back handed compliments to black fathers

Damn you are sensitive. When I tell women I'm divorced, the first question they ask is how much you see your kids? That's a very valid question they ask you and I. Who wants to fuck with a no good deadbeat dude.

Plenty of white people refer to each other as baby moms and baby daddy now, have you been living under a rock? Regardless they will always be right referring to your child's mom as babies mom... doesn't make you less than anybody. You just associate the word with a negative connotation.

 

thats asked if you were talking about dating someone....not in general convo. if it was a dating situation then its valid.

 

I think this may be more of a generational thing. It was a huge negative to have a child out of "wedlock" when some of us were coming up. Now it's become more typical. I was with a group yesterday where a woman kept saying things about kids born out of wedlock. I haven't heard someone go on about that for a long time.

 

I'm not a father but I'm sure everyone has their fair experience with backhanded compliments. The most common one I get is "I wouldn't expect you to speak so fluently" and my response will be "So, in what way did you expect me to speak". It usually get awkward after that.

 

yeah so true

and again , I cant disagree with north and raider in saying I could be overly sensitive.

 

People can be so rude and ask invasive questions. Your response is a great way to handle it. Turn it back on them.

 

on point

 

The first 7 seconds of this commercial hints at what GL is talking about, that there's this public perception of a BM actually acting like a FATHER as something foreign.

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Reaching. Dude was in the news because of the second pic of him doing his daughters hair with the other daughter strapped to him went viral. If he didn't think it was special, he would of turned down all the appearances including this commerical.

 

Meh. WHY is he getting so much attention??

If this was a White dad with his two girls I don't think the media thinks anything he's doing is special.

The guy even said he was surprised by the attention he was getting for just being a father.

Of course anyone likes to be recognized for being an 'outstanding' parent, just pointing out that sometimes the bar is set lower for Black fathers, because the expectations are less.

 

Cosign

 

Yeah because this is totally normal for fathers to do. We've all seen fathers doing they child's before, but never have we seen a father multitasking and still look manly about it. Also dude was not surprised by the attention, I hate when people on this false humbleness. Dude might of not known it would catch on like it did but he could of easily told his wife not to post it since he felt like "I was just being like an other father".


Pics of white fathers just being fathers that went viral that destroys your racial theory regarding dude you posted






















All these dads doing regular fatherly things with they kids went viral...

 

Going viral on the internet,(really what's the definition of 'going viral'?? 1-2 million+ views?? Nice, but a low bar in a nation of 320 million) isn't the same as having a national ad campaign with Microsoft.

Obviously there's a perceived difference in the media when a Black father is just being a 'dad' compared to all those other White fathers.

Unless you are aware of any of those other dads being featured in commercials.


The Black father was offered an ad campaign by Microsoft, he didn't hire an agent and pursue the chance to be on TV.

It's just not a stereotype in American society that BM are good fathers.

In fact it's one of those scare tactics bigots will use to deter a WW from getting involved with a BM, that he will abandon her with those kids and leave her to raise them as a single mother.

 

Yep - this crosses over to the other thread where I talked about expectations.

 

Those clever bastards :smt043 :smt043

 

Move the goal posts to conveniently have your argument fit your narrative. First you said the media doesn't care about white fathers doing regular shit with kids (all these dudes were featured on major news networks and interviewed even by Ellen DeGeneres) now you have to be featured in a commercial to be considered "viral" a definition your making up on the fly to again fit your argument. I anticipated your answer actually...So now when I post some of these dudes in commercials, next your going to say it doesn't count because these companies aren't as large as Microsoft.


I'm not arguing that their isn't a stereotype of black guys not being decent upstanding fathers, staying on subject here like I said your reaching when it comes to this dude....any dude no matter the race who took a photo like that was going to go viral. it was just a plain awesome picture regardless of race.

 

This may or may not be true. But isn't it a GOOD thing that there is something gaining attention that shows a Black father in a really good light?

I mean I understand that no one feels the need to be spotlighted because they are doing what they do with their kids, but it may very well be that the only way to combat all the negative shit is to be spotlighting the positive.

That man may not have realized how popular the pic would become, but they put it on the internet to begin with.

 

Look at ol' Moistside...always there to take up for WM and BW...

 

lol