I got called The N Word tonight from a Norweigan "wigger" who liked me

Ok so heres the backstory. I met her via Facebook. She is a wanna be singer. Said she always dreamed of moving to New York and pursuing a singing career. I told her I knew of producers who could help and I'd help her get an apartment here. she explained to me how she has trust issues with guys because many in the past have lied to her about what they can do for her but in the end only wanted to bang her. many have tried. i told her i wasnt like that. but we DID flirt...both of us. she'd comment on my pics how handsome I was...she wanted me to visit her in Atlanta (since she was planning on recording some songs there with the producer who discovered Usher).


....but over the past few weeks she is backing away from things, saying crap like, "i cant afford it" and "i wish i was never born, im cursed" and "when will my luck change" and coming up with all these lame excuses why she cant move here again and just feeling sorry for herself. so i got mad at her and said she is lazy and not motivated and then tonight it got really bad as we argued about other stuff, including her thinking I was trying to get in her pants even though im sort of seeing someone (which i wasnt) and then she goes on to say I led her on and that she liked me....then she accuses me of lying about certain things so I get pissed and say she has no talent at singing (which is kinda true lol)...low blow I know.


so some name calling ensues and she gets gangsta and decides to call me the N word over and over, before blocking me.:smt119 I was shocked at first...did not expect that from her...first you are hot for me (and other black men, she was always updating her status talking about her dreams of her banging Usher) then all of a sudden you flip and become a racist???? I dunno if she really is racist or just was saying it to get me pissed (which it worked) but i just couldnt believe it. i never lied to her, I AM sort of seeing two women right now, its kinda complicated, but she knew this...but maybe in a way it worked out for the best that I didnt add this norweigian bee-yotch as a third woman because she clearly has some issues and turned out to be very psycho and a compulsive liar and two faced.


its funny, I was so mad because i was about to post her racist rant on her own wall so the black music producers she works with (and is friends with on FB) could see the "artist" they are about to work with for who she really is...but she blocked me before I could. Im sure she would have taken down anyway but hopefully one of them would have saw it before she got a chance. oh well, another story for the books. I got too many....:axe:

 

TL;DR, anyways forget her you got better fish to fry, the worst that could happen is she joins SF.

 

lol funny photo 4north. but theres no way i could have condensed that story to 3 or 4 sentences. its a shame what ADD has done to kids today lol...they dont even wanna read anymore.

and donatello, you're right. she wasnt even that hot. im not sweating it. its just be SO LONG since a white female has called me that term and it brings back very awful childhood memories of events that i feel sort of triggered my 'obsession' with with WW in the first place...

 

Girl sounds like she needs to see a psychologist. She is a dreamer, not a doer, and when you stopped playing her playing in her fantasy and tried to give her a reality check, she had a melt down.

It's her, not you. Although you probably already know that. Just feel pity for her and move on.

 

it's not that people dont want to read...

people just dont want to read shite, that's all

 

"Look, I love white women but I done told these nigga's time and time again 'I ain't readin' all that shit!' which is forcing me back to your kind

 

But on a more serious note, please elaborate.

 

This was a FB argument???????????

 

That was wrong, she should have called you a fucking idiot.

 

Don't you have a gf that you were just on the news with?

 

Well at least now you know where she stands in regards to black men and you can put paid to dealing with her.

She seems like one of those white women that is obsessed with black celebrity artists and such. I mean cmon a Norwegian "wigger", that should have sent up red flags from the jump dude.

Those type of white women are not my flavor. Give me a woman with some balanced head on her shoulder, I don't deal with flakes.

 

You fucking razor blade.. haha. Aww

You gotta be a wordsmith of some kind for a living.

 

1) If she's constantly updating her profile about wanting to bang Usher, I can only assume she's about 14.

2) Does it really matter or offend you that she called you that? The fact that she could offend you by saying something like that, is it more a reflection of herself or you?

3) How do you know when someones blocked you on FB?

 

Mistake #1 was gettin emotionally involved in her "career" Thats what you do for friends.

I steer clear from white chicks that wear their adulation for black men & black culture on their sleeve. More often than not they see you on the surface as a gimmick and not a individual and wont hesitate to move onto the next scene when they feel its played out.

 

Bing - Freakin - Go,

You are merely a black male stereotype to those kind of women and not an individual man standing on his own merits.

