Someone made the follwong comments on another forum...
It's possible that her experience was unique: maybe she sensed hostility where there was none; or perhaps she earned their resentment through her own behavior. However, her observations seem to conform to observations that others, including some on this forum, have made regarding attitudes towards IR among blacks.
What do you guys think? Does this mirror your experience?
I think we'd all agree that whites generally have much more negative attitudes towards bm/ww relaitonships than towards wm/bw ones. And from an evolutionary perspective, it makes sense for a group of people to be much more concerned about the reproductive decisions of its women than of its men. However, with blacks, some suggest that the opposite is true--that we tend to have more negative attitudes towards our men marrying out than our women. I'm reminded of a post I read on another IR forum by a European WW married to a black African guy. She said that when she visited his home country (I believe it was Cameroon), she sensed some degree of resentment from his family, particularly female family members. She felt that she was looked upon as a "man stealer," particularly since her husband was a successful businessman. OTOH, she got the impression that the marriage of black women from this country to European men was looked upon very favorably. In fact, she said that such women were looked upon as if they had "won the lottery."Black woman/white male relationships are often viewed with a different set of assumptions [than black man/white woman relationships], which often leads both blacks and whites to look at these relationships more favorably.
Author Lawrence Tezner published a book, which unfortunately is no longer in print, analyzing black and white attitudes about interracial relationships. He found that whites and blacks looked more favorably on black female/white male relationships (for whites especially if the black woman was considered attractive).
In contrast, both whites and blacks were less accepting of black male/white female relationships. Whites were especially intolerant of relationships if they found the white woman attractive, but less intolerant if the found the white woman unattractive.
It's possible that her experience was unique: maybe she sensed hostility where there was none; or perhaps she earned their resentment through her own behavior. However, her observations seem to conform to observations that others, including some on this forum, have made regarding attitudes towards IR among blacks.
What do you guys think? Does this mirror your experience?