She's about to marry someone dad hates...your advice

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/i-...ies-this-man-2015-12-14?siteid=yhoof2&ref=yfp
I will disinherit my daughter if she marries this man

Dear Moneyologist,

My 20-year-old daughter has been living with a 24-year-old man for the last year, and has just announced their engagement. My wife and I do not approve of their cohabitation or intended marriage, because we have deep concerns about the character of this man. Ever since she met him, she cut all meaningful and emotional ties with her family and many friends. I find him to be repulsive, and lacking the basic courage to meet with me man-to-man when I recently invited him to lunch to try and start a dialogue. They asked for our approval to get married over the Thanksgiving holiday, which I refused to give based on their behavior and lifestyle choices over the past two years, which my wife and I have found so disrespectful and hurtful.

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What would be your advice

 

The Moneyologist gave the best possible answer:

To give an actual answer, we need to know more about why the father feels this way about his daughter's boyfriend. Is he a convicted criminal? Is it that he doesn't make enough money? Have enough formal education? Is he the wrong color? Is he the wrong religion? The father just says that he doesn't like this guy but gives no actual examples as to what he thinks the boyfriend is doing wrong.

He may not like who she's dating but if he tries to tell his grown daughter who she can and can't be with, he might as well kiss that relationship with her goodbye. Trying to control someone that you have no control over doesn't end well for anyone involved.

 

Exactly.

 

Agreed. Basically, the father hasn't said much more than... we don't like the choice our daughter has made, including them living together and plans to get married. Far too much detail has been left out.

 

"He may not like who she's dating but if he tries to tell his grown daughter who she can and can't be with, he might as well kiss that relationship with her goodbye. Trying to control someone that you have no control over doesn't end well for anyone involved."

On point! There is not much you can do. He should tell his daughter that her mother and he does not like the guy, her alienation from her family and that they do not approve of their relationship for the most obvious reasons...BUT...we still love you unconditionally and that will not change. And if she needs them for anything -WE WILL BE HERE FOR YOU!

Young people often make this mistake (poor choices in behavior and relationships). The harsh realities of life will teach her that her parents were right from the very beginning. Until then -she has to take that azz beating that time and reality is waiting to bestow upon her! It is the best teacher! E'nuff said.....

 

Not a damn thing he can do about it. He better suck up his pride and learn to accept his daughter's new husband before she cuts him off for good.

 

:smt081

 

As Wilson Pickett sang in the song "She's Lookin' Good."

"Mama get your mojo. Papa get your gun. I'm gonna steal your daughter. I'm gonna be your son."

 

This.