White men talk about white women bad too on many an occassion. But, this is not the REAL ISSUE!! I have got (as a white woman) so much more in common with a (black woman) than I do with a black man (and I am not gay by the way). I didn't even learn this in college!! I found this out during my many life experiences......
Men of any skin tone (black or white or brown or red or yellow) have more in common with each other than they do with the women in their lives. Now that is the TRUTH.

By Kansascity (209.242.125.96) on Sunday, April 15, 2001 - 03:03 am:

Some of my best friends are black women!! That doesn't mean that I can impose on them in any way. I just know that we have so much in common; and that is scary to some.

By Wyatt (207.106.60.4) on Friday, February 23, 2001 - 11:48 am:

I think that it is a good thing not to have that type of person as a friend. She sound jealous, mean and unbalanced to me.

Your playfulness with the guy that you like is fine, and if it wasn't, isn't it the bsiness of the guy to tell you and not your girlfriend? You see, a friend is supposed to build you up infront of people, not tear you down. You are suppose to have trust in that person and they in you. Friends, like significant others, are real when they look out for your best interest, create positive feelings and stand by your side. Now if the guys treat you bad, she needs to be there to help you through it and tell you whenthe guy is no good, but she is not there to sabotage a good relationship.

By Frangiapani (203.54.156.153) on Friday, February 23, 2001 - 02:15 am:

One of my best friends, who is a black female, although we are not friends anymore, always had this habit of trying to make me look bad in front of black men. I always knew she liked to stir up trouble, because thats just the way she was, the cheeky type. Just up until now I realised it went deeper than that. I had no idea, but she was actually mad, or I say jealous that I would get approached by or even have conversations with black men.

Tell me if you think Im unreasonable here, but the other night, the guy Im interested in offered to get me a drink, and being silly I said "chop chop", and then "thanks Jeeves", (pretending he was like my butler, because he was being so sweet) and my friend says "Do you know what she just called you? Jeeves means Slave boy" and we all just brushed it off and I rolled my eyes at her, but then other times she would bring things up from the past about my past boyfriend or how I like to get drunk and I carry a bottle around in my bag, which wasnt even at all true! and although she acted as though she might have been joking around I knew she was just trying to cause trouble. And wether the guy took it as a joke or not that will always be in his mind about the things she has said. Turns out, she is not at all a friend, the list is endless, but the whole time she was jealous and I dont no if it was because of her low self esteem, the fact guys tend to use her or that I was a WW with a BM, but I was always there for her and always tried to build her up, when people were all telling me she was only a user. It really hurts how she has pushed people out of her life, and in the end yelling abuse at me as I was a white this that and the other.