Take responsibility for yourself. Anything we know about you comes from you. You choose to present yourself on here the ways you have. That's your doing, no one else's. Basically all of your posts have been negative....and even moreso negative about men. It's not really the best idea to come into a site and start off with negatives and continue with it and then try to say things against long time members. Maybe it's a better idea to get a feel for the group and see if you gel well or not, and if not....leave. Funny that you choose to see him as someone who thinks he needs to keep women's self esteem down. If you would have read much of anything, you would know that he's been one to be very complimentary (of big girls too!) of the women on here for the most part. However, he is also one who doesn't have a problem with calling something or someone out too. Usually the smiley or lol or something along those lines is an indicator of someone playing/being sarcastic etc. It's usually best to choose your battles wisely.