Dating apps and IR

I think the bigger concern is how they feel about us, embarrassed in public, or happy to be with us in public. I think that was his point.

 

Every once in a while (like this week), I will make a profile, and I get a good number of hits. About 60% are non black women that are interested, and the other 40% are black women trying to find out why I put “Not interested in black women” on my page (granted, I get the occasional rainbow haired non black woman feminist, with black female friends, that wants to imply that I belong to black women, etc.).

To be 100% transparent, I do it for the entertainment purposes. I generally leave after a month. Lol, the winters are a little boring.

 

Dude I hated to see profiles that said no black men. It's unnecessary. Just scroll by like you do with the mediocre white dudes. Why emotionally wound people if you don't have to. Fine you don't want to date black women then just ignore them altogether instead of making them feel bad

 

WT?

HAHAHAHAHA!

 

Why is this funny?

 

You still insist on telling folk what to do. He isn't hurting anyone.

 

Apparently he was though. Im not telling anyone what to do just posing the question why do it?

 

For entertainment. Re-read the post using brain instead of emotion this time. WOW. LOLOL

 

Brothas get rejected by bw every day. They can get over it like everyone else. If I see a profile that says no black men, I am not offended, but I am automatically no longer attracted. I keep it moving so should they. I promise you they do not care about your feelings, lol, why should you care about their’s?

 

The entertainment purpose is just online dating in general. The amusing-while-still-being-pathetic part is when they try to yell at you knowing they aren’t your type. When men do it it is called creepy, toxic, and predatory. I just happen to feel the same way when women do it. It’s called gender equality

So, online dating is just plain amusing. It just gets creepy really quickly when they argue with you as if you owe them a chance (which feminism says you owe no one a chance). I used to get creeped out by it, even a little triggered (considering that I am a rape survivor). Now I just chuckle and repeat what feminism says, and they miraculously try to argue more. I don’t run into the issue on OKcupid, they don’t let them talk to you unless you swipe on them, but a few others are different.

 

For the record, I also add that I am not interested in dating women with kids. I don’t have kids, so I figured it’s a reasonable ask.

 

Bw creep me out with the staring (like the I want to fuck the shit out of you type stare). Culturally they know all they need to do is smile for a brother to get the message, but for some reason they get creepy. Ww simply smile + start up a convo during which you can decide where you want to go with it. Much better approach imo. Some are more flirty than others but it's never creepy from the jump. The only creepy ones are creepy after you smashington.

Easy choice WW FTW.

 

There are creepy white women, too. But, even then, the creep-factor is often lessened by the fact that they don’t feel as though they own you like bw do.

 

True

I haven't met any that were creepy up front tho. Also I think I lower the risk by letting them know that I won't have much time for them up front. When your actions are one way from the beginning and they see it won't change, it usually works out good enough. At least you then have enough distance to just drop them if need be.

 

Because they aren't a monolithic group. Just because some of them are shitty doesn't mean being insulting to all is the right move. To each their own I just know for me seeing profile after profile rejecting black men just for being black sucked.

 

If hurting others is entertaining that's plain sad.

 

“Life is a comedy to those who think, a tragedy to those who feel.”

~ Jean Racine

 

Do no harm

Do onto others as you would want done to your own child.

 

You still trying to tell people what to do?

 

I never claimed they were a monolith, I implied that it isn’t my responsibility to appease their fragile egos. Mind you, assuming that every black woman that approaches my page will be offended might also imply that black women are a monolith. But, I get it. You would rather I don’t post that, so that they can message me and just get rejected in their inbox. I don’t normally adjust my methods due to the feelings of random strangers but... Alright brotha, I’ll do that from now on so that you can sleep well at night.