"One drop rule"

Again you have no idea on possibly how the black community became one. Hell one dude misdefined patriarch.

Lastly u aren't even a man. You started getting all emotional when I asked you when matriarchy started in the black community. Weak ass

 

Yawn.

If you want to go there how come after all this time you are still to much of a coward to sign neg reps? I signed when I answered your rep. Coward.

 

I never misidentified patriarchy and we got to the matriarchy because of instutional racism

 

Most of the men I've gone out with or spoken to were married to BW, not just dated them.

 

Oh yeah....married and dating takes on a whole new meaning. To me dating versus marriage....can't compare for the most part

 

Ok

 

Well you did awhile back.....you stated basically men were in charge and women had to fend for themselves but that's not a big deal now. Yes true matriarchy came due to racism. It came from LBJ (intended or not) from his war on poverty. It separated bm from the family.

The overall problem I have is that both parties bought into the policy and never tried to rebuild but instead waged war on each other.
That's bs.

 

Lol

 

My experience has been it's been the minority. It's definitely out there. I've gotten pretty good at avoiding it though.

 

Ok but that doesn't mean they HATE Black women, does it?

Beasty asked me that question based on my comment about Black men who HATE Black women.

 

People say you must hate your mother and blah blah. What's interesting is that the ww I have dated have more in common with my mother than the bw I have dated in the past. My mother is beyond awesome.

If I meet a woman half the woman she is I'll wife her up yesterday.

 

that hits home :smt043 :smt043

 

I'm not one to ask why a man is dating ww. I am one who will ask about their family. I also may ask about past relationships such as how the relationship is with their kids mom. It really all depends on the person and how the conversation is going.

For me, it's more about that I want to get a sense of how they feel about women in their life and women in general. That's something you can pick up on very quickly.

I've actually come across way more wm who are women haters than Black men. Often it has nothing to do with race, although they may have racial issues involved also. I think it's not something that is talked about a lot partly because they present it in a different way, maybe it's more subtle.

 

Again though...this goes both ways. There are all sorts of comments towards ww who prefer Black men. We must have daddy issues, no wm wants us, etc. The whole ww get the best of Black men, but Black men get the lowest of ww. It's been all over this forum....and probably a major reason why so many women have left here.

Interesting about your experiences with women and your mom. For me, I gravitate towards men who have similar core values. And while there is all sorts of talk about how Black men are lacking as fathers, the Black men I have known have been amazing fathers. Not just in the talk but in the walk. Several have taken on raising other people's children as their own. I have also found that there tends to be a much higher appreciation for women who are really good "wife" and "mother" types, which is what I am. So it works for me! (especially since I'm much more physically attracted to them)

 

:smt023

The people that questioned why others do the same things they do are often trying to justify their own behavior. Insecurity has many symptoms.

You are right tho. That's something that can be picked up on very quickly.

Ww typically don't question bm in this manner. Its insecure negros that do. Nothing is worse than when a bm does it. Especially the ones that actually are attracted to ww. I've gotten in plenty of hs brawls with insecure dudes, grown men are no different. The cognitive dissonance is too much for them to deal with.

By the definition of being a man I don't owe anyone an explanation.

 

You are right about the situation where ww are questioned, but at least they are not questioned by other ww.

The bm that question other bm are questionable because they have no real interest in your preference. Bm are not asking them on a date.

The reality of my mother has a simple explanation. Race is not real.

 

True. So, it seems it all comes down to insecurities.

 

No, it doesn't. But the fact that the majority of BM that I've encountered (whether personally or on social media) that complain about the attitude and contentiousness, makes me wonder if we're dismissing it to say it's just a stereotype? I've even seen BM who date BW exclusively say they still prefer to date BW even though the attitude is there.

So what's with that? I'll be the first to say you can't paint with a broad brush, but any more, if I ask a BM why he dates WW, I know what's likely to come out of his mouth.

 

To me its more about just relationship issues period. Example one dude drove around Cali shooting the area. His gripe was he couldn't get women despite his privileged life