 

another complicated situation. yes we were "dating" at the time (behind the back of her "real" boyfriend who she's been trying to dump for MONTHS now) but now we are on "a break" as she says she wants to let him down easy before she goes back to college in August. oh, and the 3 of us work together, so that doesnt make it awkward at all lol...worst part is I really like the guy too, he's super cool. its weird laughing and joking with someone everyday at the office, but inside you keep thinking, "I wanna nail your girl and im making moves on her everyday". We already told him about the camera crew that spotted us and assumed we were a couple and said to him we just played along so we could get on TV. The other girl im "seeing" is an ex-girlfriend im still best friends with who has "sworn off men" and is into women now, but I still have strong feelings for her so Im trying to see if I can get her back (she always drops hints that she still finds men attractive). I feel/hope that if one situation goes sour I at least have the other girl to count on as a backup, as messed up at that sounds lol. Im not a player though. I truly do want to be a relationship. These are just some weird situations I found myself in. Hey, its just been that kinda summer lol :smt029


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Jaisiee:

1) well she wasnt updating EVERYDAY about Usher, just once when she admitted she had a dream that he asked her out and she woke up pissed that it was just a dream. she also often would post many pictures of herself in the nightclub hugged up with local rappers (who knew Norway had black rappers? lol). And she wasnt 14, she was 23 and had been the the US before (mainly Los Angeles and Atlanta) to record songs with producers in professional studios. She had many pics of herself in the studio as well.
2) why shouldnt it offend me when she said that? that is by far the worst word you can call a black person and has been for several decades. even today it is still very offensive if it DIDNT bother me, I'd think something was wrong. for all the flack black men like me who only date white women get for not having pride in ourselves, at the end of the day, the fact of the matter is I AM BLACK and the N word, when said in the way SHE USED IT, is VERY hurtful.
3) when all of a sudden you cannot access their page as if it never existed and they disappear off your friends list and you cannot message them..you've been blocked.
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4North:

When I was 9 my first crush was an italian girl (i was one of maybe a handful of black kids in an almost all white private catholic elementary school in the Bronx, New York growing up in the early 90's). she and her friends used to call me racist names (ni99er, monkey, slave, etc.) all the time and i never did or said anything because I liked her. one day I couldnt take it anymore and i snapped and kicked her between the legs as hard as i could. i got sent to the principals office and was obviously in alot of trouble (they wrote a letter to my parents about what i did and sent me home) but when i told them the names she was calling me she got in trouble too. when i returned to school, all of a sudden out of nowhere she was being all nice to me and saying sorry, asking if I was okay.

i dunno why but for some reason since then WW have been the only ones who interest me. like i have been seeking their approval all this time, which sounds kinda lame, but true. there are other factors too. i just find them physically wayyy more attractive than black women. the average white girl is at least a 6 or 7 in my eyes and totally do-able. the average black girl is like Fantasia or Precious (at least where I live). No Meagan Good's, Paula Patton's, Stacey Dash's, Halle Berry's I have ever met. And also, the few black girls i do remember being somewhat interested in or even trying to just be friends with in grade school/high school, always asked if I was gay or "why i talked so white?" white girls never questioned or made fun of the way i speak, they just accepted me.

 

Damn brotha back away from the soap opera antics lol. We live in NY. Just to the village or central park and find a cute white girl jogging. All the drama isn't necessary lol

 

LOL, I was just about to say similarly, playboy might like the drama of these women.

Only you can define yourself playboy, don't let any other person man or woman have that influence over you as far as their mentality and behavior towards you.

Have to live life on your terms and not someone else's mindset.

Plenty of confident, secure, stable, beautiful white women out and about.

They are just women bro, not mythical creatures. Just remember they eat, sleep, shit and piss like you and I, well not piss but you get the drift, hell they even have morning breath.

Some women, just like some men can't handle critique of themselves by others and are reactionary in mindset.

 

If it offends you, that means you accept it. You cannot accept everything someone says about you, good or bad. If two women judge you and one says "That's one ugly mother fucker" and the other says "Nah, that is one sexy SOB". Which one is correct? Your ego will naturally want to embrace the woman who calls you sexy and become offended with the one who called you ugly. Both women spoke on you out of their own tastes and preferences and for that reason neither is correct. The only one that matters is your own thoughts on yourself.

So this girl calls you a n*****. SHE takes the action of calling you a n*****. The fact that she can fix her lips to call you this speaks volumes of her and nothing of you. If you choose to be offended by it, you've also chosen to accept it. Much like with women judging you based on their tastes, this girl calling you this is based on something inside her.

You will live your entire life with people putting you down or praising you. The only thing that should ever really matter is what comes from the inside.

Are you a n*****? If you answer 'no' that is all that really matters, isn't it?