, and also seeing how people who weren't born here think of our own politics. It's interesting!

 

Girl, I'm the same way. I absolutely love having deep discussions with people. I had many discussions like that in college. But, sadly, I can't find people out in the business world who would enjoy sitting and talking about that stuff. I feel that my brain is being wasted when I can't talk on a deep level about any kind of issue.

Where are these people who are willing to have deep conversations? :grin:

 

Conversationalist

That's the upside to dating online...you can easily cipher out those that can't talk your language without having to waste time meeting. I've noticed the ones that can carry on a conversation are usually the ones that like meeting in a coffee house or book shop. Have you noticed that?

 

I haven't actually done the online dating thing. However, I can see the merit of sending emails back and forth and weeding out the people who can't carry on a conversation beyond the weather.

That is one of the better reasons that I've heard for doing online dating.

 

...on the internet, mostly. *L* I luck into most of my great conversations because I'm constantly talking, so that includes talking to strangers whenever I feel froggy. I have noticed if I'm looking for a conversation with a unique perspective finding someone with an accent generally helps *L*

It's the one thing I love about living in Houston (though I guess other major cities have the same deal. This one has been my only experience with a metropolis though). There are so many different people here, from so many states and countries, and everyone has different ideas about everything. It's just a matter of finding those people who actually think, as opposed to the ones who just let the world flow around them.

Bars, while usually not the perfect option, can still garner some awesome conversations. Alcohol seems to work well in getting tongues loosened, and I've noticed average people talking about things I know they usually don't at bars after a few drinks. Gotta love that lowered inhibition. Maybe people are too scared to talk about things with substance most of the time. I dunno.

One thing I like to do is, once I've gotten to know someone well, give my phone number to people I've met online. That's why my address book in my phone looks like a US phone book. I've got people all around the country in there, and I used to skype with people all around the world. It's not as awesome as sitting down and discussing religion over a cup of coffee, but if you both make your own coffee and turn on a webcam you can get a great video conversation going!

Sadly, without the internet, I think my conversations would mostly suck. *L*

 

The best argument for online dating is that it's easier to be comfortable with people you can't see, so you can be more yourself...not to mention you can have a "date" of sorts without having to get out of your pjs. It's easier to get to know someone on the internet, and it's also easier to reject someone. Don't like the conversation? You don't have to email them again, nor run the risk of running into the at random on the street. Besides, if they don't bring their A game in the initial contact it's easier to say "No thank you, not interested" than it is in person.

 

Ultimate place for random, awesome conversations: Coffee shops attached to book shops. Which is why I love the Starbucks/Barnes And Noble combo on the corner. I conduct my business meetings there when I'm meeting with potential buyers for my paintings. Perfect laid back atmosphere with just enough intellectual conversation buzzing around to make the meetings go quite smoothly.

 

That is very true. :smt045 Excellent points!

 

I think the weekends I don't have my daughter, I will have to start seeking out places like that, to hang out and meet people. Some of my friends are not good at all for these types of conversations. Other friends, who are, aren't always around at my beck and call. :lol:

I'm truly starved for that kind of exchange of ideas. I love to hear other peoples' opinions on many, many issues and I don't shy away from giving my opinions on those issues.

I don't drink coffee, so I tend to stay away from coffee shops. I may just have to frequent those types of places anyway!

 

Just know if you go to bars you've only got a 10 percent shot of actually getting a good conversation. *L* Unless you go to nicer places than I do. I chill at a sports bar in my neighborhood, but it's a decent place because most people who go there work in restaurants around here...that means a lot of college students, and while a lot of college students are idiots some are nerdy like me and like this kinda stuff! *L*

Starbuck's sells a lot of non coffee drinks! Juice, tea, hot chocolate, etc. You can even just get a cup of water! Definitely go more for the ones that are attached to book shops. Then find someone reading a book you like and go get with the conversin', girly!

 

Okay...here's another inexpensive place to meet...sushi restaurants. They are usually a place for good conversation, and you can share food as well. LOL

 

:lol: Oh, I never go to bars expecting to find a good conversationalist. If it happens, I'm thoroughly surprised.

Now, you expect me to actually go up to people and start talking? :smt119

I'm way too shy! Guess that's something I have to work on!