Real talk: are you a trick or are you the man?

Do you know if you got put in the trick back?

Are you that man who spend a lot of money on a date or spend a lot of money on gifts when you just met a woman?

Then more than likely you are in the trick bag.


Now some women say you should be ok with spending a lot of money on a woman on the first few dates and buy gifts even though you just started dating. They also try to sell you the goods that if you don't then you just a broke dude.


So who is right?

 

LOL You're a trip!

Define "a lot of money".

Are you talking about going for a happy meal?

I think there's a big difference between buying expensive gifts and spending a lot of money, and buying lunch at a cafe or even dinner at a decent (not overly priced) restaurant.

I think it's best to stick with doing what you would do. For example, if you typically would go to a chain restaurant for lunch or dinner if you are going by yourself or with a friend, then doing something that is similar would be fine for a date.

I think people over think this stuff. I don't want a man making a big show that's a bunch of crap and doesn't represent who/how he really is.

 

They haven't earned that happy meal yet
Lol

That's another way to see it too.


I say just keep it light .... Coffee and that's it. Why? If u start out big you have to keep it up.

Also, staying light the pressure is not there.


Dudes need to stay away from paying a woman's bills.

 

"earned it" ....see that's the thing. To me, it sounds like you are coming at it in an adversarial way. It's like you are walking into it expecting them to be all sorts of negative things. Which makes me think you are carrying forth all the past shit, rather than going with the now and the person you are dealing with. Do you not trust your own instincts? Do you think you are unable to choose someone worth it?

Hell I figure, I'm investing my own time in the situation, I'm going to choose to go somewhere I feel comfortable going that's a good environment. Then I really don't care if I pay or they do.

If it's not someone I think is worth it, wtf would I even bother going anywhere with them?

 

I don't have enough dates to be providing all this insight. Lmao

 

That's right earn it


Lol

Show me what you working with.


Respect is earned not given

 

Don't even try it sir pimp-a- lot

 

Funny out of all I said...that's what you continue to grab. How about answering the questions?

 

If a woman was into a dude then she would be content going to McDonalds cause she's with him. she must bring to the table more than tits and ass then she can go to upgraded spot.

A man would be a fool to throw tons of cash on the first few dates. Why? You don't know what's up with her. Is she a jump-off or a girfriend material. Also if start like that you must keep it going. If he has to throw cash lije that then he's lacking.

 

Did something happen to you recently?

 

good question!

 

Usually I try to spend a modest amount, not too cheap and not too expensive.

Though, imo it's better to overspend on a first date then to underspend. I'd rather ball out like Aladdin on some girl I just met than give the impression that I can barely afford a dinner date. You know what they say "First impressions mean everything."

 

Yeah. The guys got together talking about trump simping then it spawned into this topic.

 

I don't . I just do drinks , coffee and a picnic.
This allows me to shorten the date if it's wack (dinner date). Less pressure on the both of us. No focus on the cash and more focus on getting to know each other and last if she s into you then she wouldn't care what yall do. If she's counting how much I spend then i need to count how fast I'm getting her out my face.