"One drop rule"

Ahh.... So the resentment with blacks (depending on their skin hue/appearance) is even with some black women as well, implying that we are at war with ourselves. Despite the civil rights movement in the 60's, Dr. King, Malcolm X, Obama being the president, etc, I will still hold on to my assertion that in one way or another, the United States continues to be the most racist and xenophobic country in the whole world. I can't believe women could be that shallow. I'm happy that all I do is run and work and not get myself involved with those kinds of people.

 

True. And it goes backwards too. So many have been the subject of hate and turn around and hate others.

I tend to not care why people have the preferences that they do in that I don't think it needs to be some big analysis. I'm attracted to Black men.....always have been.

However, I do have major concerns if a man HATES Black women as a whole. I mean comeon, that's your moms, sister, daughter, etc. And more importantly, for me personally, that's my daughter as well. There's no way I'm going to bring any of that into my home.

 

Well stated

 

Absolutely! One thing for sure it that racism is alive and well in the USA. Also... Yes, in the black community we (as a group) have to work on ourselves. Preferences is one thing, but some people are intentionally treating dark skinned people badly while making a point to treat light-skinned people better. Growing up we knew of a family where a mother used to mistreat their one dark skinned daughter. The Mom was brown skinned, the father was ligh skinned, and they had 3 children. The boy and one daughter was light skinned like their father, but the little girl was much darker. Sadly, that little girl went though hell.

Excellent points.

 

The way I see it is that there are enough people outside of the bmww community that have plenty of negative things to say about bmww. Why add to it?

You may not have a problem with bw, but you will be perceived that way by those that are loyal to societal group think. If you notice guys that date ww bashing bw why not address them instead of voicing your discontent to people who don't have anything to do with it? We are here to speak on many issues and I get that but this has been addressed numerous times already.

How do you feel about people who don't date ir popping off at the mouth with nothing good to say about bmww? Do you not dislike that as much?

Why do we need folk who do date ir to look down on others because they may do so for different reason??

Bottom line is that you do the same thing that they do which is date ww. Sure there are bm that hate bw but some of you guys act as if it is a high percentage of the bmww community.

The number is actually to few to be continuously harping on it over and over. They are out there but it's not the epidemic that some people make it out to be.

 

How common do you really think this is? They are out there but it's more of a stereotype than anything else.

 

I'm only one person but I posted this earlier in the thread:

I would say about 80% of the men I've talked to (many) or gone out with in the last 8 years will not date BW any more because of past contentious relationships and attitudes. Only about 15% would still date a BW. The other 5% always dated non-black women. The funny thing is, I met a good majority of those men on dating sites targeted to black folks like BlackPeopleMeet. But I've been told there are scads of WW on those sites, too.

 

Damn. Dudes always bring up how bw are this or that and paint them with broad brushes. Theres enuff negative things said about bw why dudes always do it? Hell I made a thread about a ww being discriminated against and all they could talk about were bw. There was one guy here who said bw had an online party celebrating Steve McNair's death cause he dated a ww. I asked hin to pull it up. Well guess what? He never showed it cause it didn't exist.

If you noticed the thread about bm sating we exclusive is about bm who bash be. It was started by a ww...go read the beginning. You will see what they (we) are thinking on it. Its not a good look.

You don't see the ww bashing wm on this site.why is that?

We talked about how to handle people (bw) who hate bmww. Hell I told em how to handle it.

The few(the bashers) that talk about do it a lot.
Hell if they speak their mind on why they date ww for other than they like ww...then we can give our opinion. That's what the forum is about.
So your point at going after the dudes who are cool with be is what?

Why is there a need to continuously bring up be in a wwbm forum allllll the time. Hell we can talk about cars andthen race and bw will come up.
Now go pull up that post you made about matriarchal/patriarchal and we can discuss.

 

A lot of guys decide to check out all option . All races of men have contentious relationships at one time or another.
I dated bw and ww and overall there's no real difference. You can find a few things here and there but no real difference.

Dating ir brings different issues versus not.

Dating ir and how to gave a good relationship is what need to be discussed not his these dudes hate bw

 

WM don't bash WW like bw do bm, so there's no need for us to be on the defensive. That's probably why.

 

That's interesting, then why even go on a site where they don't want to date the people that frequent the site.
I personally don't and can't really see myself dating a bw because my interests and way of life are usually exemplified in ww. Very easy going and light hearted approaches to life. It's inviting and attractive. Yes there are some physical things that I think are hot too but lets be real hot can be found in any group, but finding someone you find attractive and who is aligned in your way of living is really hard. Ironically the bw I have met who fit that criteria only date wm which is funny as hell when you think about it lol.

 

My God child preach :freehug:
It's funny how so many people gloss over that.
No other group of men or women for that matter have to deal with constant never ending tirade about how they ain't shit.

 

Also wm have their gripes about ww....sooo what do they do... . they don't overly whine they go to the next ww or race.

Bm here have to bitch.

As the thread fg started, and stated in it...its not a good look


Hell bm do it all the time too irl. Since you don't know as evidence here Or ignored that Look at the thread a ww started in this forum. Also its said "your relationship is a reflection of you"

 

As I stated bm do it here and IRL. Deal with facts.

As I stated "your relationship us a reflection of you"

 

You really don't want to discuss why. And I will use your research from Cupid to prove my point

Since you love the matriarchy (there is one) discussion then tell me why is it that way?

Also glossing over you really don't want to talk about why its one. Cause when I ask you , you deflect because you have to talk responsibility

 

So basically bm are completely to blame and should just shut up and date outside of their race. Yet you would never ever say that a bw huh girl. This "guy" lmao

 

No I never said that bm are completely to blame. I just posted earlier and if I'm not mistaken they need to learn the team player aspect.

Like I said in another thread you need to self refect on why the relationship went bad . you can only point fingers for so long. Adults look at how they acted in the relationship too

I just don't talk ww and bw separately but women as a whole.

Your response speaks to your lack of wanting to get to the real possible roots of the problem. You just want to gloss and blame

 

Good point. I've heard about some wm bashing ww who date bm, but usually it seems to be a non-issue.

I don't mind discussing. I had one friend who had asked me how was it to date IR, and I know he simply was curious to hear what my experience has been.

The couple of times bw/bm have said something negative to me about dating ww... I did get defensive, but not along the lines of feeling a need to explain myself. It was more that it's my choice, my business, and none of theirs. I never wanted to be mean like that, but I also have a low tolerance for this type of BS.

 

Well Halle berry quit dating bm because she had bad experiences with them that doesn't mean that she hates bm. Her reasoning may be different than others but as long as she is happy who cares?

 

I said matriarchal means dumb negros like you. Bw are not in that definition. That post I made was for boba I much rather hear from him because he is actually worth having this discussion with.

Translation: Boba's IQ is obviously much higher than 85. Yours not so much.