views on the purpose of dating?

Finding love isn't any harder or easier for women than it is for men. I truly believe when you're so zeroed in on one thing, you can miss what's staring you right in the face but that's got nothing to do with gender.

 

For our dating demographic it's true I am not really sure how it'll shift when I'm around your age. Right now too many grown ups want to be treated like equals and children at the same time. Its confusing and sabatoges a lot of potential situations.

 

Hater. You just can't handle the awesomeness that is princess + self-sufficient woman

 

Again talking from a privileged point of view. Our positions are different which will make our challenges different. You may not have to go up to people to meet people but being the fact that so many people will approach online or in real life there's higher frequency of assholes coming into your life which makes it harder to get to a decent person.
I rarely if ever hear a man say he can't find a person to love unless coincidently he can't find someone to sleep with. If you can get sex as a man love isn't that tough to get. Total different challenge for most women.

 

True story
I have been to events with rich guys, dudes who are changing the financial and tech world, some women too but mostly men and when you're at these places you realize nearly every dude had to be damn near the best in his field to be in that room but then you see some attractive woman walking around and you realize all she had to do was have a vagina and a pretty face. It's clearly unbalanced lol

 

Yeah I don't subscribe to the princess thing unless she's willing to fall back. Like I've said before I am in place in my life where I can pay for most things in relationship the only condition I have is you fall back and mind your tongue. It doesn't mean I don't value your input but you can't have equal say if you aren't contributing equally. I'm the one sacrificing and putting up resources.

 

Ok some of this is true there aren't many social mechanisms that hold women accountable. The flakey behavior and ridiculous pickiness is often supported by media and other women. But here's the thing its not nearly as many women as we think it's just what's pushed in our faces. My advice to you is don't focus on the flakes and the people who lack character life will teach them everything they need to learn eventually. Instead focus on your own integrity your own interests. Be selfish as fuck, focus on you make you happy with you. You can't enjoy anyone else's company until you can enjoy yours for hours, days, even weeks on end. The most attractive man to women is the man who doesn't need them but wants them.

 

Sounds reasonable to me.

 

I think for many, until they define what it is they truly want and what they are willing to do in terms of a relationship, it won't happen.

There are those who go through life walking past many opportunities for love for whatever reasons (they aren't ready to commit, focused on other things, etc) and they will not experience it until they are ready to focus in that direction.

 

This is starting to be really funny. Do you think men don't do the same things??? The thing that surprises me is that so many men my age do it. We grew up with different rules of dating.

 

To be fair I think feminism and technology has killed dating. Way too many options and people who aren't mature enough to manage it. I get where a lot of the frustration is coming from because what people say they want is totally divorced from their actions. If more women would actually say hey I'm just feeling things out and I'm not sure what I want and actually acted on it things would be far less confusing. But one thing I notice with younger guys and even guys around my own age is men who have lost the ability to set boundaries. They can only do what you allow so don't reward her shitty behavior only reward those who deserve it. They are at a disadvantage only because women don't know how to be alone for the most part, they need you and your charm way more than the other way around. There's power in that knowledge.
I know a lot will be lost in only seeing text.

 

No kidding!! We were just talking about this the other night. I get that different generations do things differently (or we would THINK they do/should). I'd have to question whether or not it was females vs. males on the whole thing.

I'm just blown away but how many men over 40 or even over 50 are doing the same things the 20somethings are doing! It's really sad when my 27 year old son has more sense when it comes to women than the 40-50somethings.

 

In the military we say "names and faces may change but the bs is still the same"


No matter what generation it is, some things don't change

 

Interesting.

And yet, it seems that the main way people are meeting is through technology now. I find it all rather crazy!

 

What confuses me with BFE is that he wants a very conservative woman based on his other posts about women wearing skirts too short, displaying too much skin, acting trashy, wearing too much jewelry, etc., but on the other hand, he seems to want a woman who will be the aggressor and approach him - play the more masculine role.

 

lol so true. And some of the technology really helps with it too!

 

I have said the exact same thing many times about my 28 yr-old son. He really is more mature than a fair amount of men I've met.

 

Oh yes. It makes it easier . I like the old school way.....

Parking lot pimping....lol

Grocery stores

Bars

Thru friends....ect.

Some times doing things face to face is so awesome and a thrill

 

The online things brings a lot more opportunity. Way more people, for sure! However, that's not always a good thing. More is just more.....more bs to weed through ime. There's just so much that you can't see/feel/etc online. While I don't really care how I go about meeting someone...I can't know anything until I'm face to face.

 

You ain't lying. We're a crazy species. I actually have gone back to analog and just say hi to everyone with no expectations its way better in my opinion