Apologise for my last thread

My first thread was deleted by respectful admin of this site whom I once again apologise. I was angry and thus choose to use disrespectful language and generalise towards white men. I hope I can still post here and promise to keep my cool.

The problem was/is this. I'm a black guy who dated beautiful white girl for 2 years. We split 6 months ago on mutual terms and remain friends. Then 2 months ago she fell for a white guy, our new coworker, whom I went to high school with and knew to be a good person. He also seemed interested in my ex as they were joking and flirting all the time. That changed when he found out she used to date a black guy (that's me). He stopped treating her like love interest and started treating her like just another coworker. That really hit her hard and couple of days ago I found her crying.

Couple of hours ago I texted him and confronted him about his behaviour change towards my ex. To sum it up "my ex can choose to date whoever she wants based on the criteria she deems fit, and he can also choose not to date anyone he wants based on the criteria he finds to be a turn off for him". I'm not quoting him but you get the point.

This is not some white boy who is insecure about his penis size, this is a white man who is disgusted by white women who date black men and he punishes them with his behaviour towards them. He lets them know they are not good enough for him. The problem is my ex is a real person. A beautiful person, both outside and inside. She is really hurt by this and I'm a little scared how could this impact our friendship. I lost her as a lover and get over that. But I don't want to lose her as a friend. I'm well aware that only so much blame can be put on that guy for her broken heart right now. They weren't dating so it's not like he dumped her or anything.

Reason for my anger in original post is that I find myself to often in a position between white guys who are racists because of their own insecurities and white guys who pretend not to be racists, even your friends, only to show their true colours when they act superior to black men.

I just had to vent it all out people, once again sorry for original post.

 

Whatever.
You still sound sketchy as fuck.

It's not like this girl was the mother of your children, which means most men aren't going to stress about who she used to date before them.
Believe it or not, there are HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS, if not millions(!!), of WW who had a prior 'relationship' with a BM before they married their White husbands, and those WM didn't stop loving them or even marrying them because a black dick had been there before them.

So excuse me if I call bullshit.
Also you mentioned penis size at least 2x in both your posts. I don't really know that many BM who talk about dick size that often when it comes to relationships. That's a White guy hang up.
Already you've mentioned the dick size of this alleged White dude you played on your HS baseball team more than once, and now in this new thread.

I'll be honest, you sound like a White guy trying to front on an BMWW IR board 'cause you think we're on some porn-y shit 24/7.


LOL. Growing up White guys were ALWAYS more obsessed about the penis size of other men than any brothas I knew. I mean, who cares about someone else's dick and who they're fucking???

You'll be found out eventually, just saying right now 100% I don't believe you're a BM.

 

If I'm a fake why do you respond to my post for the SECOND TIME? Don't you have something better to do with your life.

I grew up in the white country where I was like only black guy around not counting my parents. I moved to states when I was a teen. So pardon me if I'm not enough brotha for you.

I mention penis size, for the reasons you mention, white guys are obsessed with it, at least the ones who feel threatened by us. I mentioned it so we can skip the "white guy is threatened by us" and move to "white guy is disgusted by us and that the bigger problem then being threaten by us". Saves everybody's time.

I came to this board because it seemed like I could get some support instead of racist banter I would get on any other board that is usually dominated by white boys. Guess not.

The reason I posted in the first place is because the only good white guy I know since I got here turned out to be bigger racist than all others combined. And he hurt the girl i deeply care about.

Don't know whats so complicate for you here.

 

Where are you from, where did you grow up?

 

Hey man

my parents were military so we moved quite a bit when I was very young. We settled in Poland for 8 years. It was pretty racist then and it's pretty bad now (sorry Poland)

 

He asked where did you grow up?? Where did you go to HS??? Unless they play baseball in Poland.

 

You're not suppose to be catching details like that. He hasn't had time to create a convincing backstory for himself. His threads are clearly aimed at his fellow like minded internet posters with agendas. All they care about is "the message". After all this is just a "message board".

 

This is insane. What do you want, my home address???

Forget I wrote anything.

Wish you nothing but the best but coming here was obviously a huge mistake. Better to keep things locked up then this.

take care

 

So none of ya'll individuals who love to spend all your time venting on the internet have friends or family you can vent to in real life?? Your life that bad you have to vent to total strangers?? Even to the point you can't even "humanize" yourself before you start venting?? Damn......

 

You must had lived in a bad part of Poland. I had visited Poland and it is all good. If this was in the early 2000's it is sad indeed.

 

You hit that on the head.

 

Well yeah, incidentally when I was reading your story I was also wondering where you are living and where all this is taking place.
Also I don't fully understand what we can do for you in this context.
Maybe what.is putting the guy off is that you are still hanging around that girl like she is yours. Like it's not really over between the two of you and he is getting himself into some drama he isn't intrested so he took a step back from your ex. Maybe you should stay out of her dating business and she'll still see guys of any colour that are interested in her.
I didn't read the original post and I am also finding your post a little unusual but I give people the benefit of the doubt.

 

Thank you so much for your kind post. I was so disappointed by the backlash here that I promised not to get back. This is not an issue I would discuss with anybody in person because we all share the workplace and I don't want to get anybody in trouble. To answers your questions. I don't "hang around that girl like she is mine". White guy didn't even know we dated. His behaviour towards her changed when he found out we did. He knew we were friends and that didn't bother him one bit. The problem started once somebody told him I "tainted the princess". Then he cut her off like she was nobody. It hurt her and she is still hurt and doesn't want to talk to me, like, really talk to me. And that's fine. She has girlfriends for that kind of talk. I was initially very angry because I was racially abused my entire childhood in Rzeszow. A lot of big tough black guys here with "Poland's a piece of cake for us son" attitude. Try being 10 back in the day and be called N-word openly on daily bases. It's not like in the states when racist say it behind your back. But I could always brush it off on their ignorance. This guy pretended to be my friend. And ended up worse then all of them Poles and Ukrainians combined. At least they had decency to show their true self.

This whole episode reminds me of an article I once read. In which black man tells his black parents that he met a nice white girl he fell in love with. His parents responded that they were worried about reaction of white men to their relationship. Son replied that he could deal with everything white men send his way. To which his parents replied "we are not worried about you son, we are worried about her".

The girl in questions is really 10/10. I'm not saying that because I used to date her and now brag here about it. I say it because it's true. Big part of what makes her that great, besides her beauty and smarts, it's her kindness and openness to see me as a person and not just a black guy. That kindness and open heart and mind is currently being stomped upon brutally by that closet racist. And that's what pisses me off.

 

And here is a prime example of why you got "backlash" for not humanizing yourself and expecting total strangers to immediately sympathize with your situation.

Exactly how do you come to the conclusion that racist in the states only call black folks niggers behind their backs and none of us "tough black guys" have never had to deal with full on face to face racism from white folks on a daily basis even as kids?

 

I haven said that man. You are twisting my words. In states when somebody call you an N-word, at least you can get with other black people and make some noise about it. Not saying things would get done but at least you have the power to speak up and let it all out. In Poland, or any other eastern european country (I was about to write another word but ima let it go) who are you going to complain to? ultras of those countless football/soccer clubs? You get your head down and you survive alone.

I didn't mean to offend you or portray myself as victim. It was just my experience growing up.

 

really brother? and trust me they are parading in "good part of Poland"

 

Do they play HS baseball in Poland??

You're deliberately leaving shit out and it's confusing as fuck.

 

"I moved to states when I was a teen"

can you count to like 13 and shit?

 

I'm twisting your words now? Hmmm. Funny how you are all over the place with your replies depending on who responds to your posts.