Melirosa,
You did the right thing. If people get away with saying things like that out loud once, they will get gutsy and say it all the time, no matter who they are around. This is the 20th century and humans need to stop being so ridiculous and petty and act like they have at least some common sense.

By Mdclady34 (152.163.204.184) on Friday, March 16, 2001 - 09:57 pm:

WOW!I just read all the post on here and I have had my eyes opened.I am 34 and in my first IR realationship.We both work together and that is how we meet.We keep a low profile at work,alot of people we work with know we are together but,we know if it were public notice we would face trouble.We live in Oklahoma and IR realationships are common but,I can't say they are completely accept.We get the stares when we go out and little comments.For the most part I ignore it and really don't give a sh-t what people think of me and my choice of life.
We do keep a low profile at work for my sake because white women do face alot of discrimanation for being with a black man.I don't care but,my man wants to protect me from these kind of actions.I respect him for feeling that way and we live our life in peace and let others deal with how they feel about us on their own.I mean if they want to loose sleep over me and my man being together let them I am sleeping like a baby.
All of you really helped me though to see it is EVERYWHERE and we can not escape this world's stupidty no matter where we live.
Thank you all for sharing.. mdclady34

By Melirosa (208.48.12.163) on Thursday, March 8, 2001 - 05:18 pm:

wyatt-
again thank you for the compliment, you are a sweetheart.

peace and much love-
melirosa

By Wyatt (207.8.207.96) on Thursday, March 8, 2001 - 03:46 pm:

You are the real that I know there is a God. You epitomize what it means to truly be alive. Thinking, feeling, understanding and knowing what is right and what is wrong, no gray areas there. I wished that there were more people like you, who you didn't have to scream, "Wake Up"! Hate takes alot of work, and love can be very easy, if we didn't try so hard to hate others based on color, orientation, religion or social class.

All my love to ya,
Wyatt

By Melirosa (208.48.12.163) on Thursday, March 8, 2001 - 12:44 pm:

wyatt-
i honestly believe that a subject like racism has no place in this world or anywhere else for that matter.that is why i feel so strongly on the subject. my tolerance level for racists and racism in general is ZERO. i think everyone should take a stronger stand on racism and we should have a zero tolerance policy............in a perfect world. change begins with ourselves, to leave it up to someone else, it may never get done. i do not see color in people, i never have, even from the time i was small child. i look at it as a blessing from god because imagine the miserable, hateful existence racists live ever day of their worthless, heartless lives. i would hate to wake up and be one of them. to me that would be the true meaning of hell. thank you, wyatt, for the compliment. i just wish that we could really change how people think.....maybe someday, hopefully in my lifetime.

By Wyatt (207.8.207.96) on Thursday, March 8, 2001 - 11:03 am:

Bravo, Ladies!

I really have great respect for people who don't pretend and give in to the lowest common denominator. It is a breath of fresh air, to know that there are people who stand up in the face of wrong doing and say, "I won't stand for this"! Too many people are afraid of their reputations, their wallets and what others will say, and that is the biggest sin of all. If we had had someone like you, Melirosa, in Nazi Germany or in the American South, we could have stood a chance of real change. But it seems that we have let our guards down, become complacent and let racism grow, and now we need strong, active people like you to wake us all up. I am so proud of a person,lke you. Thank you.

By Melirosa (208.48.12.163) on Thursday, March 8, 2001 - 09:42 am:

ishvara-
hey baby! i missed you too!! girl, i hear you and i understand your frustration and the whole wanting to scream and throw a tantrum thing. when you do,.... and you will, make sure you tell those bigots exactly what is on your mind or you will never forgive yourself. when you have the chance to "enlighten" someone on the subject of something as disgusting and racism, hit them with both barrells, especially when they have no qualms about making their twisted ideas known. i know all of this sounds so so harsh, but like you ishvara, i really can't take it anymore. i have seen and heard so much and i am sickened and disheartened by the whole issue. i worked for a small advertising agency and it was just too personal and everyone knew everyone else's business. girl, if you are experiencing the same thing as i was, GET OUT before the S--- hits the fan. you can only take so much. i hear you though ish.

By Roberto (152.163.201.63) on Wednesday, March 7, 2001 - 06:47 pm:

WOW, GO ON LADY!!!!!

Melirosa: I learned long ago, never argue or pick a fight with a Latina. You will lose. Good Work Lady.

By Ishvara (4.54.118.111) on Wednesday, March 7, 2001 - 05:41 pm:

Melirosa,

Hey girl I missed you. What kind of sh!@ is that! You're so lucky to be able to find your voice and express it. What did you say, how did you make them realize their ignorance?(I can use for future reference :o) Why didn't you get them in trouble with the superiors? Shouldn't they be fired for that? Right? That's what I used to think, but now, I'm really coming to see that it is a white world I live in. I've had it, sick and fed up and must leave my job too, I can't take the atomsphere. Close minded people make me so disgusted I don't want to share the same air either! I just never realized the extent of racism in this country until I entered into my relationship and I'm still reeeling from it and daily trying to find a way to deal. Sometimes I feel so frustrated with the state of affairs, I want to start screaming in rage throwing a tantrum like a child. Perhaps your solution is the one for me, a bigger company equals more diversity so therefore less overt racism.

By Melirosa (208.48.12.163) on Wednesday, March 7, 2001 - 02:01 pm:

hey everyone-
it has been a while,as i have been in a job transition. i just wanted to share an experience that happened at my now previous job. my fiancee had come into town and started picking me up for lunch. one day, after returning from lunch, i was passing by the breakroom where employees often gather and i overheard two fellow employees who are white women discussing the fact that there are "three of them dating N----- now" and they were trying to figure out what was wrong with us and how sick we made them. me, being the person that i am, made it known to them that i heard what they were saying and commenced to telling them about themselves. maybe this was a tad bit unprofessional, but my mouth and my emotions got the best of me and kind of took over and once i got started, it was uncontrollable. i was so very A-N-G-R-Y and insulted and felt as though they had disrespected, demeaned, insulted, downgraded and totally stepped on my fiancee. the fact that they had said something demeaning towards him, i think is what infuriated me the most. i took it very personally, and would have loved nothing more than to have slapped both of them,... BUT... i regained my self control after i set them both a blaze and walked away knowing by the looks on there face that they had absolutely nothing to say and had been made totally aware of there ignorance and shall i say sheer stupidity. needless to say, i no longer work at that job, by personal choice. i can not be around ignorant racist people in a confined office for 9 hours a day, knowing that i am sharing the same breathing space as them. i am now working at a large corporation where there are many, many, people and all very diverse. i realize that in a way i may be "running away" from this type of problem by not staying at that particular job and dealing with these "people" and i know that my encounters with racist comments are far from over, but i can't see having to be in the same building with them day in and day out knowing what i know about them now. i'm just happy to be out.