Why is it so hard for you women to simply say i'm not attracted to you and...

Fair enough, but I personally prefer the honesty and I'd move on with no hard feelings.

 

I know some people who ended up in ltr because they both were too nice to be straight about things.

 

I really think it's best to be straight about things.

 

I get your points, and I wouldn't treat a women who's a platonic friend like a g/f. However, just her being female there are some things I will always do just because it's the way I was raised. I'll always hold the door, look out for her safety and so on.

 

:shock: Damn!! :smt043 :smt005

 

Some of the coolest chicks I've ever known were masters at the art of rejection.

They'd come up to you like they were on the verge of tears, giving you compliments out the ass about what a great guy I was:smt001, then blaming themselves about how they weren't ready for a relationship and how much they would hurt me.:smt022

This is the one line that made me feel better about myself while accepting the fact I wasn't the one..for them;

" I don't want you to hate me."

LOL.

No hate boo. Still love you to death.

We part ways. End scene.

If you let a female know there really is no option other than being together or NOT being together, she can't friendzone you.

WHich ironically gives both of you space to become REAL friends down the road if that's an option.

BTW I have a really hard time being casual friends with women I've truly loved.
Just too painful.

If your woman is mature about her emotions she's not going to lead you on knowing you have feelings for her but she's not feeling you.

 

Exactly! No one has to be mean about it, but if it's the case that she's not interested... If she tells me then I can stop the pursuit, and no one's time is being wasted. I think some women need to realize that in some situations the guy has no interest in being in the friendzone so it's either all or nothing. If that's the case she needs to respect his feeling just as he should respect that she's not attracted to him.

I don't see the friend zone as a bad thing, but it can be misleading/giving false hope because someone doesn't want to be honest with a person with whom they're not interested.

 

+1000.

This is great technique for women who are sending mixed messages.
But even if it works playing all these games might prove they weren't worth the effort.

When shit is right, both of you are already on the same wavelength and feeling each other.

 

Yup! A guy simply has to be able to walk away if he doesn't want to be in the friend zone.

 

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Maybe it's come from getting older. I don't tolerate having my time wasted and I'm not interested in wasting anyone else's time. Life's way too short for all that.

While there is this whole - "trying to be nice" "don't want to hurt feelings" blah blah blah and it all sounds good....when you really get down to it, it's a lot of bullshit. It's really that they don't want to feel uncomfortable by having to tell someone unpleasant. And if they were to be REALLY honest they like the attention and like to keep it going in some way.

Just be straight about things in a respectful manner and move on.

 

OMG! So on point. It's really about just dealing with the situation instead of trying to weasel out of it. That's why I say... Just tell me from the beginning. Sure, I may hurt a bit, but the sooner I can deal with it... the sooner I can move on.

 

Basically? This. I hate the term "friend zone" and I hate the entire concept of it too. Do you want to date someone? Ask them out and get it over with. And if you can't handle just being friends with them without expecting anything sexual in return then don't be friends with them.

Hanging around someone on the off chance that they may decide to give you some pussy at some undetermined point in the future is just a waste of everyone's time.

 

Absolutely agree with this 100%

Hate for a man to beat around the bush. Be direct and clear and allow me the opportunity to understand your intentions. If everyone communicates and stops assuming ish wouldn't dating and friendships be so much easier?

 

I'm use to being rejected, so I just expect to be rejected if I show some interest. I don't slump, but keep my head high and move along. Perhaps it is better to just walk the world alone and not worry about companionship.

 

So true.

However we all know the power of the pussy IS that strong.lol
It will make you play the pussy lottery on a ticket that can't win.:smt009

I had to learn that shit in my teens that being in the presence of a girl you want is not going to make that pussy suddenly jump on your dick.

 

:smt043:smt043:smt043:smt043

 

I treat them like friends. I'm there if they need me, as a friend. I'll compliment them if they look nice and I'll hold open doors (southern hospitality), but I'm not on deck waiting for a chance. True friends are hard to find so if we can obtain that level, that's where I keep it. Being intamate in the slightest way is totally off limits. Your friendship will burn if you cross any lines.

 

That's a two-way street. Some women are full of shit themselves.

 

Nooooo! That's a big no no! Never go into anything with the though of failure!