Maybe some of you black men here can relate to this. As you evolve, get your career started, move to a new neighborhood etc., your "blackness" or being real black man is questioned. Some of you like myself, grew up in low income urban areas having to constantly protect your image so your peers wouldn't think you were soft. As your surroundings change, you become educated, attend different events with people from all walks of life. You speak differently, your perspectives on life may change somewhat. Maybe your income allows you to go places you never thought you could ever go. Then your dating options change, you may prefer a woman/man that accommodates this version of yourself. You always know who you are, and you're not totally naive to the prejudices of the world. Yet, you are torn because your family, old friends, maybe even old colleagues say you ain't black anymore. I never understood why if a black man/ woman leaves the hood he is seen as a sellout. Isn't leaving and becoming better what we're supposed to do? I'm not saying to never help people or forget about them, but there are some who just don't get it. An example is some of my family members who joke that I act like "white folk" when I speak correctly or eat differently lol. I may even get "Oh I can tell you probably gon date a white girl, cuz you getting away from us". Lil things as the types of music you may get into or new movies you may watch. You may get sick of Tyler Perry or typical drug dealing movies which we always rush to go see. I plan to make a part 2 on this but wanted to see others experiences.