Admitting your attraction/preference

I've been attracted to and dated black guys since I was at high school . I have encountered lots of abuse ,etc. from other people.

 

You mean you encountered abuse from other people because you was dating Black Men?

 

yes I have

 

ok, I was getting confused, sorry about that

Welcome to the site

 

Welcome to the site. Sorry that happened to you. The people who treated you bad and claim they aren't racist really are racist.

 

Why should you care what others think?

 

I don't really , it's never put me off dating black men ..
I guess it's jus some people will never change

 

Agreed! Sadly there's far too many closed minds out there, and many will never change. Glad you stayed true to what works best for you.

 

Use to until I was liberated lol

 

So far I have kept it as a secret.
When it happened I try to talk about it with a friend. I was not really sure how to talk about it so I said it was another girl from the dance class.
Her reaction was pretty much "with a black guy ? what a slut !"
So I didn't talk about it anymore ^^'

 

Where are you based, if I may ask?

 

I'm french

 

Ok, I live in Switzerland.
That’s a surprisingly disgusting reaction of that girl. You don’t even need to trouble yourself with such people. Just live your life.

 

Lol same here

 

So much for Europe being far more accepting lol

 

There’s no perfect place! As for Gernany and Switzerland I never got such a reaction to my face. Maybe people think it but nobody has ever said it to me.

 

Well she is a good friend and usually and good person.
It also depends on the social environment you live in I guess

 

Of course no place is perfect. Hopefully you know I was joking.

Fortunately that principle tends to work in reverse as well: the terrible places aren't completely bad.

 

Environment definitely plays a part. But also, people are layered, complex, and print to blindspots. Hopefully your friend justifies your benefit of the doubt

Edit: @Soulthinker makes a good point below

 

Wow, you are living outside of a major French city. LePen and Vichy French are making things bad for bm/ww in France.