Man Hits Woman - Was he Right ? Or Wrong ?

Solution to the problem: Teach your kids to respect themselves and other people. That way if/when a situation arises you as a parent are providing them with the necessary tools to gauge a particular situation and they can act as needed. Whether it's walk away or at the extreme engage in violence to defend against it.

 

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Bottom line don't expect people to act the way you want them to act.

You expect all men not to throw a punch at a woman after she's throwing punches at him. If so then you are in for a rude awakening.
Also if you attack a person (man or woman) then you should expect to get your dome split. If you don't want that to happen then keep your hands to yourself.

You can scream all day but dont touch.

So simple

 

Yeah but it's also up to us to dispel that b.s. of boys should never hit girls. It's dangerous for everyone involved. If we don't it's like saying hey blacks should never talk back to a white person but we're all God's children

 

I would probably just bitch slap the fire out of him as a warning shot, not even sure honestly its been a long time since I had to get violent. If the bitch slap didn't work he would be in for a very brutal response. Not going to even argue that. That's just probably how I would handle it.

 

Who's advocating that girls should be hitting boys? When you show who's doing that, then we can dispel with the whole boys not hitting girls thing.

 

I never said anyone advocates girls hitting boys but you do when you tell boys they shouldn't hit girls but don't deliver the same message to girls.

 

Where did I ever even incinuate that girls don't need to keep their hands to themselves. I swear this conversation is like that Groundhog's Day movie. It's been said literally over and over (by me and others) that everyone should keep their hands to themselves. That's not the disagreed upon point here. The point is that we live in a world that isn't perfect and there will be people who test you at times and our kids need to know how to react appropriately. Defend yourself to the extend necessary and NO FURTHER. If a small person slaps you, you have no justification to go off and beat them when you had size and strength advantages. Good lord I can't believe that is even a debatable point. In the majority of cases, men naturally have greater size and strength than women so unless theres a valid safety concern, I'll never understand hitting a woman...just like I'll never understand or condone hitting anyone smaller. There are other options when you have size and strength advantages. Period.

 

Yeah spoken like someone who didn't fight growing up. You let anyone get a free shot it's a matter of time before someone else tried. I don't care if someone is half my size don't touch me. I have every right to create and maintain boundaries. I respect your boundaries respect mine period the end.

 

Standing ovation!!!

 

Who is not delivering this message to girls? So you're suggesting that if you tell boys to not hit girls that automatically translates into it's okay for girls to hit boys???

 

If a small person is going to test a big person then that small person needs to get their ass spanked for doing something that foolish

A big person would have multiple thoughts on what advantages this guy has for coming at me when I have the size advantage? With that in mind he could have a knife a gun, other people behind me or he know martial arts.

When you get into a fight , it's a matter of life and death. You don't play like that.

You have to neutralize the opposition quickly.

 

"If a small person slaps you, you have no justification to go off and beat them when you had size and strength advantages" if by 'small person' you mean a child, then that would be appropriate not to hit back, but ironically, most societies accept the idea of discipline and obedience when it comes to children. Legally it's still o.k. to hit your child in the name of discipline (I don't agree with hitting children because they aren't cognitively developed to understand that their actions may be bad).

Ironically, it's socially acceptable to respond with violence to a child who refuses verbal commands, but not a GROWN women who initiated a violent attack. We sadly treat women like grown children, in fact, in a patriarchal society like this, we treat women as LESS than children.

 

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Yes it emboldens them which is why so many are shocked when someone actually hits them back and without fail you constantly hear "you can't hit a girl"
Dude most people are simple as fuck and need it spelled out several ways. We as men get a real life education from the moment we get to the playground that's why most men don't start shit. In most cases dudes have to be intoxicated to mess with a random stranger. We have a clear understanding if I swing on someone I better be prepared to deal with the clap back. Women don't grow up with that understanding.

 

So...none of these savage ass females coming up nowadays understand the concept & consequences of violence when they fight each other? They only understand it when they decide to be extra savage and run up on dudes? Really????

 

If we lived in a perfect world, you'd have a very good point. But we don't. We live in a world where you're going to be tested and I think it's very immature and short sighted to have the mentality that some of you have. I thank God that the man in my life is smart enough to have always considered his size and strength when altercations arose. He wasn't a saint but he also wasnt dumb enough to think he could ever unleash on someone for something petty and not pay significantly for it. Defending yourself is a given. Wailing on someone smaller when you could have reacted more maturely is an entirely different beast.

 

How many times have you hit your man?

 

I'm not ok with anyone hit anyone. I have 4 kids (2 girls, 2 boys) that I raised to not ever hit someone. But they also have all been trained to defend themselves and they all know simple quick moves that can take anyone out if need be.

This whole thing about someone being smaller. You better bet if a smaller chick comes at me or my kids when I'm somewhere and she's smaller I'm going to do everything possible to get out of the situation, but if it comes down to it she's going down.

I am 5'4, but I can guarantee I can take those big guys out as well. I'm not going to do it unless it's absolutely necessary. But I've been places where some crazy chick has lost her mind and gone after someone much larger and if she's able to land some well placed moves, she could easily take him out. I had a situation in college where a rugby player about the size of Raiders man came at me and he was on the ground before he knew what happened, I was maybe 130 at the time.

I'm all for teaching kids to keep their hands to themselves and be respectful, but they also have to know how to deal with things they may encounter. To think just because someone is smaller they aren't as powerful....give me a break. I've seen some very small people do some really major damage.

 

Yeah you have no clue what's in a person's head and what they are able to do.

Don't take them for granted

 

Contrary to your belief, I'm not that woman. If I was that type though and I did hit him, he could easily restrain me with one hand...he'd never hit me back. No matter how angry I got him, he just wouldn't do it. He would never hurt a woman unless his life was in imminent danger. His ex tested every limit he had, including putting her hands on him out of anger, he never touched her except to restrain her until the cops came lol. Ex tells the same version...she acted psycho but he never touched her. That's how we're raising our boys, every measure to avoid hurting someone should be taken.