Do we really have to fight in a relationship

So my ex & I fought so much, it ended our relationship, I read an article that said that you need to fight. So what is your take on this article?

https://www.verywellmind.com/the-be...m_source=cn_nl&utm_content=27740076&utm_term=

 

Couples who are madly in love don't fight because they value and respect each other, so give yourself a pat on the back for ending the relationship you might meet someone better. Good luck.

 

When I see fight... I'm thinking of a heated arguement (or worse), and I don't feel these are needed at all. I do feel that it's very important to address problems/disagreements when the arise (or not too long afterward).

 

Hell to the no, that’s just exhausting and stressful. I don’t believe that fighting is healthy or natural in a relationship. Bickering yes fair enough every now and again, but full fledged fighting - no. When you master the mind and the feeling of peace anyone disrupting that just isn’t worth it. If y’all respect eachother enough you can peacefully talk it out and understand each others views without the fighting. That’s my personal opinion anyway. I’ve been in a 9 year relationship and probably had four disagreements in that time then I’ve been in 1 year relationship that was full of fighting and hell.

 

Really good article. The advice on fighting is what I was going to post. Too many of us were raised on struggle instead of love so when we fight it is about winning at all costs. Fighting can be a part of a happy healthy relationship. But it is an issue for me. I am extremely conflict avoidant.

 

Disagreement is normal. In the long run seeing everything exactly the same way is unlikely for two different human beings. So there are going to be some debates, maybe even arguments that will hopefully be settled later and compromises be found. „Fighting“ sounds hostile. I don’t think it’s normal to fight all the time in a relationship. It’s good to find constructive ways of conflict resolution and also to have a partner who shares your overall values.