Why do white girl/women avoid black men outside

Lot of white girls run away from black men going near them or passing right by them. This needs to be talk about

 

They are chicken.

 

It's about what they were told at home with their parents. Parental influence is strong. In my life as a kid, I began to understand the apprehension of white girls and women. It was all about what kind of man they want to meet up with. She would be as picky about men as she would be about everything else that is important to her.

 

Yeah, possibly they think of stereotypes, apologies if I am hijacking this thread but I am curious to know about girl vs guy approaching.

I had an instance but for me it was the other way round, and indoors, I tried to get near a black guy I thought was cute but he avoided me, was kinda emabarrsing. So now I will not approach, only smile and look their way and if they catch my hint wait for them to approach.

So is it best to wait for black guys to approach? do guys or blacks guys like a girl to approach them? or does it scare them? Is it best if the woman is very pretty or Hollywood pretty? If she is more average looking or does not look like a model should she approach?

If I do approach where are the best places and what is the best way to go about it?

Go easy here folks I am a bit socially awkward so what is obvious to some might not be for me, I have mild social anxiety, so it took a lot for when I approached the guy to only be avoided, I usually am very quiet and keep to myself, maybe I need to stay this way.

Sorry to hijack this, am sorry you have experienced this, don't worry those girls are ignorant.

 

Maybe you stank or she found you visually unappealing.

 

You're not hijacking. I wish a white woman would approach me. If they did it was for a purpose other than just being attracted to me. It's just for answering questions, or things like a light(sadly, I have to tell the woman that I don't smoke so I would have to carry a lighter).

I had learned over the years that if she isn't talking to me with interest in me, she's not interested in me. I could be the man showing an interest in her, but if she isn't interested, if she is somewhere else mentally, she's not interested in me.

I think people have to quit building walls when meeting other people. Being guarded all the time isn't healthy because a person can lose out on positive interaction with the world.

 

you need to work on this first. Start out simple with greeting everyone you see. When you are comfortable with that, ask how are you doing to spark a conversation. Do this enough until it feels natural.

 

Thanks for your perspective and nice screen name by the way.

 

If I had a quarter every time this happened to me, I'd have a hell of a lot of quarters.

Most of it is based on parental and social conditioning. The stereotypes presented by media (news, Hollywood, etc.) also have a HUGE bearing on how the black male is viewed by the majority of people, and not just whites. Very unfortunate, this. I experience it on a daily basis; it's prevalent here in the Bay Area. :smt092

 

Very true. It's also, likely, even more prevalent today because of all the recent events (e.g., Baltimore, Freddie Gray, Michael Brown, the Black Lives Matter movement, etc.). I truly believe that there are quite a few whites who will look for the tiniest thing to activate and carry around their "Oh my God, I'm terrified of blacks, what will they do next, gotta stay clear of them!!" mantra. Specifically, white woman who appear fearful of black men, in public, are either really scared of us (see typical, stereotypes perpetuated throughout society, upbringing/environment, social conditioning) or they are playing that little game, trying to throw other whites off the trail so that they don't realize what their true feelings about us are... :smt054

 

good advice

 

Boy I'm clean cut and dress well. This shit not funny. All black men told me same thing. Plus a white mom introduce me to her daughter so shut the hell up. This shit piss me off. Not even white girl but other races of women. Black women are doing it too to little extent. Sometimes I feel I should not go outside, fuck this shit

 

Depending on the situation... I'll make a conscious effort to walk to the far side of the sidewalk and so on. At work, I tend to walk up the stairwell from the parking garage and in a case like that... I'd let her go several seconds ahead of me so that once I enter the stairwell... She's at least 1 floor up.

Some folks get scared easily, and the last thing I want is for someone to think I'm coming after her. In terms of approaching WW??? I won't do it as quickly as I'd approach a woman of color as you don't know her mindset. It can be anything from... No way would I ever consider dating a black man to I welcome black men. However, If I've already broken the ice... If she seems receptive I'll go for it.

 

Lots of black guys are shy

The woman has to break the ice

 

Listening is also important to learning about women of any race or culture. I think one cannot rush in and try to establish a relationship, even if it is in friendship. I've seen guys chase women like neighborhood dogs chase passing cars. And the woman just keeps on walking.

At the job, a customer's husband was looking for an employee who was making a pass at her. However, there was no evidence to show that anyone working had made any advances toward the woman.

Another customer's cousin who just got out of jail was also looking for someone made an inappropriate comment on the customer was coming over to face the employee for it.
Again, no one had a positive description of the employee who committed said offense

I offer customers assistance but I don't harass them.

It is the same thing with women.

 

Pretty much. I know I definitely don't feel comfortable to approach random WW I don't know.

 

That's kinda cute that the majority of black man are shy. Never would have thought this would be the case.

 

Same here. There aren't too many of us that are shy. The ones who are quiet are just antisocial. Lol.

 

Hahah. It's a shame though to not get over that fear of putting yourself out there and making the first move. I guess it'd work if the girl was also shy. I couldn't be with a shy person.

 

Most black guys aren't shy, if they were we wouldn't have the "aggressive with women" stereotype.

You probably experience more shy black guys because in the black community those are the type that stereotypically get with WW. To a lot of black folks, being shy and/ or quiet is unattractive especially if you're a male. I feel like some of the posters here fit that bill, whether they'd admit it or not.