she wants to stay hot for her husband and shes catching grief over it

https://gma.yahoo.com/online-backla...ers-vow-stay-hot-125449577--abc-news-sex.html

a woman states she should stay hot cause it makes my husband happy and now she is getting backlash for it.

is she right or social media?


excerpts from the article.......

Amanda Lauren posted an article titled "Staying Hot for My Husband Is Essential to a Successful Marriage."

The Los Angeles resident's post came just weeks after her nuptials to Ethan Kass, vowing to "stay hot" for her husband and to "keep trying to look and feel" her best for him.
The writer's opinion is taking lots of heat from online readers. One woman said the article makes some women feel "their looks make them unworthy of long-term love."

"Having an attractive wife makes him happy. They say 'happy wife, happy life,' but I’m happiest when my husband is happy" she posted.

One comment challenging the newlywed's opinion wrote, "Come back when you’ve been married a few years."

But despite being new at it, Lauren told ABC News, "this is what works for my own marriage."

 

She's right. This is more social justice warrior/white-knight nonsense. The only backlash she's getting is from modern-day feminists and those who think simply having a vagina entitles them to all the happiness in the world without the need for any effort/personal-development on their part.

 

Wow! I think as long as it works for that couple, and she's not being pressured... No prob.

 

i have a question that may be a doubled edged sword for the women but im gonna hold on to it. I want everyones opinion on this article first...especially the women.

 

I suppose in a marriage, working together to find some sense of common ground is very essential in keeping it strong. As long as she is not forced into doing what she feels can keep the marriage happy, then I see no problem in it at all. She's not being pressured into doing it, but there could be some ramifications in the long run when she, like anyone else, ages...and the pressure to keeping herself look good would probably mean investing in facials, botox, and all the other nonsense that could ultimately damage her.

 

If you watch the video and can get past her annoying as fuck whiney voice....

She actually said it's about "being your best self"

Which has merit. People should strive to continue to grow and be the best then can in life (whatever that may mean to them).

The whole "hot" thing grabs readers. I don't think she's "hot" to begin with. I think most people want to continue to be attractive to their partners and to be attracted to their partners.

I do think there is also some merit to the comment about her being a newly wed and not experienced enough to be giving out marital advice.

 

I haven't watched the vid, but you said it all. Even if she weighed 400 lbs. if it works for them, oh well.

 

Yep

The backlash is because she has a blog and is supposedly giving out marital advice.

It's just a bullshit article that grabbed way more attention than it deserved.

 

Whatever, she wants to look good for her husband and herself then more power to her.

 

My father had a recording of a live concert on 8-track tape. He played it a lot. The performer was singer Millie Jackson. She sang and attempted to do a stand-up comic routine as the band played on. She said this little tidbit about marriage.

"Ladies, it's important that you look good for your husbands because he wants to come home to the woman he married on the wedding day. If you don't look good, he's gone to some other woman."

I think she's made a conscious decision for herself. The backlash may also be a response for her posting her plan and view of marriage online.

Every marriage is different and has its share of unique challenges.

If this is how she is going to confront these real and or imagined down the road in her marriage, it's her business.

More power to her.

But marriage is not for everyone.

 

I think that basic concept is covered by one of Beyounce's songs?...but, obviously, JZ crept with Becky so who's to say if this actually works?

To be honest, I agree with the lady. No one should become unattractive after landing your dream spouse/mate. If you idea to land that person before hand was to look hot...you should continue doing it. I always keep my body in decent shape. If I walk pass a full length mirror and I don't see any lines or hint of a stomach muscle and more tit than should be on a man then it's time for me to get my ass to the gym - period.

She definitely shouldn't worry about the backlash that she's receiving from a bunch of out of shape women who think tattoos, hair extensions, painted finger/toe nails or spanx equate to being sexy. However, if you're willing to risk it all on the concept of love/being accepted as you are - more power to you :grin:

 

Whatever works for them. Considering the divorce rate I am glad to see a couple is actually setting some ground work to keep things alive. I am sure they both have their ideas on how they will make it work and there is nothing wrong with that.

I think that this is one thing we have come to expect online. People will feel free to give their opinions because they feel like internet anonymity gives them the voice they can't have in public (Even if their opinion is irrelevant).

So long as she isn't hurting herself or her husband then good for them.

 

What I don't get is why are these women getting mad at her?

What wrong with wanting your husband finding you sexually attractive