"One drop rule"

Interesting article regarding the "one drop rule"

"Ethics generally commends telling the truth. But in a situation in which our ordinary ways of thinking are at odds with reality, there can be no easy truth to be had. When it comes to race, confusion is the most intellectually defensible position. Let’s try to sow some. If your children were your biological children, many people in our society would say that they were African-American, because we have a tradition, going back before emancipation, of treating people with one black parent as black .?.?. or Negro or colored or whatever the favored term was at various times in American history. That’s the ‘‘one-drop rule,’’ so called because consistent application of it would mean that anyone with any African ancestry at all was black. (Of course, unbeknown to those who started this system, we all have African ancestry in the long run, which shows how much our thinking is shaped by our lack of knowledge.)"

http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/31/m...l-twins-black-because-my-husband-is.html?_r=0

 

Well I will admit one concern is by allowing people the option not to be black it creates even more people who will hate visibly black people. Latin America is the best illustration of this. They treat black people like absolute garbage in most of these areas even those with one black parent look down on them. Colorism is so real.

 

So true! And it's not unique to Latin America.

I was recently telling someone from the board about the adoption world and when two AA parents have requested biracial babies because they wanted lighter skinned children. I also know of stories of white adopting parents who ask to see the pictures of the Black birth parent because they are concerned that the baby may end up too dark (WTF?!) and on and on it goes.

I've heard of many stories where people have adopted and decided to pass the children off as Hispanic rather than part or all AA.

(These are domestic adoption stories.....there are plenty of them concerning international adoptions as well).

 

Obama being classified as a black president and not a biracial one is proof enough that the one drop rule is still in full effect.

In america, you're treated how people see you as. That's just how it is

 

yup

 

Definitely

 

Black people should be the main ones trying to get rid of this so-called ruled.

It is insane and inaccurate.

No other group allows others to tell them who they are.
Image if Jews lost their minds long enough(like we have) to let Nazis define them.

Armenians don't let Turks tell them who they are.



If you look white....it is because you are.

 

Yup! It's even sadder to hear it from black people. More than once I've heard a BW state that a particular BM is too dark, and would make dark-skinned babies. Really sad.

 

One of the many reasons I prefer ww. The whole colorism thing is insanely exhausting

 

He said he heard one BW say that.

It's always a problem for me when BM say they prefer to date WW because there are perceived personality traits they dislike in BW.

BM by the way are the ones most likely to choose a light skinned BW over a darker skinned one, which is why I find it odd you would bring that up as a critique.

We literally are the same complexion and I never really got a color issue from BW I've dated.

 

Neither have i but it's mainly thr big deal a lot of them made about skin complexion.
I feel the same way about anyone who makes a big deal about something that brings conflict. If there were a group of women who only dated men with straight wavy hair and made a big deal about it I wouldn't date them either.
And you constantly apply your life situation to others. Good for you if you're life is Charmed and perfect. It's not everyone else's life. Again it's called compassion try some.

 

There's a difference between compassion and whining about every potential grievance on the planet.

Not saying that you whine:smt109, but your level of complaint and offense about a host of issues surprises me sometimes.

You remind of Marlon Brando's character in the movie, The Wild Ones, when a chick asks him what is he rebelling against??

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Also my life is far from charmed.

But I know for damn sure your life isn't the living hell your comments sometimes lead others to believe.

You can comment on an issue without making it sound like it's specifically happening to YOU.

IMO very few BW are holding BM down in the dating game because of skin color.

Yeah there is that crew, but most BW are making judgements on BM on way more important issues than skin color.

BM on the other hand won't even TALK to some BW if their skin tone isn't 'right'.

To say part of the reason you prefer not to date BW is because some BW are preoccupied by skin color just sounds like a huge reach and a terrible generalization.

It's even crazier to say if it's a scenario that's NEVER happened to you.

 

Yeah, it sucks that this happens. It's as if we (as a group) don't have enough issues already.

It does happen, and it's not all that rare. I'm not saying it's one gender over the other that's looking for light-skinned people. I personally have had someone once accuse me of being "color struck" during a time when I was dating a very light-skinned woman. I can understand you not liking for BM to state that they prefer WW because of perceived personality traits, especially if they're painting all BW with that same brush. While their experiences are valid... It's really their luck of that person's draw. However, if decides to try dating WW because of his experiences with BW... I don't see anything wrong as long as he's not bashing all BW.

 

Well I can say it has never happened to me because I only dated white girls during my formative years
And you know what to be fair you may have some valid points.

 

Right, I just think it's sad for BM who date interracially because of issues they have with BW.

I like and date WW because I like WW.

It has nothing to do with BW.

 

I would say about 80% of the men I've talked to or gone out with in the last 8 years will not date BW any more because of past contentious relationships and attitudes.
Only about 15% would still date a BW. The other 5% always dated non-black women.

 

You know how it goes

 

Can't debate that....never dated a bm. Lol
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Lol

 

If I was a ww I would look at those dudes side eye

 

Really? Well how do you feel about people who won't date Christians because of bad experiences or who won't date people of a certain professions. I have friends who won't date cops because of bad experiences.
Personally I've always gravitated towards where I was most celebrated and appreciated. If it's away from BW who cares? No one loses we all gain.