On first date- woman takes picture of man's license plate before getting in his car

Thought this article was interesting from a legal perspective. The comments seem heavily in support of the woman, as a man, I see his point of view as well, I would view her actions as assuming I was a criminal and would find that offensive. I understand the need to be safe when first meeting someone, perhaps meeting someone at an agreed upon place, until getting to know someone better is a better solution in the current dating environment. Interested in knowing others' thoughts on this.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/man-shaming-woman-her-first-123020297.html

 

That man was a shit, I mean, there is a certain safety aspect to consider.

 

I don't take issue with such action, and I think dude totally overreacted, especially if she's riding with him in his car. With so much happening nowadays, it's totally understandable that she'd want someone to be able to contact the police (with info) should something happen to her.

My ex-wife told me that when we went on our early dates... She had given my name, employer and car description to her friend just in case.

 

I had my daughter give me a pic of the guys car and plate and basic info when she was dating. Not a copy of his drivers license. This was before she got in the car with a guy. There have been girls disappearing and turning up dead in the area. I don't really give a rip what anyone thinks about it. I thing guys should do the same, and my son used to when he was dating. I've done that for years - did it with roommates years ago too. Someone should know where you are and who you are with, period. I see it as a respect issue too.

I had this conversation on a date I was on the other night. And yes I met him in a public place before I ever went anywhere with him. And yes I sent his info to a friend of mine too. Happens to be that this man is law enforcement and had no problem doing so, actually he was very transparent and showed me more info than I would have asked for. He said where he drew the line was showing his drivers license or social security card - yes he had been asked! Because it's just too easy to steal one's identity that way. But actually identity can be stolen much easier than that. Anyway, I have never had a man have a problem with providing basic information and knowing that someone would have it on my behalf.

 

I'm on the man's side. If a woman with me is so afraid for her safety that she has to take a pic of my license plate then why is she even near me in the first place? Yeah, I think that safety is important but I'd be incredibly insulted if a woman did that to me.

 

How about going to public places until you feel comfortable like Loki said. If she suggested exchanging information fine but you getting just mine is unsafe for me as well. I use to read about guys getting set up by girls they meet online. You go home from a date to find either your place robbed or someone waiting at your house to rob you.
Women aren't the only ones capable of being wronged.

 

This is what I prefer to do on first (and second, and sometimes even third) dates. That way, neither of us has to depend on the other to get home safely. Plus, as people say down here, I don't know them like that.

And yeah, this sounds exactly like some set up shit lol. I actually know people who have been set up in similar situations. It's a crazy ass world out there.

 

Yes, but I understand the guy too. Yes I also agree that meeting in a public place is the best for both parties.

 

While the numbers are extremely low compared to women who are raped, beaten and murdered by their 'dates' l do recall a gentleman l dated tell me a story..

He said he normally likes to arrive early and find the address... one night as he did this he noticed the woman was outside sitting on her stoop with a group of men. It didn't sit right with him so he parked and called her and said that he was on his way and around the corner. He saw her hang up and the group of guys all took positions of hiding. He just knew he was going to be car jacked or robbed so he left.

I also remember reading about a guy who was car-jacked and stripped snd robbed..have to find it..

 

I have always left his name number and car descipt with loved ones before going to meet a guy or being picked up.

Couldn't find the story l had read but l found a few others.

Florida man stripped naked, then robbed at gunpoint during first date:
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/cri...robbed-gunpoint-date-report-article-1.1376297

Oregon man left naked, robbed at motel after bad Tinder date
http://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/crime/oregon-man-left-naked-at-motel-after-bad-tinder-date/


Man robbed and killed after PlentyOfFish date
Man shot in the head in robbery police say was arranged hours after a woman visited his home on their first date
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/man-robbed-killed-plentyoffish-date-florida-auburndale-a7206731.html


Adam Hilarie, 27, was killed the night after he went bowling with a woman he met on the online dating site PlentyOfFish pic:Facebook

 

Exactly. If I don't feel safe around someone, there's no way I'm going to willingly put myself in a situation where that person can do harm to me.

She has the absolute right to feel as safe as she needs to, but he's also got the absolute right to date someone who doesn't automatically see him as a threat.

 

Do you all really think that these incidents where women are taken and raped or killed (men too for that matter) were situations where they didn't feel "comfortable" with the person? Most likely they did feel comfie and that's exactly how the predators get to their victims, they are very good at making people feel comfie.

 

Absolutely - it goes both ways. Meet in public until you feel comfortable and still both exchange information. I'm not saying addresses and all that even. I'm saying the name and plate. I'm very guarded and don't give out my address to anyone. I realize they can find it if they want to bad enough. Just like they can do identity theft if they want to bad enough. But I'm not going to offer up all my info. Over the years I have had men send me all sorts of information and details about their lives and I couldn't believe they would do all that. They were lucky that I wouldn't do anything with any of that, but I've known several men who had stalkers and females doing all sorts of shady things.

 

Maybe not but this article was about a woman meeting a man for the first time. It wasn't someone that she already knew and statistically, those are the most dangerous people. But she was obviously concerned enough for her safety that she felt the need to take a picture of her license plate just in case he turned out to be a rapist/kidnapper/murderer.

And if she's that worried about her safety then she doesn't need to be getting into his car to begin with.

 

this is the part I don't understand. I have done plenty of dating an I'm just not going to be getting into someone's car until I know him. Not even the whole safety thing, I don't like being dependent upon someone else if I decide I'm not feeling it or whatever and want to go home. I guess maybe people just figure Lyft/Uber maybe. But then why not use those to get to the date to begin with?

 

I'm the same way. The safety aspect is just an added bonus. But I cannot wrap my head around the fact that the woman mentioned in the article (or any woman, or any man) would knowingly get into a closed, confined space with someone who makes them feel stranger danger.

 

How exactly is taking a picture of a license plate or giving info about a date to a friend is going to prevent physical harm or make you any safer?

 

Look at this retarded motherfucker here turning terrible crimes committed against innocent people into a competition between sexes.



Just plain stupid!

 

It doesn't prevent anything. It MAY give information if someone disappears. There's be quite a few disappearing out here recently. They didn't know who they were with or where they had gone. Maybe it wouldn't have prevented the outcome, maybe it could have though if people were able to get on the trail faster with some information.