i just wanna say that "the hunt" to me is kinda fun. the initial talking to a guy and getting to know him is cool. i dont see it as sexual harrassment, depending on how its done. i think guys can make it interesting sometimes. when they give you something to think about. something that makes you wanna talk to them every day, even if its about nothing. but the thing that always gets me is that i want what i can't have. i can have a guy wrapped around my finger and i wont be happy because its like the chase is over. im not saying i play games, its not that at all. but having some mystery there is great. i love mysterious men because they are not overbearing. they give you just enough and sometimes leave you hanging, wondering. so needless to say, i like a good challenge. any men have an opinion on that??
B

By Roberto (64.12.104.178) on Wednesday, March 7, 2001 - 10:00 pm:

I like to recommend an interesting book to you lovers for your partners, "Ancient Techniques for Modern Lovers, Secret Sexual Positions", by Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D, published by Secret Garden Publishing, 5631 W. Placita del Risco, Dept. SS, Tucson, Arizona 85745

Enjoy ~ Roberto

By Svorhies (208.48.12.163) on Monday, February 12, 2001 - 11:30 am:

One of the worst things a man has ever said to me was several years ago. I was at a Jazz club with my man, who was in the band. On occasion when I am out in a relazing environment, and have a few drinks, I like to smoke a black and mild cigar. This particular night I was smoking one, and this older man came over to my table, leaned over and wispered in my ear "Damn, I bet you taste better than that cigar ever could". I looked at him and said, " First of all I am a lady and you have no right to talk to me like that, second, go ask my man up there playing the key board and see what he has to say about that". He didn't say anything, he just walked away. I don't understand why some men think that when they say things that are out of the way and disrespectful and then think that we will be flattered by it.

By Roberto (152.163.207.62) on Friday, February 9, 2001 - 05:41 pm:

Ladies;

The things that some men do and say make me feel ashame. I know many other men feel the same. A lot of this "ghetto attitude" that is destroying this country has been accepted by the society at large now. Disrespect is rampant everywhere now. Men only organizations are making an attempt to get young men from dysfunctional homes to bring respect and civility to themselves and how they see and treat women. It's a neverending war against the "Hip Hop Culture" that encourages the opposite set of values. I'm reading the book series "The Rise and Fall of the Roman Empire" by Edward Gibbon. I'm amazed by the similarity between that empire and where this nation is going. The cancer and the rot for decline started within from the distrust of government to the immorality that crepted throughout the society. Can things get any worst than what we are seeing? ~ Roberto

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 11:50 am:

ishvara-
believe me, i know where you are coming from! some of the comments i have heard have been real doozies! it makes you want to pull your hair out. they even go so far as to make comments when i am with my daughter. it is truly a "caveman mentality" as roberto mentioned. one of the worst comments were when i was with my daughter one day and some guy comes up to me and says mmmm mmmm mmm you obviously gave some man just what he wanted to get that baby, now how about letting me take a shot at it? my mouth got the best of me and i cursed him, his mother, and his grandmother up one side and down another. when i got done with him, his hair was sparking. that was one of the worst ones i have heard and it made it even worse because i had my daughter with me.

By Ishvara (38.163.112.131) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 10:28 am:

Melirosa,

That is SO true! They act as if they're doing you some sort of favor. And get all ignorant if you don't respond positively or not at all. It's like they've never seen a woman. About disrespect, some of the things said, I can't even believe, and they really think comments about my physical attributes is going to get me to respond!

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 09:58 am:

roberto-
i am going to have to agree with ishavara. "the hunt" wore me down a long time ago. i have to deal with this on an every day basis and i am just so tired. it's o.k. if a man respectfully tells you hello or politely asks your name, it's the drooling that bothers me. some men act as though they have been let out of a cage after a 20 year stay and let me tell you, i would love nothing more than to smack them. some of them are so disrespectful that it is all i can do to contain myself.

By Ishvara (38.163.112.131) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 09:43 am:

It irritates the hell out of me. A man can usually tell if a women is interested/wants to be approached. Unwanted behavior of that sort makes me crazy, it continually happens on the regular and after a while it becomes REAL wearing.

By Roberto (64.12.104.57) on Thursday, February 1, 2001 - 11:50 pm:

Do you ladies enjoy the "The hunt" or being pursued sexually by other men? Or is this just annoying to you? Do you see it as sexual harassment as its percieved today in out politically correct climate? Is "the hunt" as you see it a "male conquest thing" that is nothing more to you as a "caveman mentality" that should be kicked out of the male psyhic altogether?
~ Roberto