Hi All.. I just wanted to post... I just now finished reading "Forbidden Quest" by Dar Tomlinson. Wonderful IR Romance novel... I started reading it this morning, and could not put it down... truly a compelling story.. made me want to call my man and tell him how I feel about him.

Much luv to you all,
Hel

By Kansascity (209.242.125.32) on Tuesday, May 22, 2001 - 12:13 am:

If it is true that the pen is mightier than the sword...We should write some books...but, analyze the market carefully. Many people are too busy to give the truth of matters much time to digest it all.
If all else fails to wake people up in this country there may come a time when you have to take your family somewhere else...but where would that be?
Anyway, our first duty is to protect our families..then try to do something constructive for our communities...but if people continue to be self-destructive....well, you do what you've got to do...Fight or Flight or both..
Why don't schools encourage students to read "Uncle Tom's Cabin"? It is as if that book has been unofficially banned. I even feel a little hesitant to bring the issue of this book up here.
Yea, it was written by a white woman. So what! I still do not know the full story. I have an old copy early 1900's and a newer revised paperback version.
I find it to be a small peek into the past. Have not read the whole book (haven't gotten past the first chapter) but definitely plan to do that.
I recall the ridicule and scorn with which black men would refer to other black men as 'Uncle Tom' if they wanted to something else with their lives or had a different strategy.
I am sure it must have hurt many black fathers and grandfathers during the 60's to be called that name when they tried hard to keep there sons out of the the self-destructive agendas of many of their peers. It surely does take guts to be a man and then have to worry about who will be there to watch your back when your not politically correct. Take care :-)

By Cyw44 (24.141.43.112) on Monday, May 21, 2001 - 12:37 pm:

My name is Jennifer, i'm writing a thesis paper on interracial dating the question being "the effects of interracial dating" Statements i'm looking at are the societies curiosity with interracial couples ---- the effects on the family members of the couple ----the effects that it has on the couple themselves, the stressors on the relationship.
**if you have any input (ideas)or suggestive reading for myself i would greatly apprechiate it. please email me at jkaitting@hotmail.com

By Roberto (152.163.207.64) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 07:20 pm:

This book was recommended by Spade on his excerpt of Chapter ten titled "Sexual Tensions" in his post "Sexual Tensions":

Love in Black and White: The Triumph of Love Over Prejudice and Taboo, by Gail Mathabane (white co-author) with Rick Mathabane (black husband), 1993.

~ Roberto

By Roberto (152.163.201.63) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 11:26 am:

A book that will be a blockbuster (currently rated five stars) and is in the works as a mini movie series in Germany and here in the United States is the 400 page book, "Destined to Witness: Growing Up Black in Nazi Germany", by Hans J. Massaquoi. Note: See Amazon.com.

He was on the radio here in Virginia. What a fascinating history this man has to say. The bi-racial son of an African of Liberian heritage (whose father was a diplomat in Liberia) and a white German woman (who was a nurse in a hospital). They were married in Germany prior to the rise of Hitler. Mr. Massaquoi grew up (was 10 years old) before Hitlers came to power. He recounts his early childhood and the rise of Nazism, the daily life experiences in Germany's second city of Hamburg. He tells of the love of his white mother, how her family accepted his father and him. He details the changing racial attitudes to him and his family prior to World War two, the War years to survive, and how he eventually came to the U.S. and would eventually become a journalist and the managing editor of Ebony magazine.

What a fantastic story. One more example of untold stories that we never hear about. Black intellectuals need to get off their lazy asses and start looking at black history as a world event and not just one man (Martin Luther King) and one era (the Civil Rights Movement). ~ Roberto

By Roberto (64.12.104.57) on Thursday, February 1, 2001 - 10:49 pm:

Suggested Readings:

(1) Mothering without a COMPASS: White mother's Love, Black Son's Courage, by Becky Thompson, University of Minnesota Press, November 2000.

(2) All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men, But Some of Us Are Brave: Black Women's Studies, by Gloria T. Hull, Barbra Smith, Patricia Bell, Feminist Press, August 1981.

(3) It Won't Hurt to know: What White Men Think About Black Women Sexually, What Black Women Think About White Men Sexually, What Black Men and White Women Think About Each Other, by Alvis O. Davis, Mark Gray and Helen Morgan, Zevon Publications, October 1987.

(4) Why Black Men Choose White Women, Rosie Milligan, Milligan Books, April 1998.

(5) Wartime Dialogues on Illicit Sex: White Women and Black men, Divided Houses: Gender and the Civil War, by Martha Hodes, Oxford University Press 1992. ~ Roberto