How has your failures shape you today?

Barack talks about how his failures shaped him

https://www.google.com/amp/mobile.reuters.com/article/amp/idUSKCN12C05F

After reading the article how has your failures shape you?


It's a saying with teachers " a student will say I got an A on my report card or they will say the teacher gave me an F"


I remember when I was in the army dating was great but then when I got out and started college I was bombing like no tomorrow. I was upset and mad. Then a friend of mine said " you can blame them .... It's you."

You have to look at yourself. It was a hard pill to swallow but it was true. I learned to reinvent myself and I've gotten better. Not saying much but better...lol

Professionally , its the same thing. If something is foul I start with me.

What I learned was have a plan and work it. No matter what it is. Ask questions. Surround yourself with real friends...meaning people who will give that brutal truth pill.

I'm not where I am (I'm behind) buy I'm getting better. I'm teaching my child not to make the same mistakes.

Smart people learn from their mistakes.....wise people learn from smart people

 

I learned a lot, but it took a while. I was angry and bitter, and I used to assume all the fault rested with me. I hated myself for failure after some easy successes in youth and early on in my career. But once I said to myself "Okay, it's your fault. How are you going to fix it?" Once I said that to myself, I began to force myself to change, slowly and grudgingly. I'm a work in progress. Not finished by any means, but still struggling daily. That's all we can do it keep trying.

 

Absolutely. We should always improve. I agree with you. I was in the same boat as you As far as being bitter and angry.

The biggest roblem has been self doubt.

I really started living with a sense of purpose and no nonsense attitude and so far so good.

 

I still suffer from self-doubt, but I just do it and let the chips fall where they may. I will fail for certain if I don't make the attempt, so why not try? What have I got to lose?

 

One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to allow yourself to make mistakes in life.

 

True, but that is to some extent mitigated by the damage a given mistake results in.

 

Well to me the only true mistakes are those we don't learn from. However, many people live their lives so afraid of making mistakes (or failing) that they are paralyzed and stay very boxed in.

 

Quite true, but if the mistake devastates someone else, it's hard to ignore it.

 

I don't think you should ever ignore mistakes.

I think it's tough to have this conversation without knowing specifics.

I think there is a lot to be said by how someone handles failures in life. Do they take responsibility? Do they clean up any mess they created? Do they move forward and take those lessons to do better in the future?? Or do they give up and wall themselves off and not try any more?

I know people who have had major failures in business but learned from them and created great success down the road. Same could be said in relationships.

 

Great points. If you put up a wall, you will never give yourself a chance to succeed in the future.