He in love with her, but I got a crush on her.

You never plan on plotting on another's girlfriend or boyfriend, but sometimes you find yourself checking out somebody's woman/man.

I'm cool with a guy, not really a friend but must say I find myself checking his girl. She has the body type I'm attracted to and think damn if I could get that type of person.

Or maybe it's something about his gf/bf personality you like. Y'all connect on a deep level, their sense of humor, intellect, the way he cares for his family. Your mind goes to a place where you fantasize about it. I'm not talking of stealing someone's significant other, just the attraction. I'm not a grimey dude lol.

Figured I get some feedback or maybe I'm alone on this which is cool. If so how did you handle it?

 

Oh dear, that sounds a bit sticky, I guess we can become attracted to others partners, and fantasize, I guess that is ok, but I would stay out of it, avoid the potential drama and trouble, and see if another girl can be found that is not taken, I would think that would be preferable. don't know how much you get around or mingle, but if so, maybe another girl is out there, and preferably not taken.

A song from the 80s or the past comes up, called Jessie's girl, this post got that song going in my head.

Hope this does not come across as judgmental, just my take on it.

 

Can't steal nobodies GF/BF, these people make the decision themselves to stay or go.

If she is choosing, go for it. As you already said, he's not your friend so obviously you don't respect him.

Personally the only involved women I mess with are women whose man who never crossed paths with me before which greatly lessens the chance of drama.

 

As long as the woman is not a friend of mine, I would flirt with her man to test the water.

 

Nah I'm not trying to get at anyone's girl or steal them lol. Just an attraction thing. I just wanted to hear of anyone's experiences with that and how they handled it. Don't really know the guy or his woman but I would feel bad if I did that.

I agree it's always better to get your own woman, there's plenty of beautiful people out there. However have you ever met someone who belongs to someone else and you're like damn wish I could have you lol? My thing is usually the physical. I try to be respectful but sometimes a guy will be with his lady and she is looking damn good. So it was just an idea that came to my head.

 

I do remember Jessie's girl lol. I read something interesting about that song. First time I heard that song a buddy of mine performed a Karoke version of it.

 

Yea I've done something like that before way back in college. But his lady was all over me lol. She set me up, I was young and naive. Came over and she basically jumped all over me and pinned me down. I had to take it lol. Lucky for me her man was way out of the picture. Now I don't be trying to get down like that, I just admire and keep it moving. Don't wanna be messing up anyone's good thing lol, some don't know what they have tho hahaha.

 

I like your style lol.

 

One of the few who do. lol

 

This may be a reach but I notice white women aren't afraid of going for what they want. From what I experienced in the past black women will try to take a someone's man behind closed doors. White women will flirt with a man right in front of his woman's face lol.

I've seen this personally. It's like they don't give a fuck lol, they are more free willed and aggressive. I like that but it's embarrassing cuz your put on the spot in front of your woman or date.

 

Of course, it is an honest competition.

 

I can and would admire from afar and would try to seek out someone similar to him if he had traits l connected with.

No way in hell would I ever make a move, even on a stranger's man, there's just too many crazy people today, you - can't fuck with people's emotions and families - people are on edge enough as it is and there's too much easy access to guns. No thank you.

 

Lol I was with my pops one day at a Karoke bar. My dad has been remarried for about 12 years to my step mom. It's a big group of us, she's not there but her sister and her family is there. We're all chilling and this white lady comes up out of nowhere and keeps trying to dance with my dad. If the family wasn't there I know my dad would've tried her. But it was like she didn't give a shit, she was an attractive woman too lol. Me and my brother kept dancing with her so that nothing popped off that night lol. She really wanted my dad tho lol.

 

True that. It's a dangerous game, and honestly I wouldn't blame someone for going after my ass if I did cross the line. I've been out and had guys girlfriends eyeball me, but I know if could just be that they want attention. I just fantasize about having them and leave it at that.

 

He, he, he, he still got it.

 

The boyfriend/girlfriend thing is just high-schoolish. Everyone has one. If they live together it's serious enough for you to back away from. Otherwise she is a grown woman, go for it. I would never make a move on a friends girl but for anyone else.........I rarely get a "crush" so, if I do I'll go for it.

I have never fought over a woman so I Lol at guys that do. If he wants to be silly enough to get violent, I hope she was really worth it to him.....lol.

 

You have no idea lol. He came out to visit me here in San Diego, and a few of the women in my complex said he was cute. Then one day I'm with a lady friend and she sees a pic of me and my pops, shes like damn your dad is sexy I may need to holler at him in case this don't work out. I'm like wtf lol.

 

Lol true indeed. Would never cross a friend or brother. Anyone else only if the woman puts it out there, and I'm not going to her crib either.

 

Do you look like him or your mom?

 

Splitting image of my pops lol. Though I have my mom's smile and a lil of her personality.