Aussie Actress Nicky Whelan engaged to ex-NFL star Kerry Rhodes

He's going to miss a good thing. The dude chooses to be bisexual and engaged. Can't have it both ways. It may be different for women (Tilda Swinton and Anna Paquin are bisexual and married with children). But for black men, I think that is a mission impossible.

 

Agreed. people just look at bisexual women and men differently. I think it's because people see bisexual women as straight women (who have sex with other women), but we see bisexual men as gay men (who have sex with women).

 

LOL. I was giving Kerry the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he told her he wasn't really into dudes but did something when they were married that made her believe otherwise.
At this point I'm just guessing, but I wouldn't doubt their sudden split has something to do with Kerry Rhodes gay rumors.

 

Important distinction and very true.
Bi men are just considered gay by most people, end of story. Particularly in the Black community.

 

Ok, but sexuality are actually fluid for many more people than we would think.

 

On another forum I post on, a dude who knows Kerry Rhodes personally & went to school with him gave his thoughts:

 

I only feel sorry for him, them both.

 

Call Precrime!

 

Woody Allen once said that bisexuality was the wave of the future back in the mid to late 70's.

Queen front man Freddie Mercury was bisexual.

Even Alexander the Great and most Roman army generals(whom had wives)had "body servants" to take along. They were young men who were slaves. In the film Spartacus, Laurence Olivier chooses Tony Curtis to be his body servant. Curtis joins Olivier in the bathtub and washes his back and then he gives him a massage. Curtis looked really uncomfortable doing that scene.

For some men in this situation, it is an exploration of themselves. They experiment with their own sexuality.
Most of the men performing in gay porn are straight men who are in committed relationships with women.

I think sex is like working in a coal mine. To get the most, how far and how deep is one willing to go?

 

Imagine how much they must really hate their job, if that is the case.

I don't believe it for a second.

 

I might be ignorant but I have trouble buying this.

I'm a straight man, and there is nothing that kills my boner quicker than being in proximity to another penis. I can't even make eye contact with the bouncers at strip clubs.

IMHO if gay porn performers are able to penetrate and get penetrated by other males, they are at the very least bisexual.

 

The gay porn audience is very large. So, it stands to reason that it pays a lot of money to their performers. Tens of thousands a week. Their market is larger. Some performers have their wives or girlfriends on the set.

There exists a term called "gay for pay."
These performers are more in this for the money than the implied physical pleasure.

The ones who do enjoy their work exclusively would be the bears and the twinks.

 

Human sexuality and behavior is quite unique and complex. It happens for some men who are open to all of life's pleasures.

And it is their choice.

 

The difference between straight, gay and bisexual men is not complex at all, its quite simple. It doesn't take a calculus equation to figure, there is no mystery or problem to solve.

 

Sexuality is about choice. I said that human sexuality and behavior is unique and complex. Have you ever asked a gay person how they became gay or bisexual? They won't say, "Well, sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't."

I have been around gay, lesbian and bisexual people. They told me their stories. My creative writing instructor in college was a lesbian and she admitted that she just wasn't attracted to men.

I knew a bisexual man who worked in theater and who knew John Holmes. He once had a relationship with a woman. It was a good relationship until he discovered his roommates screwing in the apartment they shared.

I worked with two girls(one was a lesbian and the other was straight). The straight girl hung out with the lesbian one night and it happened. They had sex. She told me that it was different from her point of view and she enjoyed it.

Everyone and their experience is different.

 

The content in this post has absolutely nothing to do with what I initially responded to in your post or anything that I have posted in this thread up to this point.

Lol

 

And I don't buy that MOST of the men who perform in gay porn are actually involved in relationships with women.
If you're a 'straight' man who can get sexually aroused around other men and also climax from sex with them, you aren't really straight, are you??lol

It's not like female porn performers who can be passive during sex and you can't tell if they're sexually aroused or not.
It's hard for a dude to fake an erection.

 

Have you ever asked a gay, lesbian or bisexual man or woman the question of their sexuality? Seriously. Have you?

 

It is your choice not to accept that straight men do porn. They are there. They simply do not identify themselves as any sexual orientation, just the need for money.

 

No straight man does gay porn for money. Bisexual men do, but not hetero men. Most would have too much trouble performing on video because of lack of arousal.

If you identify as straight but have sex with other men for money, there's at least something you find sexually stimulating about another man.