What Do You Think Of BBW (Big Beautiful Women)

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It seems like the average guy, (not all guys) do not like them, it is an acquired taste for some, and for a few a fetish. Bigger women, on average are not looked upon positively in mainstream society, but it is slowly changing in some circles. They are seen as disgusting, or lazy, some might be big out of laziness, but many others may have various reason for being bigger; medical issues etc.

Either way, I don't think a bigger women should be judged or shamed for it, no one knows what might be going on with her. This might cause some controversy or disagreement, but bigger does not always = unhealthy, some women are bigger and still healthy.

I am a bigger women myself, so I know most guys will probably not like me for this, and so I am somewhat resigned that it will only be a few who will, or only the ones with fetishes. I do not fit what current mainstream society deems as beautiful or ideal, so a guy is going to have to be able to look beyond hollywood's and commercial porn's or fashion's idea of beautiful (Barbie Doll looks) to appreciate me.

Well enough about me, not sure if that is the answer desired, hope that may have answered your question. Weight has been a hotly debated topic on here many times already, just giving my two cents on how I see it.

As a matter of fact, there is a thread of BBW, and a certain member holds that down for the forum. There is also a thread for slender women too, if that is your taste, go check out the men's locker room, or search BBW.

 

As long as she holds her weight well and knows how to dress it's cool with me. If she cute in the face with some big ass titties, I'm in love off the bat.


I cannot stand this new wave of low self esteem attention whores bbws who be rocking outfits they have no business to be wearing to compete with thinner chicks like rocking cut off shirts with they pot belly hanging all out.

 

There are some cute and sexy ones out there that actually pull it off. Overall though, no.

 

I have been known to chubby chase, yes

What I don't like is the Michelin Man-looking dumpy fat chicks are trying to slide in on the coat-tails of the shapely, voluptuous, hourglass figure BBWs.No you don't hold the same value

 

I am an open, bonified, out and proud BBW admirer. Not only do I date bigger women. I prefer to date them. I like them in different shapes and sizes, the size 16 models and the supersize girls. I think they can be as sexy as slender/thin women.

 

The difficult part of this conversation often comes with the definition of a BBW.

I'm a BBW (even though some disagree with me - I just happen to carry it well and at a size 18/20 and 230# I definitely am a bbw) My experience has been what North, Ricardo, GFunk, etc said. If the weight is distributed well/balanced and a woman carries herself well there is no lack of attraction from men.

 

What though if her weight is distributed more in her thighs...there are some gorgeous BBW who are pear-shaped..

On topic...
I think a larger woman is beautiful when she owns her allure. It's all about her energy, her vibe, her owning her figure. Its not easy to do, but it's possible despite the pushback by assholes.

 

I think men have their preferences...some like bigger boobs, bigger ass, bigger thighs, even those who want bigger tummies....some want it all. There are beautiful women of all different shapes and sizes. There is nothing wrong with men having preferences. Just as there is nothing wrong with our having our own preferences.

My own experiences of physical attraction are going to be based upon the way I happen to be built though. So, I will hear more about those who gravitate towards women who are more balanced in the way the weight is distributed and I attract those who have various preferences. I had a friend who had it all in the ass/hips and she attracted men who preferred that. She didn't attract men who were as into boobs.

Of course, it's all about who the woman is and her energy. That's part of what I mean about the way she carries herself. In that regard, I'm not talking about the body specifics.

 

There is great variety in a woman's weight distribution, and I actually don't really mind or care that much if someone prefers more slender women, we are all entitled to our preferences, it is when people get nasty about it. When a man expresses his preferences is one thing, but when he seems to have to insult those who do not fit his preferences is what I have a problem with. Or if he does not like bigger women, he says it in a way to imply that she should somehow be ashamed, and that she does not deserve love, or she is somehow a joke open for insults and what he thinks are his clever funny comments with his buddies.

That really boils me, I just this week had an unpleasant experience with this, it was night, and noisy, so I am not positive, but I got a feeling a guy passing me in his car shouted a slur to me as I was getting into my car, "f'**a'**whore is what it sounded like, so yeah, that is where I have a problem, when he feels he can just drop comments and insults and women are just to be picked and chosen like objects, to be scored and rated. Yes, folks, fat shaming is real, and those who might say otherwise is not seeing reality.

On the flip side, I also acknowledge that some people shame slender women too, that is a backlash from years of the fashion and entertainment industry picking on bigger women in the past, bottom line, nobody should be body shamed, if you don't like something, just say no thanks, not my preference, don't say anything mean and keep it moving. I once made a comment to a fat person once, as a small immature child, but I have since grown up, and bigger, and see people, and men who are grown up who still seem stuck in childhood insults.

Also the way someone carries themselves also plays a big part too, in being attractive, being confident, is just as much a piece of the attraction puzzle, but it can be hard sometimes when one gets continual negative messages around them.

on a side note, @thefireyphonenix, like the new avatar, but I liked your old one too, nice smile, why did it suddenly change after you came out with admiration for bigger girls? it was nice by the way.

Well, enough of my rant, had to get that off my chest.

 

I have a gorgeous friend that is a big girl, big boned but in no way fat. She is 6" tall with a pear shape and huge brown curly hair. She cleans the floors with men. Even men that doesn't usually like tall big girls tries with her. It is amazing to watch how men react to her, actually.

 

misshyness - I don't think anyone should ever be shamed for anything. One of the great things about this world is that there are people out there who love and appreciate all sorts of different things.

 

Damn from the sound of you ladies, y'all should be posting pics

 

I have, many times.

 

I am not tall or big.

 

Hello, misshyness. Thank you for your kind words. I've been out about my preference for big girls for 17 years. I'm just experimenting with a new avatar. Don't assume anything.

 

Is there such a thing as BBM? Hahaha. How are we all feeling here on Big Beautiful Men? XD

 

Yes there are and there is a thread about them in the Women's locker room.

 

Ha okay got it, ty!

 

I think the correct term is BHM (Big Handsome Man) and like with BBWs it depends on who you are talking to as to what their parameters/definitions are.