The code-words we use.

Hey

So the use of code-words are discreet ways we signal our dating interests in public circles.

Are there any words or unique terms that black men or white women use on social media or in the dating scene, to hint you prefer dating black men/ white women?

Essentially a coded way to avoid scrutiny for your preferences.

I'm only aware of the R-rated, kink-terms that some people refer to, such as;

- snowbunny
- "Queen of spades" (the tattoo)
- Tags- wwbm, swirl etc.

I find these terms weird, but it'll be nice to know some less-sexualised ways of communicating.

Are there any other terms that I'm not aware of?

And it'll be nice to have a discussion on creating new code-words to connect with each other outside this very special forum.


A bit about myself:
I'm a little new to the forum.
I'm a 25 yr old black male from the UK.

 

I definitely understand your point of view, my approach is not an attempt to be covert or to associate with these sexual tags, but for those of us who are young and still dating, we may struggle to filter out those who dont share the same interests (ww/bm) and without wasting people's time.

 

Good point! Although i personally wouldn't want to date someone who has never considered IR before, or who considers themselves "colorblind" when dating, because thats a lot of work and I've been there before, eventhough an IR relationship is just like every other relationship, everyday still feels like a lesson to unlearn about societal projections and the person who isn't prepared for the small dynamics of a IR relationship, especially when their family isn't prepared for the culture clash.
I'd rather date someone who has held a preference before dating me and has had a deeper thought into being with someone from a different culture.

 

In online dating profiles, I think a ww will sometimes include a pic in which she's with black friends as a clue that she's open to IR relations. ... Of course, some will go the straightforward route and simply state they're open to dating "outside of their race".

To the OP -- I read stats that about 50% of black men in the UK marry white (??). I wouldn't think that IR relations would be tricky to navigate in that atmosphere -- let alone needing "code".

Here in the US (especially certain environs) it's important to know who's who. Personally, I wouldn't want to flatter a klanswoman with my attention, so yeah, if I were dating, I'd look for clues & cues.

 

50% is a surprise to me and pretty unrealistic, if it's possible to share those stats with me please.
But I''m aware that Carribean men are more likely to date IR in the UK, but African men still tend to stick to their own culture.

I totally get that, that's why I would rather know beforehand lool

 

Milk-bath-booty-cheeks, means a pale white woman that gets really wet and has a big ass.

snowflake Christmas Dime, means a white woman who is fine as fuck, but will also dress up as Mrs. Clause and give you the goodies.

backdoor bleach biddie,is a white woman who bleached her butt hole.

space tang Star fox, is a foxy white lady who’s pussy makes you feel like you are an astronaut in zero gravity.

Ms. Daisy, is a white woman who teaches you how to read.

snowfall snowball, is when a team of buffed white women carry you to safety


gingerbread and truffle sandwich, is two red headed white women having sex with a black man.

I hope ALL of this helps.

 

Hahaha, very creative,thanks but was hoping for less explicit terms, im familiar with some of those.

 

The stat I see quoted a lot is that about 50% of black guys in the UK marry out.

A quick google brings up this from Wikipedia: "black British males were around 50% more likely than black females to marry outside their race."

Maybe that's the source of the confusion.

 

Regarding "code" -- in dating profiles, I think a ww stating her love for "r&b" might be a signal (or at least you can take it as one)... Being open to black music doesn't mean she's open to IR dating, but it might mean she's more culturally open-minded and more acclimated to black people.

 

It depends on the artists she likes.

 

I more of so notice code words of women who don't fuck with black dudes on dating profiles.

Hates rap music
Hardcore country music fans
Wanting a "country boy"
Loves watching baseball and hockey, no love for the NFL and NBA
Women into law enforcement officers

 

Women without lips

 

"50% more likely to marry out" then I get that, but not 50% of the total pop. of married black British men, that's pretty high and not what I've seen lol

I agree with that observation.

 

I've come across phrases like "I have a preference for light/blue/green eyes etc", a dead give away LOL

 

Do y'all think this chick is being too obvious or nah?:

Spoiler

 

100% hint LOOL i dont think its too obvious but wow, a dead give away.
It's very creative

 

My best friend uses code words since I've known him but we used these interchangeably.

Delquan-Typical thug brother
Shaquandra-Hood Rat
V.S.R-Vaginal Sales Rep (Prostitute)
V.S.M-Vaginal Sales Manager (Pimp)
Locs-"Low-Ks" buddies you hang with
Pound or Clap-Having sex with a female

There's a bunch of others but those are the ones to come to mind.