do white women prefer black men when they are older?

She's a stripper.

You are missing the point though. It doesn't matter if u met a male porn star or not. Would you date one?

 

Depends because the Queen thing is usually reserved for your "independent women" types. Usually black women

The princess thing is universal for take care of me I deserve it

 

I'm not saying it doesn't happen. I know it does. I would like to think it's an age or stage of life thing, but unfortunately, I do know it goes on with all ages. My point is though, with some experience, men should be able to spot it pretty easily. Not saying there aren't those who are more smooth and it may not be shown as clearly. But for the most part, it's about our choices. If we keep having the same thing happen over and over again, maybe it's about the type of people we are choosing and we need to take a look at ourselves rather than to be blaming others.

Oh and btw it still goes on with some older men too. I went out with one a few ago who slid under my radar flashing his Amex black card going on about the trips he's going to take me on blah blah blah.

I remember when you used to be rather negative about women and saying how all/most were this and that and such and I went round with you about it. I kept saying that there were others out there and at that time, you really didn't see the possibility. You are now on the other side of it. You do see that there are others out there. Not that you don't still see the same stuff you saw before, but maybe your horizons have been broadened.

I see more than you may think. I get to hear about it all from my grown kids too. I do think there is some differences in generations and how they were raised. My 28 year old son is dating someone who is bent on paying her part always. I was thinking that may be more her generation, but I think it's more because she was in a relationship with someone who liked to use money as a way to hold some sort of power over her so she decided - never again.

 

You are missing the point. I've dated/been involved with men with high profiles who had a lot of women in their past.

We all have our things about how we would size up who we would date, fuck, or marry. That's not exclusive to men.

Most of us probably also know which category we fall into (generally speaking).

But even with generalizations, people are individuals and where you may think - no way I would get with him/her....you don't really know until you are there. I know a lot of people who are in relationships with people who they never would have thought they would be with.

 

Know I still think my observations hold true because its cultural in nature. Spending time in Canada this last year has shown me that. From major cities to rural places the people are just far more inviting, kinder in nature and a lot less about materialism and consumerism. We live differently here and as a result a lot people look a relationships as something they are suppose to get something out of not something they enjoy with others. It's the American mentality, that much can't be denied. I just realize there are people who you can work with and who can be on the same page but the vast majority are so miserable and don't notice how they contribute to their own misery. I had to see how I contributed to my own unhappiness and it was largely not being patient, the unrelenting feeling that there was something socially wrong with me if I didn't have a woman in my life. That's why I would try to make trainwrecks work, constantly pushing a cube into a circle. I own that part, but I spend A LOT of time reading and listening to people and I'm sorry to say it but too many Americans are just plain awful. Albeit its been through years of conditioning and programming but it is what it is.
Your son's girlfriend is incredibly rare especially at her age. I think for older women they've had reality slap them across the face enough to realize that fairytale bs won't bring them happiness and the strings attached simply aren't worth it

 

Gotcha

 

I know but if I see you walking down the street with half your ass hanging out, then in my mind I'm saying "I'll fuck her but she's not gf status". If she wants gf status she has to work mofo hard.

At gf status , in my eyes you are auditioning to be my wife.

 

I get it.

The bolded part is really off putting. Work hard how? This is that part where have the thing about "earning" and proving their worth. Wouldn't someone be gf status because you like who and how she is (naturally)?

I guess when I see you put the "work mofo hard" it's like she has to go out of her way and jump through all sorts of hoops to be how you want.

 

lol thanks for correcting the stepper/stripper. I was thinking dang I'm old I have no clue what "stepper" is!

I didn't know she was a stripper (I'm not up on any of that crap). I don't think that alone makes her become unworthy of being married though. You might be surprised that there are some really amazing women out there who may have stipped for a period of time to take care of their kids or whatever reasons. I don't think I would be going to the strip clubs looking for a wife though if I was a man.

 

In the stripper world , they are known to turn tricks and just the fact of stripping ...
So you have a woman who is hoe-ing and surely I'm not going to make her my gf or even a jump-off. She might be a booty call but thats all.

A man never try to turn a hoe into a housewife. That includes the neighborhood slut.

What I mean by "earning" is this; when a dude steps to you in a puma sweatsuit , gold chain and a kango , and smell like he swam an a bottle of karate cologne and hes talking dumb shit.....you are gonna naturally diss him.


Another guy dressed well , articulate , show integrity throughout the four years of dating, good character and can knock the coochie Out if joint.....he's hubby material cause he earned that title.

For a guy , a woman who shows loyalty, can budget and is cheap , has a good job, and of good character and can perform like a porns star....I'm putting a mount Everest on her finger...she

Lol


Lol

 

If you're 22, this approach might work.

But grown men don't step to women like that.

 

Cosign

 

Thank you!

 

Write down those macking notes. Lol

 

Why spend an enormous amount of money on a first date?

I'll address the rest?

 

So now you are flip flopping. Lol

 

Damn right.

Lol

Lol

 

?? who is this meant for? You quoted both me and TDK.

 

He don't know lol

 

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